I'm at the beach on my own and self conscious ..aibu?

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So it's a gorgeous hot day,I've came to the beach on my own and I'm ridiculously self conscious
Aibu and a bit silly ?
I a mid 30s woman and I'm worried

Here's the thing. Most people literally do not give a shit what you're doing or who you're doing it with. You're the centre of your own universe and not theirs.

Also should any of them think you are a loser - so? What would happen if they did?

Where are you? Asking for a friend...

Why would you go to a beautiful quiet beach and play music out loud for the world to hear? I hate this.

Enjoy the natural sounds. We lived for a while in Pembrokeshire and there'd always be some idiot who'd walk half an hour across country to get to a quiet beach and then blast out their music for everyone in the area to hear. It's a horrible thing to do. Enjoy the peace, enjoy the birds and the waves.

Why would you go to a beautiful quiet beach and play music out loud for the world to hear? I hate this.

I would give the OP the benefit of the doubt and assume she is wearing headphones.

Otherwise, no, just no!

Are you an extrovert, OP, or used to doing things with other people? If you are, that's why you feel a bit weird being on your own.

Please know that there's nothing strange about it, and you're the envy of pretty much everyone who has commented on this thread!

I live close to a beach like this, but unfortunately not close enough to get there without driving or using public transport, so it's not an option for me at the moment. Enjoy it!

@Shedbuilder I'm sure the OP will be using headphones and not at the beach with an 80s style ghetto blaster.

(I think she is inviting us there for a little company )
Op the only looks you will get are those of envy (who is that cool glamourous woman by herself & no blinking kids)
Or are you boasting?

You are only being unreasonable if you don’t tell me where this beach is so I can see if I can get there in a reasonable timeframe!

As to being alone, it’s a dream come true! Enjoy

Sounds like heaven, enjoy.
I'm sunbathing in the garden, on here and reading.

Camber sands?!

Ever since I was a kid I always did things on my own - went to the beach, the library, on a bike ride. I’d feel completely comfortable until other people turned up. It’s probably natural. Most lone animals would be suspicious if they encountered other animals.

It’s natural to feel a bit uncomfortable. Shake it off and enjoy your day!

I'm worried people might think I'm a looser being on my own

Well if they do,stuff 'em, they're just envious! Spent many happy hours on the beach on my own. And many other places.

It must be an 3xtrovert thing thinking being alone somewhere = looser. I revel in my own company. Utter bliss, gorgeous beach alone! Anyway it's still early it will soon be cramped with people.

Loser ughhh

Sorry, but you sound slightly unhinged, definitely overthinking it. Just enjoy your time there. And for what it's worth, I don't suppose a single other person is even looking at you!

Looks lovely, I used to live near the beach and my favourite thing was to go on my own, no endless buying ice creams, 'come for a paddle', 'help me build a sandcastle', reapplying sun cream, sorting picnics, playing endless ball games - being on your own is perfect.

Sadly I don't live near a beach now but I frequently (before lockdown) spent my free time on my own at the local Lido. Love it.

If I see someone enjoying time on their own I don't think loser.

I think lucky dog to have the opportunity to enjoy something special.

I think there is someone confident and happy in their own skin.

I think there is someone with enough inner resources to enjoy their own company and entertain themselves.

Enjoy your day OP, I wish I was on a beach too, I 've got other plans today, but maybe tomorrow.....

I thought you was concerned being a lone woman and worried about safety. If there's other people in the distance they're not going to be concerned about you.

There's a few people further along but I have loads of space to myself.

People are more egocentric than you think. They're mostly thinking about themselves, they're not that interested in you.

I go to the beach alone all the time. Take my headphones and my flask and just sit for hours. Nobody ever cares and just get the odd nod and hello from passing dog walkers. Enjoy.

OP , I live right by the beach but it can't be where you are as mine is a pebbled one....so I often go for a wander along the seafront and end up on the beach on my own. No need to be self conscious , people are just there to enjoy themselves not to watch what other people are doing so enjoy it while you can

There nothing sad about being alone. It’s lovely! I’d kill for a couple of hours on the beach with a shit magazine.

People won't be judging or noticing but I know what you mean. If you were walking a dog, cycling or running then you wouldn't think twice. You are "walking" or "sitting" on the beach which should be just as much of a winner's activity than anything else. Enjoy!

Please don't turn the music up.
other people will hear the noise from a distance and it's very very annoying.
Do you not have headphones?

OP, do you see people on their own out walking, in a café, at the cinema and think 'What a loser?'

If not, why would others think it about you?

People do things on their own because they enjoy it, or because they have no choice. Neither makes them losers.