To not want to see DC after holiday abroad with exH

[WearyandBleary]

ExH is taking teen DC to Spain with his partner and her children in two weeks.

AIBU to want him to self isolate with them for at least a week afterwards? I feel sick at the thought of 200 people in a budget airplane there and back and the associated risks.

He said the two week isolation rule has changed and they are coming back to mine from the airport. I am so stressed!

AIBU to want them to self isolate after the flights?

You want to stop your children from coming back to their own home after being away with their dad for 2 weeks!? YABVU. If you are that worried about it, you probably need to get some help for your anxiety.

The rules have changed. He is perfectly entitled to go to Spain and they won't have to isolate afterwards.

Unless you are shielding YABU.

Would they be at less risk on a non-budget airline?

Your children have a right to come home, won’t you have missed them and be looking forward to seeing them?

Are you getting help for your anxiety?

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. Only 1 in 4000 people have Covid now, and the chances of it causing you serious issues even if you get it, are very small unless you’re in an at risk category.
I had it in March and although felt rough for 3 days, it was no worse than a normal flu. I think it’s time people started calming down now tbh.

I feel like you and I understand your worries but the desperation for them to come home to me would outweigh my anxieties - I think!.

I'm with you OP, can't see the harm in being cautious.

Come on OP
This is your children
Unless you are shielding or vulnerable - just suck it up and don’t make life difficult for yourself )or your children)

If you're worried why don't you and your DC self-isolate together when they come back? Surely that would be better than not seeing them for weeks?

Unless you're shielding and high risk then it's bonkers. You won't be seeing your kids for nearly a month!

I think fair enough to want them to isolate for a week at dads but depends on how they & dad want to work it. Can you move out for a week if you're so concerned.

I wouldn't want to go on a plane right now so would rather not have to endure potential consequences!

Planes are not as bad as you might think. The air circulates top to bottom, and is then filtered with filters that should catch the virus, and the filtered air is mixed with new air from outside. I'd be far more worried about a train/bus in this country.

I think you’re jealous that they’re going on holiday

Actually now that I think about it... is this a reverse?

No this is not a reverse. They are teenagers, not small children. Not seeing them for three weeks is hardly terrible!

I am definitely not jealous. I can’t think of anything more grim than travelling for eight hours in a face mask!

@Mumblechum0 Just because you were so lucky does not mean others will be. My friend, healthy, in her early 40s, got it in April and is still suffering. It definitely wasn't like flu (which also kills people). If you've ever had flu, you wouldn't describe it as you have. Perhaps you meant it was like a cold type virus, not flu, which lasts longer than 3 days.
I think too many people are assuming that if some dim politicians deem it safe to go back to normal, the virus has somehow disappeared or lost its power to kill. NOTHING has changed. It's still there. people can still spread it without displaying any symptoms themselves. @WearyandBleary I am on your side.

YANBU if it was my kids they would be staying with him for 7 days afterwards. It his choice to take them it's his responsbilty.
I couldn't give a crap about government guidelines, they told us were weren't to wear masks in the beginning after all.

@Mumblechum0

That figure is of people being tested! We won’t know the real figure as lots of people don’t get tested/ don’t know they have it.

I wouldn’t want my children going on a. Flight at the moment and I’m quite relaxed about the whole Covid thing

Are you particularly vulnerable?

They are teenagers, not small children.

Tbh that changes things slightly.

I’m not particularly vulnerable but I work in the NHS and have seen colleagues extremely ill in ITU.

I have a relative in her twenties who has been very sick for five months with Covid.

It is not always mild flu.

And yes the lack of quarantine is an economic decision isn’t it? Nothing to do with risk.

Are you shielding OP?

Sorry just seen I posted at the same time you responded

I think a whole lot can change in two weeks. I predict that now travel is back on cases will spike like whack-a-mole. I don’t envy separated parenting. I’d be unhappy with them going at all.