to think the royal family should have been more sensitive

[lootsharks]

Prince Charles tweeted: "Whether you are a Father, a Dad, a Daddy or a Pa, wishing you a Happy Father's Day!"

How about a short addition thinking of people who have lost their fathers given how many families have been affected by bereavement this year? They could have put 'and thinking of those without their fathers today'

@mumwon

You are in the early stages of grief & one of the stages IS anger - I am sorry for your recent loss & this day will be hard for you when your feelings are so raw but nothing bad was meant by Prince Charles comment & if he had said anything about support for people who had lost their fathers recently I am afraid people would have accused him of insensitivity I remember my ddad on Fathers Day - the happy times & I know many people will probably go & put flowers on their dd graves - over time you will be able to do the same

I won't because there is no grave and somebody else scattered his ashes. I have had no funeral for him that I could attend or watch and was not able to be part of scattering his ashes either.

@lootsharks coronavirus restrictions on funerals was appalling - it made a hard tragic situation even worse & makes it more difficult for family to find any comfort
I really feel for you in this op -f my dm was cremated which I knew was against her wishes but I was "outvoted" & there is no grave placemark or even a name plate I know they are buried in a large crematory plot but I have no idea where - the place is no where neat where I live either - for what its worth I found her favourite rose a few years later & planted it my garden - I talk of childhood to my children & actually wrote as much as I knew of my parents lives so I could share it with them. This was therapeutic although it was not the intent & at some stage you will find someway to help with your grief to be honest op I think you need to talk to someone other than us

OP,

I am very sorry for your loss & I understand your sadness & grief. And I do as both my parents are dead, my father when I was quite young & my mother last December. Neither Mother's Day or Father's Day are problematic for me...I do wish I had parents here to make a fuss over but not having them doesn't mean that I expect others who do to acknowledge sadness or even understand it when it doesn't impact on them. They are happy to celebrate their parents & so the should. It is good to see people happy even if we are sad. I obviously don't know you OP so I could be very wrong but reading your posts, your responses to posters on here, you seem very angry to me. I think you should speak with someone IRL about how you feel & you might find it helps a little. Wishing you well

That's really awful, lootsharks.

Perhaps you could do something in his memory - go somewhere he loved or you went together/have good memories of and spend some quiet time there, or plant a tree in his name, or something?

Sorry you're going through this.

@Dahlietta

Well his own father is dead so.

Wait, what? How is this not major news?

Prince Philip is still very much alive. He's just had his 99th birthday Please check facts before you make statements like that

This has been the year of the perpetually offended. It's so draining.

Aint that the truth!

I know for a fact my dad would want father's day to be a happy occasion for those who celebrate rather than one focussed on grief.

Of course losing a parent is sad but I feel happy occasions should be kept joyful. Otherwise it'll never end. "Wishing a happy birthday to X. Sorry for those who would have been celebtating their birthdays today"