Close friend ended friendship due to 'difference in morals'

[Unpopularopinion1]

Name changed. I'm really hurt by what's happened, and I'm struggling with being told my opinions, which I've never thought are anything too uncommon, are that 'disgusting' (her words) that she cannot continue the friendship. We had a disagreement about a certain subject, which led to her blocking me. A few days later she unblocked me and attacked me with all these messages about different topics, asking me outright what I think as some sort of test, before concluding my answers weren't good enough for her high standards.

AIBU for thinking two close friends, of decades, should be able to have different opinions without cutting ties? I'm not sure I have any choice but to let it go. I'm just angry.

She sounds like a mean girl at high school...if you don't agree with everything l say, you can't be in my gang! Sorry OP but l think you are better off without her. You can vote for who you want - goodness if we all thought the same, how dull life would be. Got a feeling you won't be the last person she unfriends if she expects everyone to share her views!

I have a friend who is very anti-abortion and post some very emotive stuff on her FB.

The vast majority of my friends, both on Facebook and in real life, are vehemently anti abortion. If I cut everyone out of my life who shared anti abortion articles on Facebook I would have no one left.

TalkingtoLangClegintheDark
I applaud you and your post!

OP could you be more open minded and consider her option might have some value?

Or alternatively her friend could be more open minded and consider that the OP's opinion might have some value.

@LavenderLilacTree

OP could you be more open minded and consider her option might have some value?

It doesn't sound like it's the OP who is the one who has problems with understanding that people can have different opinions. What do you think the OP should do? Beg forgiveness and promise never to have a thought that is not pre-approved by her "friend" ever again?

She sounds very childish. Calling you a Tory because you're not a Corbyn supporter is ridiculous. I have very strong political views, but I'd never behave how she has.

Strange that your viewpoints are so different to the point it's frankly amazing you were friends in the 1st place. You've really packed everything into your post. All the current issues...

Any racist homophobic or transphobic comments that may arise from this should be reported.

I think it’s sad when long running friendships terminate. We get along with people for years. We weather ups and downs. What we see now is absolute intolerance of any other point of view. So much so, that friendships mean nothing. If we question something or challenge an assumption, we are automatically wrong and have questionable morals.

It’s easy for pp to say you are better off without this friend, but rejection hurts. Rejection after years of friendship is very hurtful. I suspect she’s changed. I suspect if you went back 10 years she wasn’t so engaged with her own morals. It’s not easy to gauge where people are going to end up on their personal crusades. In factions I suspect with similar echo chamber friends. Actually, that’s dangerous. Everyone should be challenged to substantiate their views. They should not expect blind obedience from others.

I do hope you have plenty of other friends. You need them right now and I wish you well.

GCA: The Twitler Youth.The modern day equivalent of those young nazis who turned in their family members, friends and teachers

You are SO right!

@Unpopularopinion1

Lavender Its not like she really gave me a chance to do that. There was no explaining, as I said in a previous post if I'd really missed the mark then educate me, don't assassinate my character on the internet then block all communication

I think your ‘friends’ behaviour is awful. I have similar views to you - I am concerned about the economic impact of this. It’s because of the impacts it will have in 2/5/10 years time which could have as much impact on lives as Covid 19 e.g. in services being cut etc. That doesn’t mean I’m putting economics above lives, it’s just because I can hold two -potentially opposing- views in my brain at the same time. If everything was that simple life would be easy.

I’ve quoted you, not getting at you, but because I hate the phrase ‘educate me / you’ as it is so one way. What happened to discussion, critical thought and analysis? She didn’t listen to you and your experience - and yes becoming a mother / parent does change your view. Why is her view more valid?

I wouldn't be crying if I were you, she sounds a "delightful friend" you could do without. You don't need to have your opinions or feelings approved by anyone, we all have differences of opinion and conforming to popular opinion if you do not wholly agree to it means that you are just weak and seek approval from your peers rather than hold your own mind.
Social media is the downfall of many, most who seek approval, applause or virtue signal to others for that virtual " pat on the back."
Keep your chin up and know that your opinion should matter to you and no one else.
A true friend could and would respect your differences in thought and not force you to follow the masses.

People who will not listen to another argument want the echo chamber for their views. That’s all they want. They only want people who agree with them. All other views are blocked out. It’s not healthy and it’s not intelligent I’m afraid. It’s worrying that so many people do it.

She sounds like a bandwagon jumping , virtue signalling, ignorant and unthinking catchphrase quoting easily swayed bully, and a fucking piece of shot who you’re better off without

You haven’t done anything wrong and I agree with you tbh . Let her go , she doesn’t sound well .
One of my dearest friends is a born again Christian, DUP voting, pro life , thinks homosexuality is against God’s will person ...but we don’t discuss these things as she knows my views on them are the opposite to hers and I can be very vocal . I don’t dwell on it and I don’t blame her as she’s a product of her upbringing . She has led an incredibly sheltered life and has never even tasted alcohol . She’s fab though and I genuinely love her to bits .

@TalkingtoLangClegintheDark

Genuinely the best post I think I’ve ever read. Thank you.

You have my sympathies Op. I consider myself a very tolerant, live and let live kind of person but I agree with JK Rowling - I'm too scared to say anything these days lest I'm called a bigot

I think your better off without her. She sounds a bit unhinged.

Is this a new way to starting an anti trans thread by stealth?

Just calmly challenge her to substantiate her beliefs
Or maybe don't even bother?

She sounds dreadful. I agree with you OP.

@TalkingtoLangClegintheDark oh wow that's the best I've ever seen the problem articulated. Thank you.

What has changed for her? Has she always held these views or is it a recent change?

It sounds like you are better off without her tbh. I think most people are worried about our economy, that does not mean you are not also worried about so many people dying. I have not been on a BLM demonstration, it does not mean I don't care though. I am sure you can find some nicer friends.

This is a fine example for why I avoid Facebook as much as possible.

I don't agree with you on the subject, but I don't think the way she went about it was reasonable. At all.

If she can't see past your views then she should have just distanced herself after saying so - blocking and then unblocking you to tear into your other views was unnecessary. I have ended friendships because someone held views about important subjects that I found incompatible with my own (racism, etc) but you can do so gracefully. She was rude.