AIBU To ask my OH not to Shoutsneeze?

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(This is about the everyday cold in happier times, obvs).

I can produce a reasonably low decibel constrained "a-pfna", considerate to the eardrums of those nearby, not disturbing a cinema or theatre audience, not causing a cyclist to wobble, etc.

So why does he think "AAAAHHHH - HEURGGGGHHH" registering on the Richter earthquake scale with full vocal projection including right in my ear when I am nearly asleep is acceptable?

And why does he get annoyed when asked to modulate his performance?

AIBU?

@MeadowHay

Why is this only a thing men do btw? How come women are able to sneeze normally? My DH does it too and it fucks me right off. He gets annoyed and says he can't help it

It's not only a thing men do. Plenty of women, me included, on the thead have said they do it.

It's not a choice.

I do it. Sweet FA I can do about it. I've woken the baby up too many times to count, and as he's a crap sleeper, I'd do anything to keep him asleep! I've also done it at a funeral, and a meeting, and most of the places people mentioned

I absolutely love sneezing. I am capable of doing it quietly, but it's just not as much fun. Like an orgasm. Same logic.

It's not attention seeking. It's just how some people's bodies work.

The twat neighbour upstairs does this, along with stupidly loud yawns

Old man neighbour (semi-detached) does this. But he's bedridden in the room in the CENTRE of his house, not even the room with the party wall!

We just roll our eyes and say "Bless you, Frank!"

I must confess. I am a shout sneezer. It just feels so good. But it fefonetly can be controlled. My baby has 20 minute naps in the morning and its the only time I stop the entire day. I also suffer from hay fever. And I would say 8 out of 10ntomes incan either stop the sneeze or make it silent.

My sneezes come out forcefully and loudly. They are often very painful. I have absolutely no control over these sneezes.

Surely the volume is down to the volume of air expelled?

Bigger chest = bigger volume?

For the people saying they do it and can't help it - try focussing on your vocalisation. Not sneezing, everyone sneezes. It's the yelling that's the problem. Have you ever consciously tried to whisper when you sneeze?

@k1233

For the people saying they do it and can't help it - try focussing on your vocalisation. Not sneezing, everyone sneezes. It's the yelling that's the problem. Have you ever consciously tried to whisper when you sneeze?

I broke my nose in my mid twenties, it looks normal on the outside but I have a badly deviated septum (can only breathe through one nostril). Absolutely nothing I do changes the volume/sound of my sneeze. Its an almost guaranteed outcome for reduced nasal capacity.

Before I broke my nose I barely made any noise at all when I sneezed, I could also sneeze with my mouth shut. If I do that now my nose bleeds, my eyes become bloodshot and my throat is painful for several days afterwards.

It is 100% adaptable as sneezes have accents dependent where you are in the world. Also pause a moment and wonder , then google, what noise a dear person makes when sneezing....not a shout sneeze performance.

Argh, deaf not dear.

I have loud sneezes. I can't help them. My dad sneezed loud too. I also know it's bloody annoying. I try to sneeze a room or two away from others but it doesn't always work of course.

It's a subconscious habit, so people feel they can't stop it. But they generally can.

No one is asking you to manage total silence, but do not engage the vocal chords and shout the words aaaaah chooooo on the in and out breath. It's actually hard to gasp aaah at that volume- relax, it's easier!

Also, when vomiting, do not simultaneously roar. DH kept an entire hostel awake while ill in Egypt.

@Sunshineandcoffee

Argh, deaf not dear.

My son is hearing impaired, he makes noise when he sneezes, its a sharp and short AH sound with an almost duck like quality, or as though the sound is in a bubble, he has done it since at least 18 months old which is before he was aided.

Nice to see so many people are experts on what I can and can't do with my own body
Perhaps we're all different? No? Then I guess I can start telling everyone who thinks they can't roll their tongue that of course they can- they just need to really focus on it.

Hi SiminJt. Oops sorry I did not mean to imply no sound. I meant the vocalisation aspect is different. In the same way a UK sneeze has a different school noise behind to other countries.

Well this is embarrasing, my spell check has gone rogue.School/ sound.

My brother sneezes like a gunshot. No yelling involved, but everybody jumps. He also snores like an old fashioned diesel engine. Boy was everyone glad when he left home!
DH said he "taught" himself not to sneeze. Unfortunately this involved making a strangled sort of noise and folding himself in half. When I eventually persuaded him he could just relax and sneeze, his sneezes are pretty quiet.
My dad seems to have a trombone rather than normal nasal passageways. His sneezes are loud and when he blows his nose I swear he's trying to play a tune. I was a teen before I realised you didn't have to make a racket blowing your nose.

DH does it. Makes me jump out my skin. My dad does it too. Both insist they can't help it. They act all aggrieved and defensive when I liken to them to tennis players who can't seem to hit a ball without making OTT noises. It's just habit (and they secretly enjoy it! Doesn't surprise me a few PPs have admitted it!)

I do this and really can't help it. Its involuntary.

Countdowntofriday well said. Ridiculous to think that most loud sneezes gave not tried to be quieter. We're not all stupid..