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to think the royal family should have been more sensitive

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lootsharks · 21/06/2020 17:45

Prince Charles tweeted: "Whether you are a Father, a Dad, a Daddy or a Pa, wishing you a Happy Father's Day!"

How about a short addition thinking of people who have lost their fathers given how many families have been affected by bereavement this year? They could have put 'and thinking of those without their fathers today'

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TeddyIsaHe · 21/06/2020 21:02

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Wewearpinkonwednesdays · 21/06/2020 21:03

Good god, no one can win these days.

Beechview · 21/06/2020 21:03

I lost my amazing father quite a few years ago now. I hope everyone who can be with their fathers or every father who can be with their child/ren have lovely Father’s Day and treasure them.

Davincitoad · 21/06/2020 21:03

It’s getting silly now. People are allowed to say happy Father’s Day.

Soon no one will be allowed to say anything for fear of offending someone

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lootsharks · 21/06/2020 21:09

@Davincitoad

It’s getting silly now. People are allowed to say happy Father’s Day.

Soon no one will be allowed to say anything for fear of offending someone

How ironic then that people were so offended by my op that they resorted to name calling and petty insults !
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AdelaideK · 21/06/2020 21:09

No no of course I wouldn't claim you're making it up. I just wondered as usually people only notice these things when they are directly affected.

I wasn't being horrible as I've lost my own amazing dad 10 years ago and I get you're grieving.

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lootsharks · 21/06/2020 21:11

@AdelaideK

No no of course I wouldn't claim you're making it up. I just wondered as usually people only notice these things when they are directly affected.

I wasn't being horrible as I've lost my own amazing dad 10 years ago and I get you're grieving.

Sorry, I didn't so much mean you personally. I do try to be compassionate.
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Doolaleetap · 21/06/2020 21:12

His message is to the fathers. If this excludes you- don't worry about it.

StCharlotte · 21/06/2020 21:19

I lost my dad (and mum). This year I have got so many emails from companies offering to take me off lists in case a Father’s Day upset upset me (I don’t remember getting any such for Mother’s Day).

Yes I've had a few of these this year. I guess we didn't realise how badly the pandemic was going to go in the lead up to Mother's Day.

I've lost both parents and couldn't have children. I loathe Mother's Day but no one knows that IRL. I'm not sure Father's Day was even a thing when my dad died (40 years ago).

But I don't resent anyone celebrating either day and I tend to give social media a swerve, especially on Mothers' Day.

You must be feeling very raw OP and I'm sorry for your loss but I do disagree with you. Flowers

MillicentMartha · 21/06/2020 21:27

My dad’s been dead for 16 years and I’m divorced. Father’s Day is a bit weird for me. I find the gushy FB posts a bit painful but that’s my issue not theirs. I still remind my kids to send something to their wanker of a dad.

CountreeGurl · 21/06/2020 21:40

I'm more offended that we have a Royal Family

Thisismytimetoshine · 21/06/2020 21:53

@Doolaleetap

His message is to the fathers. If this excludes you- don't worry about it.
This just about sums it up.
Thisismytimetoshine · 21/06/2020 21:55

I've had some marketing emails about fathers as well. I just disregarded them as not relevant to me, rather than "complain".
Isn't this what people do? Confused

Thisisworsethananticpated · 21/06/2020 22:57

Sweet Jesus

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lootsharks · 22/06/2020 06:20

What about sweet Jesus ? Were you going to say anything that had any meaning whatsoever ?

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CrowdedHouseinQuarantine · 22/06/2020 06:25

He hasnt seen his own father, aged 99, for some time now.

Pixxie7 · 22/06/2020 06:55

If you have lost your dad recently I can see how you might be feeling sensitive at the moment. However we have to move forward, you could say the same for someones birthday.

turnthebiglightoff · 22/06/2020 07:01

YABU. It's Father's Day.

SouthWestmom · 22/06/2020 07:04

I've had some marketing emails about fathers as well. I just disregarded them as not relevant to me, rather than "complain".
Isn't this what people do?

What a stupidly disingenuous post, as that's exactly what I said I had done. Why not just say what you think rather than post some silly 'confused' wording?

After 30 years of living with the loss of one of the most important men in my childhood I'm perfectly entitled to suggest companies change their marketing.

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 22/06/2020 07:21

Dear God

My DD died last year but this post from Prince Charles bothers me not , personally .

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lootsharks · 22/06/2020 07:23

@turnthebiglightoff

YABU. It's Father's Day.
Yes, I was well aware of that as you'd know if you had bothered to RTFT before issuing your statement.
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eaglejulesk · 22/06/2020 07:33

Oh for goodness sake! YABU and petty.

ResIpsaLoquiturInterAlia · 22/06/2020 08:54

CountreeGurl

^^I'm more offended that we have a Royal Family

Are we the common people entitled to suggest such a ghastly thought?

Surely The Queen is worthy while the rest are there to make up numbers!? Enjoy a free lunch and that sort of leisurely past time? Would a republic not downgrade Brextania and further dilute the brand? Cannot rely on an orange clown at the top table stateside forever to make others appear like absolute heroes in comparison!

TabbyMumz · 22/06/2020 09:09

"He can't wish a dead person a happy Father's Day."
Lots of people do this on fb, it annoys the hell out of me.. wishing people heavenly happy fathers day to people who are dead. Also people do it to Fathers who dont have or use fb!! So it's not really wishing their father happy fathers day, because they wont see it, its virtue signalling to everyone else.

TabbyMumz · 22/06/2020 09:11

And people annoy me when they wish people happy fathers day when they arent even a Father. I know someone who does this to her partner, he is a step dad, but hardly really..he met her when her son was 30. So hes hardly been a step dad either. They dont even live in the same house.