Too old for a baby

[MummyIWantItNow]

I really want to try for another baby. I'm just 44 now, with a 4yo dd.
DP thinks we're too old. I don't. AIBU?

All my family save for my gf are very long lived (and with no fundamental health issues)

My gm is in her 100s and is still alive.
Both my parents are still alive.

that's amazing and I'm glad for your family but it's certainly not the norm, not in this country anyway. I think the OP has a lot to think about but ultimately its irrelevant by the sounds of it anyway as her husband isnt interested. he gets over riding say

Iversmummy that's my point. Do you know any woman who had chose to have a child in or over 45 who had parents die while she was still young? I dont, the three friends of mine who had a baby 45+ have have parents alive and well, in their 70s and 80s. Of course people live into their 90s well but not many.

People who have had the responsibility of parental illness and death at a young age ( pre 25) do not willingly make this a more statistically possibility for their child, which if you have a child 45 plus is exactly what you are doing.

I have a friend who’s family never make it beyond 70 at the very oldest and struggle for a lot to make it to 60.

Friend decided to not try for a baby beyond the age of 30 because that would have been too old.

I think the whole family only ate vegetables (sprouts) on their Christmas dinner and fruit and salad was an alien concept along with sun screen

The thing was at 30, health wise she was too old.