Would this bother you? Food related

[UnfinishedSymphon]

Or am I just too picky?

Whenever DP has a roast dinner, he'll put his gravy on and then mash his roast potatoes and veg together into one big pile in the middle of the plate. He'll then douse it in more gravy and mash it some more.

Don't get me wrong, I love my gravy and have quite a bit but i think it just looks soooo wrong when he does this, even more so when we have Sunday lunch out.

I’d find it disgusting to watch.

@StarScream22

Jesus what kind of person actually gives a fuck about things like this? You guys are nuts.

If you don’t think the discussion is highbrow enough for you, feel free to start another.

My youngest has autism and eats one ‘section’ of her meal, such as cavorts, followed by peas and so on. My oldest has Aspergers and food issues and would actually gag if you did that in front of him. It would make me feel sick if someone turned their food into slop like that, in front of me.

Apparently my granddad did all this after he had all his teeth out aged 30 (so the story goes, the dentist told him he had to have 2 teeth out, he said he wasn't buggering about with that and to take them all...!) and never wore dentures. However assuming your DH has no similar dental issues I don't know why he'd want or need to do this.

@LillianBland and? I’m guessing OP’s husband knew there were no autistic children sat at the table while he was eating his dinner.

I have weird food quirks too, but I don’t impose my way of eating onto other people. THATS rude.

It would definitely irritate me. The sloppy mess.

It's the mashing of fried egg and tinned tomatoes that really gets me

Oh God no. That would look like a burst abscess. 🤮

Behaviour like this can trigger revulsion in many partners as it reminds us of how either babies or very elderly eat their food.

None of us want to see our adult sexual life partner replicating, what is in our society and personal experience, behaviour that reflects these two extremes of human existence.

This revulsion is often seen in reaction to adult partners sucking thumbs or, for example, ‘slurping tea/wearing greying y-fronts like grandad’.

[quote StarScream22]@LillianBland and? I’m guessing OP’s husband knew there were no autistic children sat at the table while he was eating his dinner.

I have weird food quirks too, but I don’t impose my way of eating onto other people. THATS rude.[/quote]
Well you’re the one insulting posters, so obviously you have strong feelings towards them giving their opinion. Describing posters as ‘nuts’ would suggest you feel that the only right opinion is yours.

I have weird food quirks too, but I don’t impose my way of eating onto other people. THATS rude.

You mean the way the OP’s husband is imposing the way he is eating, on the OP. Yes, I agree that is rude.

What is it today on here with the outrage about what or how people eat.
Just let people be! They can do as they please and don't need permission nor acceptance ffs!

@LillianBland no he’s not! She doesn’t have to look. If she told him to stop, or told him it was disgusting, that’s imposing. He’s just sat eating his meal, leave him alone.
If someone told me they didn’t like the way I eat and I had to change, they’d end up with it dumped on their head.

[quote StarScream22]@LillianBland no he’s not! She doesn’t have to look. If she told him to stop, or told him it was disgusting, that’s imposing. He’s just sat eating his meal, leave him alone.
If someone told me they didn’t like the way I eat and I had to change, they’d end up with it dumped on their head.[/quote]
Blimey. Never mind eating issues, if that’s all it takes to set you off, maybe you should look at anger issues.

I get that people have different tastes and that's fine for them. But I wouldn't be able to live with an adult who had such childish and, frankly, unpleasant table manners. So embarrassing when you're out and how do you get your kids to eat properly if your partner is mushing his food up like a toddler?

@LillianBland I’m fine thanks hun.

I have no idea why this makes me feel ill but it does. I absolutely couldn't be with him. Yeuck

You mean the way the OP’s husband is imposing the way he is eating, on the OP. Yes, I agree that is rude.

No he's not

He's eating his own food on his own plate.

He's not leaning over and shovelling it into the OP's mouth.

My husband does this too. Was handy when weaning the kids because I could just take a portion off his plate because they were eating the same thing.

He does the same thing with cheesecake and banoffee, and that annoys me more. No idea why.

My husband is a food smasher , his food so I couldn’t give a shit how he chooses to eat it

Good grief - so we are not even allowed to eat our food the way we want now! YABU - he's an adult, he's allowed to choose how he eats.

Does he do it when he is out in a restaurant or with other people? That would be the deal breaker for me.

Hiding the taste maybe

I don't overload on gravy, but I love mixing a roast dinner all together

Maybe he wants every mouthful to taste the same, like with pasta, risotto, pizza, curry? Many cuisines one mouthful tastes the same as the next so he has got used to it and tries to replicate it.

Bleurgh!

In his own home fair enough maybe but if he does it when you're eating out, with other people, that's just... no.

Mine doesn't do that. He does pick the gravy jug up and drink the remains of the gravy when we finish eating though