To be sick of Covid whingers?!

[MissingThePoint1]

I am soooooooo fed up of listening to people moan about covid and what they've 'lost' from their own perspective without seeing the bigger picture.

Maternity leave and pregnancy rights particularly irritate me.. daily I see people moaning and creating petitions to extend maternity leave for those who were effected by covid because it's not fair they've missed out on valuable experiences. I'm not on maternity leave but I do have a 1 year old and it's equally hard to be stuck at home day in day out with him. We miss parks, we miss groups.. how do we get our time back? How can we be compensated?! We can't.. we suck it up and make the best of it.. Same as those on mat leave should.

Moaning about partners not being allowed to appointments, scans, visiting hours etc. I'm pregnant, my husband hasn't been to my scans, I'm having a section so it's likely he won't be at the birth either.. it's shit I agree. But to moan about it. To feel robbed and go on just irritates me.. your moaning you husband can't be at your 12 week scan.. families are missing funerals, missing saying goodbye to loved ones. People are dying alone in hospitals. Being alone for your scan is not huge in comparison. There are extremely clinically vulnerable women needing to access maternity services so why shouldn't be made as safe as physically possible for them. Why can't people accept that?!

I'm disappointed. I thought this pandemic would bring us together, unite us, make people less selfish but I was clearly very naive. Everyone's made sacrifices and everyone has been effected in some way.. why can't people try and see the bigger picture.

[FilthyforFirth]

Thank you for the links @Namesgonenow, they are incredibly useful.

ODFO OP. I am 20 weeks pregnant and whilst I am sad DH cant come to scans, I am more terrified about birth. And I will fucking moan about it if I want to. I had a section last time and DH stayed in a private room with me. I couldnt do anything for DS apart from feed/cuddle once he was passed to me. How the hell will I now do that on my own? Who are you to tell me I am not allowed to complain about that.

Women, especially pregnant women are treated like shit in this country. I am livid.

[trappedsincesundaymorn]

I'm sorry OP but who are you to decide what others should be feeling? If people are upset about their own lives then that's absolutely their right to be so. It's not the moanolympics, there are no medals to be won for who has had the worst time or who is having the worst time. Most are getting on with things the best way they know how and if it helps to have a good old whine about their life then that's fine. You crack on with your own life OP and let others crack on with theirs.

[dobbyssoc]

Sorry OP but I think you are being very unreasonable.
If it was my first baby especially I would be upset that my partner couldn't be involved etc not to mention scared!
My particular issue has been the idea that you would need to go back to work but if you've been on mat leave you haven't been able to visit nursery's/childminders in order to get a childcare place. I had lots of visits planned for the end of March ready for my start this month but haven't been able to attend therefore now don't have any childcare!

[orangesandapplesandpearsohmy]

Everyone has the right to feel anxious or annoyed or left out or lonely or whatever it is. It’s not a one puma ship game. No matter what someone has been through in life, there will always be someone that’s has a worse experience - and doing the ‘well my mothers DEAD so be glad you have a mother at all’ when someone whines about their mom etc doesn’t help anyone.
So yeah, some people are upset that they can have their partner at the babyscan, and can’t share that moment with them. Is it the end of the world? No, unless of course the scan shows something awful. But is there any point in yelling ‘people are dying!’ ‘Families can’t go to funerals!’ At them? No.
There’s enough compassion to go round. Or there should be.