To ask how the fuck you do it?

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Im utterly exhausted. I’m barely keeping on top of anything and I don’t know how other people do it.

I work 4 days, DH works FT. Both have fairly responsible jobs but not ‘high flyers’. We’re both wfh and we have two DS - 7 & 2. 7yo has HFA. 2yo likely also has ASD. We had to abandon homeschooling - it was becoming traumatic. 2yo goes to CM Mon - Thurs which is the only bright point some days.

My house is a tip. My diet is a mess. My mental health is shot.

The kids are driving me absolutely mad - there are toys everywhere no matter how much they get taken upstairs. The laundry is making me cry (I’ve done 6 loads in the last 2/3 days).

My garden looks like a jungle.

I clean the kitchen about 3 times a fucking day.

I’m ready to cry.

During lockdown I’ve managed to lose 2 stone (much needed as I am morbidly obese) and I’m constantly trying to deckitter and sort through things but I can’t see an end. There’s always more. More of everything.

I want to run away. I want to go anywhere and be alone and not talk to anyone at all

I don’t know what I want from this thread. Sorry. It’s a ramble.

So glad you're feeling better today. Looking at shit.tip on Instagram has put things into perspective for me. And I've just created a kind of spread sheet showing blocks of time which will hopefully stop me procrastinating chores going on Mumsnet as I can 'see' I do actually have time. But also that I do a lot of stuff which all add up in terms of time. Would be interested in a support thread for sure.

WRT a support thread - did you know there is a whole support section for parents of kids with SN? It's hidden away because total idiots would jump on threads without reading the topic and start ranting about how you just need to discipline them/have you tried a star chart etc etc. But you can opt in by going to Customise and setting it to appear in your active threads :) (Although come to think of it, I haven't seen it for ages, maybe it's broken again ) You can also view threads by going to Topics and finding it that way.

Thanks for mentioning that, I should join there too. I even forget when talking to friends IRL - we home ed our 10yo and most of our friends also home ed their DCs with similar SN. Most of us mums are also autistic/ADHD.

Before you posted this OP, I was very close to posting my own thread with a title like “why do I find everything so bloody difficult” :o

I just want to not stress about it.

I desperately need some space and time for myself right now and I look to have less proverbial balls up in the air right now.

A gardener would probably be a great start. Our outdoor space has been a godsend and it's tiny.

Do review things with your Dr but I think so many of us are right at the very end of what we can handle right now

Just a small update:

Things are much better. I’ve had the cleaner back, DH and I have shared housework better, I’ve got back on top of my diet and I’ve made an effort to get to bed earlier.

DH booked us massages today as a treat and all in all I feel quite positive.

Thank you for all of your support - it was very helpful.

Hi. Just wanted to say I didn’t know joe we do it but somehow we do and just keep on going. I have 2 dc. My youngest who’s 9 is autistic and I’ll be honest, it’s bloody hard work at times. Lockdown has been pure hell and I’m not the same person I was a few months ago. Most people go to work, clean their houses, juggle kids, errands, have other responsibilities etc but throw in a dc with extra needs, it’s a complete and utter game changer and is so much harder.