To be sick of Covid whingers?!

[MissingThePoint1]

I am soooooooo fed up of listening to people moan about covid and what they've 'lost' from their own perspective without seeing the bigger picture.

Maternity leave and pregnancy rights particularly irritate me.. daily I see people moaning and creating petitions to extend maternity leave for those who were effected by covid because it's not fair they've missed out on valuable experiences. I'm not on maternity leave but I do have a 1 year old and it's equally hard to be stuck at home day in day out with him. We miss parks, we miss groups.. how do we get our time back? How can we be compensated?! We can't.. we suck it up and make the best of it.. Same as those on mat leave should.

Moaning about partners not being allowed to appointments, scans, visiting hours etc. I'm pregnant, my husband hasn't been to my scans, I'm having a section so it's likely he won't be at the birth either.. it's shit I agree. But to moan about it. To feel robbed and go on just irritates me.. your moaning you husband can't be at your 12 week scan.. families are missing funerals, missing saying goodbye to loved ones. People are dying alone in hospitals. Being alone for your scan is not huge in comparison. There are extremely clinically vulnerable women needing to access maternity services so why shouldn't be made as safe as physically possible for them. Why can't people accept that?!

I'm disappointed. I thought this pandemic would bring us together, unite us, make people less selfish but I was clearly very naive. Everyone's made sacrifices and everyone has been effected in some way.. why can't people try and see the bigger picture.

@WurraBurra

I couldn’t be bothered to read your full OP as there was too much whingeing in it.

This.

I am sooooooo fed up of listening to people moan....
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I don’t know if it’s fair to write it all off as whinging. My friend gave birth on Friday (Her first) and her husband was allowed to be there during the delivery, but as soon as her baby was born he only got a short time with them before he had to leave and wait to be called to pick her up when she was discharged (which ended up being the next day). I really felt for her being by herself with the baby after a long labour and no visitors allowed. Of course she was very grateful for a healthy baby and she’s ecstatic to be a mum, but I think it’s fair for her to feel her birth experience wasn’t what she was hoping for.

Which hospital is stopping you having your partner at your section? That’s against guidelines I believe...

YABU. People can be sad about their own circumstances while still realising there are others with worse circumstances.

Everytime something big happens and I know this is and it's like people arent allowed to be depressed or fed up?

People have complained about way more than what you've said before covid 19 and we didnt better them.

Everytime we have a disaster and this morning dare to move on the conversation they are slated on social media but life doesnt revolve around one horrible stage.

Lately its like no one is allowed to be depressed because of other people have it worse, if that's the case no one previously should have been depressed???

Jesus, on reading further, there actually are people who 'covid has targeted and made victims'
I'm astounded that this pisses you off.

the bigger picture is - lives have been touched, cruelly and mercilessly. people will fucking complain.

@MissingThePoint1 but the exception to the rule doesn't come into it if you attend your 20 week scan confident because your 12 week scan went so well. So you think ok, I can do this without my partner, but bam the worst possible news and you don't have them with you. It's a travesty that this can happen along with the many other reasons why a woman bringing a life into the world needs her partner / family. My heart goes out to anyone in this position.

We should be allowed to moan and vent, it's not whining. It's the unknown that's the issue.

My son was stillborn three weeks ago and I almost died myself. My mum and husband were allowed at the birth because of the circumstances and my dad was allowed to visit to cuddle the baby.
The Covid ward at the hospital has been empty for weeks and the PPE is “a joke” according to one midwife.
Thank god for kind hearts and a sense of perspective.

Maybe because some people are selfish and lacking empathy, @MissingThePoint1...?

The main thing is - people will feel the way they feel. It’s not really anyone else’s business. And living through a pandemic is stressful, and yes some things have been minor - been sometimes minor things add up. And not everyone’s resilience is the same level.

Feeling upset or angry is not a competition. Say you had a bad day at work because a client was rude to you, and then you got home to have a nice bath and found out the water had been turned off due to works in the area. And then you burnt dinner. Of course in the big scheme of things it’s a small thing, at least you have a job!! At least they have a roof over your head!! At least they can normally access water!! Well yes of course - but that doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to feel annoyed with how their day went.

It’s the same as a pandemic really. Just because you’ve not got sick, or lost someone close, or fallen into financial hardship from Covid - doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to feel stressed or angry that you’ve lost a chunk of the year, or your kids are wound up without their routine, or had to postpone your wedding, or go to your pregnancy scan alone. What might seem like complaining could be people struggling, it seems unfair to write them all off as whingers. It’s not always as simple ‘well I’m getting on with it, they should too!’ because your experiences aren’t universal.

But obviously I was on my own and completely blindsided when they told me he had died.

@Giespeace so sorry to hear that

God yeah! DD has been seriously ill with ME for four and a half years. So people can genuinely stick their whingeing about 4 months' missed education, not being able to work, and being stuck at home for 3/4 months right up their jacksies. Really at the moment the only things I have a listening ear for are when people have lost a loved one or they're worried because they're not recovering from covid. Everything else can do one.

Giespeace I'm sorry that my post crossed with yours.

Maybe this should be a lesson to you that, NOT EVERYONE FEELS THE SAME AS YOU. YOU ARE NO MORE SPECIAL THAN ANYONE ELSE.

I totally disagree. I think having the odd whinge or moan helps to unite some as it helps people realise that everyone has been affected in some way by this dreadful virus, no matter how big or small.

I totally agree with you that my pregnancy being affected pales in comparison to the losses that many have felt such as losing loved ones and not being able to say goodbye. However, that doesn't mean it hasn't affected me at all. As a first time mum, I've felt very overwhelmed having to attend scans by myself, especially when before my 20 weeks scan I was told there was a chance baby might not be growing properly. I went to that scan feeling scared and alone even though my loving DH was wonderful, not having him there was not the same. I feel for him as this is a much planned for baby that we have been excited about for years. Now that it's happened, he cannot share in some of the most magical moments and we may not get another chance. It does fell like something has been snatched from us.

We would never go around moaning to all and sundry about this, but your post implies that we should just suck it up and not care about these lost experiences. To me that's more divisive than inclusive and "coming together".

Totally agree with what you said @Sparklesocks

So true, can you get that rat haired whinger Dr Sarah Jarvis off the telly too.

I think it’s how you want to see it. Some people pulled together, some people did their own thing and some people said fuck you all - what did you expect?

Who the hell are you, OP, to sit in judgement about what people are or aren't allowed to feel upset about?

maxnormal you took the words right out of my mouth...

To be fair maybe people will realise that some of these services are a luxury and won’t take them for granted in future.

I’d would have been happy to be on a ward with no visitors for some peace and quite with the baby. I’d have been happy to attend appointments alone - these are to check on the health of the baby and mother and not essential for dads. It’s a nice to have.

My grandmother lived through 5 years of war in the teen years, 4/5 months is nothing and you still have food and entertainment, you can still contact relatives and share video calls. You can still post gifts and share memories.

Think about what matters and what you have not what you haven’t.

Giespeace so so sorry for you loss x

I really don't give a toss about your whining and it's affected not effected. You are a really big whinger and you have the cheek to tell others not to whinge. Get a grip you whining child.