Putting his hands around my neck... 3 strikes and you’re out?

[Smellbellina]

He has done it twice so far, only left red marks. I have told people, they have asked I call police and given me details of a solicitor. I have a 3 strikes option in my head, this was strike 2, I have told more people this time (including his family) mine don’t like my position but accept it and have offered to pay for a solicitor.
3 strikes, AIBU?
I haven’t name changed for this as I don’t see why I should, it’s not my dirty secret to keep.

One and done, see you later motherfucker.

You deserve better.

As someone who was nearly killed by a partner twice, leave now

One strike and he's gone on my book.

Get out now

@Smellbellina

What's keeping you with him? What's stopping you leaving?

Honestly? I don’t want to go in rented accommodation again. I want to be able to stay in the house we own with our children and without the fear of what he might do next. But I don’t know how to achieve that. When the chips are down you lots of parents choose a roof over their children’s heads and a situation they hope they can ‘manage’ over unreliable housing I think

A roof over your head isn't much good when you're dead. It's not much good for your children when their mother has been murdered by their father. Just think about how to escape. The 3 strikes thing doesn't matter. He knows that you'll keep forgiving him. He's lost control and is breaching any "boundaries" you might have. How will you manage a situation when you're dead and your children are in care.

During a row. He went to the shop to get veg for dinner and it made him angry. WTF!!!

Your daughter has been taught by her dad that it is ok to assault or even strangle women without consequences. What kind of man do you think she will end up with?

You’ll end up a small article in a local newspaper, OP. It is HARD to leave. It is harder to live like that and teaching your kid that life is shit like that and she just needs to put up with it. Please leave. Permanently. The freedom you’ll have a year from now will be worth every bit of inconvenience and heart ache.

Yes you are being a twat, get the fuck away from this bastard and press charges please

Please leave, OP. You're a familiar name on here and I'm very worried for you, as are all the other posters on here. You are not safe. Please don't wait for him to do it again.

Christ he does it to the dog too ... the dog can't even decide to rehome himself ...

I normally don't post on dv as I'm not experienced, but this is so horrid.

What will it take for you to leave? Could a poster report him for you?

So sorry to be blunt, but what good will it do you to stay at your house, if you are dead or your dc suffer immeasurably?

Get out now, please leave and do go back.

It is easy for us all on here to tell you what to do. My Mum stayed with my father who beat her, he finally left her and moved onto someone else. I as an adult look at that and wonder why she didnt leave. Your DD will be terribly affected by what she witnessed and you may need to focus your energy on her rather than yourself as she may be the trigger to make you leave. How will you feel when she brings home a man that does the same to her....

In front of your daughter?
Seriously let your friends help and go now. You posted as you know it’s wrong and want help to leave. Huge well done for telling people and realising as you said it’s not your shame it’s his. That was such a big step, well done for taking it.

DON'T go back

He strangles the dog as well? What the hell are you living with OP? He sounds deranged and you are allowing him to live with your children. What are you going to do when he hurts them to get at you?

Better in rented accomodation than your kids in foster care, you dead and him in prison, choose your poison carefully xx

year alone

Oh god, once it’s too much, why oh why are you waiting for three!!

One strike is too many. Please get out before it happens again.

I'm shocked at what I have read ....

He does it to the dog too.
Please get out, take the kids, take the dog. Jesus christ. Jesus fucking christ

You have to leave for the sake of your children. Many families live in cramped, rented, accommodation and the children grow up happy and unscarred. I’m not sure that any child grows up undamaged after living with domestic violence. You say you have family willing to pay for a solicitor. So you gave options. You are not trapped. You can walk out tomorrow with your children and drive to a family members home and you can report him.

My concern right now is with your children and the dog. If you won't leave then at least let your children and dog go and live with grandparents where they are safe. It would be better that they were safe with you away from this man but if you won't leave then at least let them be safe.

They don't need to see you or the dog be hurt any more. Remember they are victims not just witnesses.

So you’ll be happy for your daughter to be with someone who attempts to strangle her? Good, cos that’s the likely outcome for her. For you, you may not be around to see it. How does that sound?

And he also abuses your dog? And you stay so you don’t go into rented? Fuck me hour bar is low

Your bar