Would this bother you? Food related

[UnfinishedSymphon]

Or am I just too picky?

Whenever DP has a roast dinner, he'll put his gravy on and then mash his roast potatoes and veg together into one big pile in the middle of the plate. He'll then douse it in more gravy and mash it some more.

Don't get me wrong, I love my gravy and have quite a bit but i think it just looks soooo wrong when he does this, even more so when we have Sunday lunch out.

[Zaphodsotherhead]

I think @QueenArseClangers has it. For me it made my XH seem like a baby, who eats for pure nutrition and not to enjoy the flavour.

I never commented (other than to ask why he did it - he didn't know), but it was offputting.

I didn't divorce him for this, but for generally treating me like his mummy, even when we had five kids. So maybe the food thing was a forerunner.

[Iwalkinmyclothing]

Wouldn't bother me. Chewing with his mouth open, talking with his mouth full, that sort of thing bothers me, but this? No, and I think it's weird to care.

[AppleJane]

Apparently there's a reason why we get annoyed when we can hear other people eating (usually when we're not)

It's a primordial thing - jealousy that they have food and you don't.

I never get bothered by how people enjoy my food but if it's taken me a long time to bake and they woof it down quick without touching the sides it irritates me. Savour it, enjoy it!

[WinningEveryDay]

Weird thing to be annoyed by. I'll mash my food together sometimes and sometimes (gasp!) I'll just have a bowl of mash with gravy and mix it completely together so it's like a thick soup and eat it with a spoon.

[UnfinishedSymphon]

Those saying it wouldn't bother you if he/she did it at home but it would if you were out...why?

[Moveslikejagger1]

@Zaphodsotherhead I think you’re reading way too much into this. Must tell my husband now that he needs to divorce me as my mashing food is a precursor for how I won’t be able to help myself treating him like a parent even when we have kids. And apparently he will start to see me as a baby 😂😂😂😂

Have none of you having a panic attack over tjis ever eaten a pasta bake? You know where you put chicken peppers chorizo garlic tomato sauce and pasta all together in a tray and mix it all round. Then you eat a spoon of it and get some pasta, sauce, chicken, peppper and eat it. Can you not taste anything? Next time mash down the pasta and pepper and bit of chicken and see if suddenly you can’t taste anything (hint: you can). Or do you go about picking out each piece of chicken then each piece of pasta as honestly that is weirder.

[Zaphodsotherhead]

@Moveslikejagger1

No, it really did make him look like a baby and I felt insulted at the way he wouldn't even taste any portion of the food before he mashed it all up. I guess I am as entitled NOT to like him mashing his food up as he was to mash it - stalemate!

[Moveslikejagger1]

Yes you are but attributing it as being linked to how he treated you like mummy and why you eventually divorced is pop psychology at its finest!

[recycledbottle]

I think it is weirder that you are so invested in how he eats his dinner. Who cares

[Zaphodsotherhead]

@Moveslikejagger1

Yes you are but attributing it as being linked to how he treated you like mummy and why you eventually divorced is pop psychology at its finest!

I didn't really link it. I said I didn't divorce him for the way he ate. I divorced him for his treatment of me as his mummy, which extended to calling me 'mum', leaving his dirty clothes all over the house, never doing a stroke of housework, sitting down when he came in from work to leave me parenting our five children all evening and night as I had done all day, ignoring me and doing his own thing at weekends, ditto.

But mostly for the calling me 'mum'.

His eating habits don't even rate in the top ten of why I divorced him. But they did make him look like a baby.

[YaWeeSkitter]

As Ive said above I am a masher - and proud of it. Im not a baby/a toddler/toothless. I just like my food mixed together that way and I am feeling bullied by the epithets bandied about by some posters.
I dont do gravy so I use butter on my mash. My favourite mashed up meal is a birds eye chicken pie with mash,peas and sweetcorn.
I usually eat a bit of the meal to make room for the mixing. It is not mashed to a puree it is simply melded together.
I still get the individual textures of the pie crust, the chicken, the soft carrots in the pie, the peas and sweetcorn. Its delicious like that and just because you haven't tried it for some weird reason you have no right to call me disgusting for eating the food I bought ,prepared and laid the table for .

[candilemon]

UnfinishedSymphon

Those saying it wouldn't bother you if he/she did it at home but it would if you were out...why?

Because it is so far removed from dining etiquette it is off the scale?

[Firstawake]

Ewww

[Persiaclementine]

Sounds like something a child would do, or be a required step in an old peoples home

[Belledan1]

I actually do this for my own food when i cook a roast esp if have mash and cabbage I mash the veg in too. I do put it in a bowl though. I like the texture and its like bubble and squeak. If someone else cooked it i wldnt though

[UnicornW]

Lol I do this every single time!!! So yummy!!

[Candace19]

LTB