I'm at the beach on my own and self conscious ..aibu?

[happyclappyc]

So it's a gorgeous hot day,I've came to the beach on my own and I'm ridiculously self conscious
Aibu and a bit silly ?
I a mid 30s woman and I'm worried

What would you think if you saw someone on their own on the beach op?

It seems a very bizarre thing to be s/c about.

I live at the sea-side and it is normal to see people on the beach alone.

It wouldn't occur to me to consider that they are lonely. They might be loving the freedom - or they might just be sitting with the belongings of others.

It would be too ordinary a sight to leave me speculating.

Stop stressing and embrace the moment. You came into this world on your own, will hopfully go out on your own so just enjoy the solo moments inbetween.

No one thinks you are loser, OP. Most will be jealous for having a lovely time on your own. Why do you care what others think anyway?

@Megatron I think it's a very human struggle,, especially for women. I still fall back to old thought patterns sometimes but remembering that quote always works wonders for my self confidence.

OP just enjoy. You have made me realise I have never been on a beach on my own and I am hugely envious.

@Tish008

I've just sent it to a friend of mine who is struggling at the moment. 😊

I'd love that! Enjoy!

I dearly love my DH and my dc, but 3 months of lockdown is making me crave alone time.

Any glances you do get will be pure envy, I'm sure!

Why would you go to a beautiful quiet beach and play music out loud for the world to hear? I hate this.

Why are people so keen to assume the worst? I'm assuming the OP is listening to music on headphones.

I do a huge amount by myself, I love it!

@happyclappyc

So it's a gorgeous hot day,I've came to the beach on my own and I'm ridiculously self conscious Aibu and a bit silly ? I a mid 30s woman and I'm worried

So jealous

I used to do loads of stuff by myself, until DP and DD came along. Once you get in to the swing of it, you’ll stop feeling self conscious. No one will even notice. Enjoy your day (jealous)!

Lucky you!

I used to be self conscious about this kind of thing, I wouldn't even go clothes shopping by myself. Now I love it, it's so nice to not have to worry about another person for a change.

I am self conscious on my own too
It's bad enough when I am in swimsuit with my husband
I relate
But I never ever ever look at anyone by themselves and think how weird xx

Being on my own on an empty beach is my idea of heaven. Enjoy it!

OP, you sound like my sister. She can't go to the toilets in a pub by herself.

I recognise it, but I don't get it.

I'm on my own at a beach at the moment and it wouldnt cross my mind to feel self conscious! I've gone solo travelling quite a few times accross Asia, India and europe and love a bit of time on my own. No one will think anything of it!

Now I'm reading this and wondering if I'm the weird one! Ì have lots of friends but equally if I want to pop into town clothes shopping I just go without the need to ask people to come with me, if I'm going to the gym or for a coffee I'll go alone. Sometimes I go with other people it just depends how I'm feeling! I'm surprised theres so many people who dont do this. If I'm around people 24/7 I just want to scream

Exactly what I'll be doing tomorrow; enjoy it!!

Relax and enjoy the beach. Whenever we go on holiday I always see solo people at the beach, don't feel self conscious. In fact I'd love to be at the beach alone right now

I love, love, love being by myself.

I honestly can’t think of anything better than your situation right now. Please relax and enjoy it.

For yourself obvs. But also on behalf of those of us for whom being alone is a distant dream right now.

Enjoy it. There were loads of people on the beach near me yesterday - swimming, sunbathing, eating ice creams - like normal but less crowded. Nothing for you to worry about. The sea washes the beach every day with salt water. :)

Sounds like utter bliss.

I'm currently working in a spare bedroom in our too hot attic conversation while my 3yo screeches "mummy!!!!!" From downstairs even though my DH is right next to him.

So jealous

Gosh looks heavenly.

I went backpacking around a couple of continents years ago. I saw some amazing cities and countries but I still remember jumping in the waves by myself.

Absolutely no difference to sitting in the park by yourself. Completely normal :)

Lucky you, ours are bloody heaving today! Going to go down later when hopefully some of the day trippers will have gone home.