AIBU To ask my OH not to Shoutsneeze?

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(This is about the everyday cold in happier times, obvs).

I can produce a reasonably low decibel constrained "a-pfna", considerate to the eardrums of those nearby, not disturbing a cinema or theatre audience, not causing a cyclist to wobble, etc.

So why does he think "AAAAHHHH - HEURGGGGHHH" registering on the Richter earthquake scale with full vocal projection including right in my ear when I am nearly asleep is acceptable?

And why does he get annoyed when asked to modulate his performance?

AIBU?

Yes to shoutyawners being just as bad. All my family do it. It's like they feel they are not getting attention or they need to let you know you are boring them

@PaperMonster

Hello, my sneezes are more like screams. My mum’s have long been like this and mine have started this way now I’m older. No way I can control it!

So glad i am not the only screamer! I don't chooo at all its a screamy arrrgh kind of a noise.

Hilarious! My husband is like this. So annoying. Used to make the kids jump when they were tiny babies.

I sneeze loudly as did my paternal uncles and grandfather. I believe it's something to do with the shape of my noise/mouth. My father sneezes quietly but snores loudly.

One of my uncles had an operation to help with his loud snoring and that seemed to help slightly.

It isn't attention seeking. It is really embarrassing and can be very painful if you try and stop them coming out.

Total attention seeking and mostly male ime. Talking about full-on shout sneezing here, not just a loud or unexpected sneeze. It is NOT necessary to follow up a sneeze with a yell of "Wheeeeeeeeooooooooo"

When my H does it I cover my ears & run. But I must admit that I love to do a shouty 1, compared to my quick 6 that shoot out so fast & make me sound like a silly little dog.

Surely the people who blow their noses & sound like a trumpet’s much worse, how do they even manage it! 🤔

Apparently, deaf people barely make any noise when they sneeze. Also, different cultures sneeze differently. In the Phillipines they say ha-ching!

@LadyArse

Apparently, deaf people barely make any noise when they sneeze. Also, different cultures sneeze differently. In the Phillipines they say ha-ching!

My son is hearing impaired, he makes a very short and very sharp AH sound, he has done it since he was 18 months old, he could have done it before then but I wouldn’t know.

@ravenmum

I mean, I can repress a cough better than a sneeze, but I can't do it entirely silently.

Neither are completely silent - the performance cough and sneeze both involve a deliberate effort of the diaphragm and vocal chords to make them offensively loud.

If they were truly entirely involuntary noises, there wouldn't be many people left that do it, as their ancestors would all have been picked off by bears, lions and opposing armies, after all. assuming they weren't all battered to death by pissed off spouses first.

The person I'm thinking of that did it certainly lost the ability to scream and hack and ack and arghhhhh through colds and hayfever every time he was alone in a room or trying to avoid a police officer looking for him. Fucking twat.

My dh has a trumpet nose too, i can hear him blowing it from anywhere in the house. He doesn't have a loud sneeze, but he is fond of a performance choo at the end.

Total attention seeking and mostly male ime.

Until about ten years ago I had socially acceptable sneezes - not too loud at all.

Then something seems to have happened with age as now I often get hugely explosive ones. No I am not attention seeking I can't bloody help it! Sometimes if I have enough notice I can whip a tissue out and smother it a bit but if it comes on very suddenly I have no control.

I'm a shoutsneezer - I tried to moderate it once and it felt like I almost blew out my eardrums

I thought I had once. My ears popped when I tried to modulate my shoutsneeze and for 2 days it sounded like I was under water. I was worried I'd done some permanent damage.

I had a deviated septum, but it was corrected when I had rhinoplasty 40-odd years ago. It made no difference whatsoever to my inability to sneeze quietly.

DP's not a shoutsneezer, but when blows his nose it sounds like a Sainsbury's delivery van reversing. Fuck knows how he manages that.

Attention seeking.

And for those who are annoyed by their attention seeker spouses'/partners' ridiculous sneezes; didn't they do this before you married/shacked up with them?

I have misophonia.

Shoutsneezers should be flagellated.

It’s a sign of male privilege if you ask me. Rarely hear women doing it, though this thread suggests there are some.

Of course it’s controllable within limits, and I think it’s bad for you to attempt to fully suppress a sneeze. These theatrical sneezers should simply be put against a wall and shot.

The pain I have to live with is a shoutyawner. It starts with (possibly) arm stretches, and various breath noises just like a normal yawn, BUT ends in a loud sort of scream.

I’m confident I’d walk free from murder proceedings if I could produce a decent recording to the jury.

My mum does this, it's ridiculous.

I used to be able to do a quiet controlled sneeze and then I had my tonsils out and now I can't. Very very odd side effect!

I grew up in a family of women who scream-sneezed. It was SO jarring that my ears hurt. And my mum had severe seasonal allergies. My theory is that if they did the hold-in sneeze, they would piss themselves.

I sneeze into a cushion or my elbow. And my pelvic floor has never yet failed me.

How can you control a sneeze

Dh shoutsneezes too - says he can't help it.

Dd2 who is 16 sneezes like a baby guinea pig - delicately but with enough force to rock her back on her heels.

Good luck with that! I was trying to stop my dh doing it for decades - I’ve given up now. He once frightened a very new little dd so much she cried for ages - he was mortified but even that didn’t stop the bugger doing it.

I’ve told him it’s not necessary to ‘voice’ a sneeze - in his case YELL! - I think he just enjoys it. It makes me feel like the angel of death in a bad mood.

Why is this only a thing men do btw? How come women are able to sneeze normally? My DH does it too and it fucks me right off. He gets annoyed and says he can't help it

@MeadowHay there's loads of people on this thread talking about women doing it.

I only voted YABU because my lovely dad used to bellow his sneezes in a really theatrical way and your post made me miss him.