I'm at the beach on my own and self conscious ..aibu?

[happyclappyc]

So it's a gorgeous hot day,I've came to the beach on my own and I'm ridiculously self conscious
Aibu and a bit silly ?
I a mid 30s woman and I'm worried

Oh I was wondering whether it was because you were on your own without a friend or on your own on a deserted beach - I wouldn't care about the former but am happier if there are a few more people around.

Just enjoy

There is no one there to see you

And if there was they would think

lucky lady
having some time to herself

Enjoy whilst it lasts. The beaches near where I live will be heaving now lockdown has been eased.

Nothing wrong with going out on your own. I do it all the time and so does many people.

I’m baffled. Why would anyone think you were a loser just because you’re alone?

It wouldn't even cross my mind to worry about this I see plenty of people on their own on the beach.

Or go sit next to the other people and start a conversation...

Wait
Surely that would be more crazy? Than staying in your space

I would love to be able to sit on a beach on my own. I dont sunbathe but I do love to just sit and look.
If I saw a woman on her on I would think how lucky she was to be able to do that with no calls on her time. I wouldnt think it was odd in any way.

Strangely though I would no more go and sit on a riverbank ( unless it was a paved area with proper seating) than I would sit down in the middle of the road. No logic to it but I would feel weird doing it.

But no matter where there should be zero music for anyone else to hear! Headphones are a great invention though.

I'm worried people might think I'm a looser being on my own.

Is that what you think when you see people alone? That's pretty sad.

God op you lucky sod

Enjoy the time to yourself.

Oh it looks beautiful. I'm envious. Can you say where you are? Not too specifically if you'd rather not, obvs.
I love doing things on my own. Enjoy your book and your music and the peace!

It looks fabulous. I'd be at the beach like a shot if I lived near enough to one.

I hope you’re having a lovely time OP. I had planned a swim today (hoping beach would be quiet as its rainy here) but DS informed me he has a parcel coming & was heading out himself

I used to go to the beach a lot by myself, its very calming

That looks a fab beach, enjoy relaxing. I wouldn't have earphones on though so you are aware of who's around you. Wouldn't occur to me to think anyone alone is a loser. I've gone to restaurants and the cinema alone.

happyclappyc
you do know you have to tell us where that beach is!

People will think you're carefree and be very jealous (like me). But who cares what they think! Enjoy.

When I feel like this I always put myself on the other end. If you were walking down the beach you wouldn't give a second thought to anyone else there would you? It's highly likely they aren't taking notice of you either.

I used to be like this and then I realised I actually enjoy being on my own. I love going to a cafe or the park with a book and letting life happen around me. The time I felt most self conscious was eating in a restaurant alone but then I realised no one cared or was even looking at me. People on some level are naturally self absorbed.

Just enjoy it. I used to live right next to the beach I often used to go during the week on my own. I miss being by the sea though I love where I live now.

Is this a 'stealth boast' ????

I had an hour or so on my own the other day (at last). I cleaned the bathroom. Seriously, yours is the better option. Enjoy.

Other people don't think about you half as much as you seem to think about them thinking about you! They have their own shit to think about - including worrying about what you're thinking about them - and that's enough to fill their minds.

You'll never see something like 90% of people again, so really who cares if the odd one makes a judgement in that instance. They'll have forgotten it in 2 minutes anyway.

I go to the beach alone all the time. I'm usually walking though because I don't like lying on the sand. Don't be self conscious.

Put your bloody phone down and relax.

Oh my god, if anyone looks at you OP it will be in total jealousy at your comparative freedom! I haven’t had a moment on my own for 3 months. We are coping fine but I long for the day I can do exactly what you’re doing. You’re in a beautiful little spot but frankly I’d look at a blank wall for 5 hours if I could do it on my own. And I wouldn’t give a stuff who saw me and judged me.

Seriously, enjoy the tranquility. It looks awesome.

I am SO jealous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am homeschooling and it is 30c, just about to jack it in for the day before I completely lose the will to live! Have fun op!!