to think the royal family should have been more sensitive

[lootsharks]

Prince Charles tweeted: "Whether you are a Father, a Dad, a Daddy or a Pa, wishing you a Happy Father's Day!"

How about a short addition thinking of people who have lost their fathers given how many families have been affected by bereavement this year? They could have put 'and thinking of those without their fathers today'

It reminds me of people sabotaging Black Lives Matter by saying All Lives Matter. Let's make it all about MEEEE!!!
Saying that op, I am deeply sorry you lost your father, and in such horrible circumstances, and I can tell that you are really grieving.I think you would have got more sympathy if you had just said that you were finding Fathers' Day really difficult. My beloved DH died on Valentine's Day four years ago,and I went home from the hospital, leaving his poor dear dead body behind to find the card I had bought him waiting for him. The period leading up to Valentine's is always difficult for me, but I buy him a card each year and write in it about my feelings of loss , and memories of happy times together.

@user1471510720

Have we truly become a bunch of Cry baby’s that you think that. Grow up Op.☹️ Your probably one of the people that thought the ridiculous clap for NHS was a good thing.

Oh do bog off. Op night be u and a bit sensitive but she's recently lost her Dad, how does that make her a cry baby, immature or in anyway rate to the NHS Clap?

Whatever happened to “be kind”? There is a real life person, who is hurting, at the other side of the screen. Have a bit of fucking compassion. Massive pile-on.

The op is recently bereaved, and was unable to have the closure of a funeral for her Dad for goodness sake.

We all get upset about, sometimes daft, things when we are grieving.

Those berating the op and name calling her are simply sticking the boot in to a grieving woman feeling a bit sensitive on her first fathers day without her dad.

Disgusting behaviour.

I think the bereaved are allowed to be oversenstive when a bad day coincides with a day that plasters reminders everywhere.

It doesn't make a POV necessarily right, but it is only human to sympathise with the level of grief that leads to it.

This thread has made me feel far far worse than I have felt all day thanks to those of you who have been vindictive, spiteful and needlessly unpleasant. Thank you to the ones who have been supportive even when they disagreed with me.

AIBU? is not the best place to post if you're wanting kindness. Bereavement is a better fit.

@lootsharks This has been a horrid thread - I am not an oversensitive person and have been here years, but every now and again you get a thread which turns into a pile-on and the nasty posters get egged on by the others. None of them would have the balls to spout such venom to the face of a grieving daughter. You are far far better than them.

I’d ask to get the thread pulled if I were you.

@lilmishap it’s entirely possible to say YABU without calling the OP names. It’s time to stop excusing horrid behaviour just because it’s AIBU.

[quote Instatwat]@lootsharks This has been a horrid thread - I am not an oversensitive person and have been here years, but every now and again you get a thread which turns into a pile-on and the nasty posters get egged on by the others. None of them would have the balls to spout such venom to the face of a grieving daughter. You are far far better than them.

I’d ask to get the thread pulled if I were you.[/quote]
No, let the thread stand so people can see how vile some of mumsnet can be. I don't have anything to be ashamed of, others do.

Kindness and understanding is allowed on AIBU as well.

People dont have to act like knobs just because a thread is in AIBU, it's not mandatory.

Maybe hiding the thread would be better op. Hope you're ok

OP, I'm one of the ones who posted early in frustration. For what it's worth, I'm truly sorry for your loss, and I apologise for being one of the ones who have upset you more this evening.

Sometimes people don't realise until it happens to them

@user1498572889 don’t be such a nasty piece of work.

YABU- I lost my dad in 2017, are you saying that my loss is not as important as people who have lost their dads to covid? If you want to be offended at prince charles, then I take offence to YOUR suggestion because it suggests only those who died of covid are worth remembering....thats really offensive.

I didn't read the whole thread OP. I'm sorry for what you've been through. I still think what I posted but obvs not in relation to you 💐

@AlexisCarringtonColbyDexter

YABU- I lost my dad in 2017, are you saying that my loss is not as important as people who have lost their dads to covid? If you want to be offended at prince charles, then I take offence to YOUR suggestion because it suggests only those who died of covid are worth remembering....thats really offensive.

Cause of death is irrelevant.

Father's day when you've lost your dad (or mother's day when you've lost your mum) can be really trigger-y and it's hard to rationalise why someone may be so upset if you are lucky enough to have that day together.

My dh and I had lost all 4 parents by the time we were in our early 30s and we seem to live another life to most of our friends who still mostly have all of their parents and even grandparents...

It can be isolating because people don't know what to say, or worse when friends moan about their parents and then apologise- it's OK, if my mum were still here I'd probably be looking too!!

It's really tough OP and it's really shit too but hopefully it will get easier, or if not easier then at least further away.

It's important to practice kindness whenever we can.

OP, I’m so sorry for your loss, the firsts are always hard 💖 YABU about the tweet but it’s understandable why this has “triggered” you for lack of a better word. Sending you my love.

@RedRedWines

If you’re so sensitive you can’t see people be wished happy Father’s Day without making it about your situation you must barely be able to get through an hour without emotional turmoil.

My father died 4 weeks ago, is it ‘too sensitive’ to be devastated about not having him today? Yes, seeing others having wonderful fathers still with them is horrendous. Is that making everything about myself? Or is that just grief?

Nobody would say that was "sensitive", Teddy
It's got nothing to do with that tweet being insensitive, though. It isn't.