To think that not hugging isn't that big a deal.

[TennisButterfly]

I keep reading on here that people are desperate to hug their parents other family.

I don't get it.

I just don't think not hugging is that big a deal, you can now visit family and friends. You can sit on the settee and have a cuppa, this is honestly how my visits have always been.

Now don't get me wrong, I love a cuddle but only my DH and my children. I just don't feel the need to hug my mum.

For the vote:
YABU - don't be silly I must hug my parents
YANBU - just spending time together is enough.

@dodgeballchamp

YANBU. I live alone (apart from my 2 dogs) and don’t feel any need to hug or be hugged/touched. I’ve been seeing friends outdoors and that’s enough. I’m not big on physical contact unless it’s someone I’m dating (I’m single as well). I don’t really get all the whinging from people who live alone - didn’t we choose to live alone because we like it? I did!

Not everyone who lives alone chose to do so.

@sixthtimelucky

TennisButterfly

Bloody hell some posters have been so rude to you! I'm not a hugger and I'm bloody relieved I don't have to be touched by colleagues, friends and family anymore. There again I'm a bastard smug married so I'm not allowed to have an opinion. And yes of course I understand that everyone is different and many people have been isolated and desperately want human touch. I know I wouldn't want a hug even if I lived on a desert island for 42 years.

Not half as crass and rude as the OP has been, let alone the abusive comment from her that has been deleted.

Meh. I’m not bothered by the lack of human physical contact. It’s not like it’s forever.
It feels awkward not hugging friends but deep down that’s all a bit wanky anyway. Much prefer a bit of banter than a squeeze.

@sixthtimelucky there is a massive difference between not wanting to hug colleagues or extended family members and not having the option to hug anyone! You are entitled to your opinion but can't you see it's insensitive starting a post like this when you are married and don't have any insight into what it has been like for those of us who have been alone for months.

I’m with you OP.
I’m on my own but don’t miss hugging at all. I have my dogs for that 😊

I am not a hugger, I don't even like the word. But seems more people like hugs than not.

I have 2 little kids who I love to cuddle, but other than that I am really not a hugger. My partner says I was made for social distancing! I'm really close to my parents and still haven't hugged them, but I see them most days now . I guess it depends what is Normal within the family and it must be really hard for people who live alone.

I am so glad I'm no longer expected to hug causal acquaintances if I bump into them in the street or whatever though. I hated that so much!

I don't hug much. I hug my husband and one of my friends.

I am extremely close to my mum but we never hug. My husband's parents are huggers and I used to hate them hugging me.

I understand why others are missing it, but it isn't an issue for me.

This OP is hilarious. Makes ignorant thread, gives rude replies and then flounces off when it isn’t going her way

Nailed it.

Goodness me, mumsnet can be a bitter place.

Says the person who is suprised that people niss hugging you have been judgmental and belittling by insinuating those of us who really miss hugging are the odd ones, when your lack of understanding is beyond pathetic.

I don’t really get all the whinging from people who live alone - didn’t we choose to live alone because we like it? I did!

When my little girl died and my DP left me a few days later having a breakdown, it meant that I was living alone and not through choice. I’m surprised you couldn’t imagine situations where that might happen. “I did!”.

I'm with you OP, don't miss hugging one bit. But i do feel bad my daughter can't hug her grandparents.

I don’t really get all the whinging from people who live alone - didn’t we choose to live alone because we like it? I did!

I chose to live alone, not to be alone 24/7 with no physical contact from anyone. At the time I started to live alone I had no partner. I tried various forms of house-sharing, since they're cheaper, but it drove me nuts. I hated the arguments over kitchen space, the smells, the different bathroom habits, the inability to wander round half-dressed, the landlady who would follow me and turn off lights if you left a room for 5 seconds (FYI, repeatedly turning them on and off isn't good for them) and the continual sense of being on-guard against unwanted interaction.

I like living on my own. I also like the option to go over to my boyfriend's house whenever I feel like it and have a hug, and sex. Lockdown meant I could not do this. Sure, worse things happen at sea, it still wasn't much fun.

I agree OP . I'd no idea all this hugging was going on and I'm a bit baffled by the obsession some people seem to have with it.

I'm not a hugger at all. I've never hugged my parents or sisters ever, it makes me shudder thinking about it. I'm super happy with socially distancing from people

OP, I hope this thread isn’t driven by the one where the grandma isn’t allowed to hold her 4 month old despite shielding for his sake.

Be lucky you have your husband and children to hug and don’t be so insensitive to people who have been isolated during lockdown.

Personally I hate hugging, other than with DH, as I'm just not a tactile person. Not being expected to hug during lockdown has come as a relief to me personally and I'm not looking forward to the return of mandatory social hugging once this is all over, but I seem to be out of step with society these days. YANBU OP, I totally get it, but I think we're in the minority.

I won't be staying any longer as it appears canvassing opinions to gain an understanding of situations different to my own is frowned upon.

You weren't canvassing opinions though, you were being a smug arsehole. Absolutely unable to fathom people might need hugs all the time getting all the hugs and human contact you need at home.

I chose to live alone, not to be alone 24/7 with no physical contact from anyone.

Absolutely this. It is not comparable.

She wasn't being a smug arsehole.

You are being hysterical.

She simply said she didn't get it, she was not 'absolutely unable to fathom people needs hugs'. Not even remotely.

You are being hysterical.

Can we stop with the misogynistic insults? No one has been ‘hysterical’ on this thread.

To all those saying "being single during lockdown is brutal" and other such stuff, nonsense.
I'm single, older and on my own. I'm not a big hugger and have survived lockdown perfectly well. In fact, I'm not at all happy that those of us who live alone are somehow branded as being lonely and hug-desperate individuals. No, we aren't!
I can't see what all the fuss is about to be honest, especially now we can see friends and family again, we just need to be outdoors/distanced etc. No need to hug, it can wait, hugging isn't the be-all and end-all in life at all.
Honestly, such a fuss.....

@sixthtimelucky

She wasn't being a smug arsehole.

You are being hysterical.

She simply said she didn't get it, she was not 'absolutely unable to fathom people needs hugs'. Not even remotely.

Not hysterical at all thanks and, yes, she was being a smug arsehole.

YANBU I'm not a hugger. I can't remember the last time I hugged someone other than my son.