Fed up with MIL calling to the house non stop

[Rosiebelle17]

Hi I’m ready to explode
My mother in law calls non stop in person over 5/6 times every day
She calls at meal times bed times etc and will not go away , she calls when I have my own family and will not go away
I have tried pulling all the blinds but she keeps knocking and calling out
She knows I’m there as she sees my car outside the house
Someone please help me
I have two kids under 3 and the disruption is causing havoc
I asked my husband to tell her politely but he goes off on a rant that he will tell her stay away for good

Why does your housework get pushed back? Do you feel compelled to stop and host her? Making polite chit-chat etc?

Just... don't. If you absolutely can't keep her out of the house (which would be my solution), carry on with exactly what you were about to do anyway. Do the hoovering around her if necessary.

Hi yes when she’s there I feel I have to make tea etc .... I got no visit today so maybe it’s over
Or maybe it’s just too early yet 😩

Stop making her tea!

How about getting a high fence around your whole property. Have a locked gate at front with camera door bell. That you can switch the sound off too? Then she can buzz all she wants and eventually buzzes off?

That's promising, OP. Hope you get more days with no visits from her!!

@draughtycatflap

Could you turn her favourite chair into a giant mousetrap?

Aren't they called deckchairs??

How awful and your DH needs a kick up the arse.

Stop making tea, stop pandering.

If she is coming over to see the grandchildren arrange to drop them to hers for the day a couple of days a week and have a nice day off to yourself. If she's going to make a nuisance of herself you might as well utilize her.

If she complains, just say: well.surely that's why you keep coming over, it can't be just to inconvenience me?

You need to move and your husband needs to cut the apron strings... it's pathetic.

We lived in an upstairs flat. Dh put a huge non opening baby gate at the top!!
Ils couldn't get over!! They sometimes shouted up hello when out walking the ddog. I made regular weekly visits to them... They still saw dgc but on my terms. They /sil practically lived in each other's pockets. Not the life for me ta!!

@diddl
Or beanbags🤗

So she came over again, and you still didnt say anything???

I didn’t get a visit today 👏

Blimey, long may this last! 🙏

You may have to kill her

I wonder if MIL thinks she's punishing you by not calling? Wouldn't that be a hoot?

When she calls unannounced, is there any reason why you have to let her in? In the evenings in particular, surely you can say "Sorry, really bad time, see you another time" and close the door?

@squiglet111

Stop making her tea!

How about getting a high fence around your whole property. Have a locked gate at front with camera door bell. That you can switch the sound off too? Then she can buzz all she wants and eventually buzzes off?

along with the high fences around the house i'd have the barbed wire, search lights and water gun towers installed.

@DuineArBith you missed the bit where she knocks on the windows and the toddlers get excited and then she goes round the back and knocks on those windows?

But yes, let's hope she is thinking "I won't go round any more, that'll show them".

I’d also be tempted to just leave the door unlocked, let her walk in then completely ignore her except for saying “Hi”. Let her sit on the couch. Take the kids to the garden or upstairs for a bath, to the table for dinner or whatever.

In other words, take complete control of your children and continue on with doing what you would normally do with them as if she is not there. I don’t mean not speaking to her, but don’t let her interfere with your normal routine/parenting.

I’d even tell her, you’re welcome to sit but we’re going to play, eat, bathe, put them down for bed, etc.

This reminds me of everybody loves raymond, feel for you OP! :(

No visit either today 😊
However the good has been taken as my pet cat got killed on the road today

Oh no I’m so sorry.☹️

😢 So Sorry x

Oh so sorry about your cat?

I'm so sorry about your cat, Rosiebelle. I lost one in the same way this year. Aw that is sad.

Sooo your mil comes over all tf time. And you don't want her too. But you also haven't told her this..

So basically you are doing this to yourself. Put your big girl panties on and tell her 'no'. Stop hiding in your own home. Come out and set her straight.

Oh so sorry about your cat. Not sure why there was a ? in there...