Would this bother you? Food related

[UnfinishedSymphon]

Or am I just too picky?

Whenever DP has a roast dinner, he'll put his gravy on and then mash his roast potatoes and veg together into one big pile in the middle of the plate. He'll then douse it in more gravy and mash it some more.

Don't get me wrong, I love my gravy and have quite a bit but i think it just looks soooo wrong when he does this, even more so when we have Sunday lunch out.

YouCanBeMyWingmanAnyday Depends on what combinations you like, I suppose? I would always try to catch a glimpse of her plate because I wanted to know what she'd put together that day. I didn't really have an opinion beyond huh, interesting choice!

Sounds like a soft diet for an elderly person or someone with swallowing difficulties
saves his teeth wear and tear I guess
and his stomach probably cant tell the difference
But I really would struggle to sit and watch an adult eat like that

Yuk, you might as well blend it all up into purée form and feed him with a spoon.

Waste of a good crunchy roast potato. Hanging offence.

Buy a liquidiser (if you don't already have one) and give him all his meals having been processed by it.
Things to consider.

1. He may thank you for it as it saves him time. Option : LTB
2. You can get rid of all sorts of leftovers and assorted offal. Option : LTB
3. Take him on trips to the zoo, where one assumes his Mother lives. Result : Show him the monkeys and he might pick up an improved way of eating.
4. Save yourself a lot of time and only buy him Gerber or Heinz baby food. Result : Increased free time to find a human being as a soul-mate.

Why would it bother you? Unless he's slopping it down his front and getting it around his mouth then yabu.

That would put me right off. I would feel like putting his dinner in a blender and setting him up with a bib and a Tommy tippy cup.

That's revolting!

It would bother me if we were out for a meal. We used to do this as kids. It's a bit childish but I suppose if it's only done at home with one type of meal it's ok.

So you presented a nice roast dinner and he turns it into meat and sludge. I would struggle with that.

It would bother me, because I'm a proper table manners pedant, and that kind of vulgarity is catching, when you have children.

I make perfect roast potatoes
I would be beyond pissed off if someone mashed my perfect oh so delicious specimens into a sludgey mush.

... or give him back his false teeth.

I think it was the implication, with my XH. I'd taken time to produce a meal that had various textures and colours and flavours that would compliment one another - and he reduced it all to one big plate of sludge.

So basically I'd wasted my time and he didn't care. That was the implication. Yet, if I'd just given him a plate of sludge, all food mixed together and mashed up, he'd have complained.

So, yeah, it's the implication, not what they are actually doing.

As much as I wouldn't like to eat it, mashing roast potatoes and veg together isn't much different to bubble and squeak.

If a man had started this thread about his wife's eating habits, I'm pretty sure he'd be mostly told "Eyes on your own plate!" "Butt out" "Are you always this controlling?" "I suppose you're perfect with no strange habits?"

Not....

Is she 2?
I couldn't sit at the table with her 'playing with her food'
Gross, she eats like a child without table manners
She's eating like a little girl
Disgusting
Horrendous
I couldn't have got into a relationship with her

But so many Mumsnetters have their own food issues anyway, I guess it's not surprising.

It would bother me and I would definitely never be eating in public with him , was he never taught how to eat properly .

Googled it, it's called a bùraich in some parts of Scotland.

I voted YANBU - my DP does that. It is a bit gross IMO. It's so child-like (something to do with regression - the food memory?!) You can choose to just have to put up with it (as long as you don't have that meal too often). I wonder what you do that annoys him?!!

It sounds disgusting but then I hate gravy and so does DH.

I just don't understand why you have food that should be crisp like roast potatoes and yorkshire pudding and then you pour gravy over them and make them soggy.

We moved north 2 years ago and were also disgusted to find people here have gravy on chips. Another food that should be crisp and not soggy

@laaalaa - Don’t ever eat haggis, neeps and tatties then. All mushed together on the plate then sauce poured over to bind it all together. Amazing.

Where are you eating? Haggis, neeps and tatties should be served separately. No sauce required!

Next Sunday just make it easy for him and put the lot in a blender - Sunday roast smoothie anyone?

Gross. Save yourself the effort and put a couple of pouches of baby food on his plate instead.

It sounds horrible. He can eat some veg and potato together with gravy without making a virtual bubble and squeak out of it. Your old man needs to learn some table etiquette.

There's no question, the person does that have no understanding of table manners. If I saw any adult(without any real reason, like disability)do that, I do judge. It's horrible and disgusting, very low class and uneducated and immature. Yuk.

ID have removed my children’s meals if they played with food like that. Horrid to sit opposite.

Acca-scuse-me what now??? You'd rather your children went without food rather than mashed it up in a way that YOU don't find appealing even though YOU don't have to eat it??? Fucking hell I pity your kids.