To be irritated by receiving flowers

[DappledThings]

Firstly let be clear I did politely thank the sender, I'm not terrible. But I was sent flowers in the post yesterday and my only reaction was annoyance.

I don't own a vase so had to find a jug big enough for them. Loads of random wrapping that makes a big mess, loads of water in the wrapping that I didn't know about so flooded the table, spilt half the packet of the food liquid stuff which is very sticky, couldn't cut through the thick stems with first pair of scissors and had to use a knife.

Then they last a little while and don't even look that nice, and once they are past their best there's smelly, slimy water to deal with a drippy bunch of dead plant matter to chuck away.

I would happily never be sent or given flowers ever again. Just me or anyone else not like them?

I was sent flowers yesterday too - they also annoyed me. I did not want them. Previously I have been please to get flowers - not any more it seems.. I did thank the seller. I also got birthday present I do not want.

Goats and toilet twinning? Are you on some weird other planet op?

@ItsSpittingEverybodyIn

Goats and toilet twinning? Are you on some weird other planet op?

Not really. They are quite common charity presents. The toilet twinning has been all over my Facebook for days advertising itself as a Father's Day present.

Sorry - mean ''sender'' not ''seller''.

That’s nice, I like that ethos 😊 I like getting charity gifts too. Last one was a donkey sanctuary adoption, hoping to see him (tiny tim 😃) in Manchester when stuff reopens.

Last one was a donkey sanctuary adoption, hoping to see him (tiny tim 😃) in Manchester when stuff reopens.

Like the name! I had a wolf once. I love wolves.

I've just had to Google. Now I understand, not actual goats from charity shops.

@ItsSpittingEverybodyIn

I've just had to Google. Now I understand, not actual goats from charity shops.

No. That would be quite the proposition. There are many options. I once bought my father £10 of bull semen from one of the charity sites. He was delighted.

@DappledThings

Last one was a donkey sanctuary adoption, hoping to see him (tiny tim 😃) in Manchester when stuff reopens.

Like the name! I had a wolf once. I love wolves.

Me too! That idea can go on the present hit list.

This has been a good thread for seeing people’s opinions on flowers, and you’ve handled any criticism with very good grace!

I once bought my father £10 of bull semen from one of the charity sites. He was delighted.
No words for that!

Seems a weird concept to me to say,
“What a beautiful flower, let’s cut it down and kill it.”

I’m not a big fan of receiving flowers, I rarely buy them.

We have two cats so there’s a number of flowers that I just would not bring into the house. I’ve said to people who have sent flowers in the past that it’s lovely, they really shouldn’t & because of the cats, it’s a shame that we have to give them away & yet they still send things like lillies when we ask them not to.

I’ve got to the point where I have stopped thanking people & one person now thinks I’m rude so hopefully they won’t send any more

I'm starting to wonder what the perfect gift is, for say a dinner party?

You lot don't like flowers, I've seen threads where posters thought it was an insult to be given chocolate or wine. I personally would get my knickers so hard in a knot, I wouldn't be able to breathe, if someone gave me a charity goat.

We are all different, but what would the perfect token gift be?
(Disclaimer I'm Scandinavian and I think we are a bit more easy-going here, when it comes to token gifts and we rarely do cards).

@giantangryrooster

I'm starting to wonder what the perfect gift is, for say a dinner party?

You lot don't like flowers, I've seen threads where posters thought it was an insult to be given chocolate or wine. I personally would get my knickers so hard in a knot, I wouldn't be able to breathe, if someone gave me a charity goat.

We are all different, but what would the perfect token gift be?
(Disclaimer I'm Scandinavian and I think we are a bit more easy-going here, when it comes to token gifts and we rarely do cards).

Wine is always the answer I think.

And don't forget 80% of people who have voted think IABU so flowers are fine in most cases too!

Seems a weird concept to me to say,
“What a beautiful flower, let’s cut it down and kill it.”

They die just as fast if they’re not cut.

After mn i wouldn't dare rock up with a bottle of wine in the uk 🤣.
Your hate of flowers is nothing compared to the insult you may cause with alcohol according to posters .

Then again if you attended a wedding, birthday, mother's day etc. here with just a card, people would think you had lost your marbles, and was the cheapest of cheap, but according to mn that's quite acceptable to do in the uk .

Seems a weird concept to me to say,
“What a beautiful flower, let’s cut it down and kill it.”
Perfect summary. Produced for the bin while using unreal amounts of pesticides and energy. What’s not to love

@Alsohuman
“They die just as fast if they’re not cut.“

Is that true? I didn’t know that, I assumed they died faster when cut (although I have been known to kill a pot plant in record time!).

For the record I do like receiving flowers but it’s a rare occurrence and I’m never really sure what to do with them.

I always turn up with wine, flowers and nice chocolate. My friends must hate me!

I thought it was just me who isn't pathetically grateful when given flowers and always kept quiet because I figured this made made sound a right bitch. Yes I know I sound ungrateful but on rare occasions when you end up with loads of bunches (eg leaving a job) and need help to get them all to the car or get them home on public transport and the sort them into vases, it's a complete pain.

I remember being given a few bunches if flowers of flowers when DD was born. The somehow ended up in the bathroom where I tripped over them for two weeks until I binned them, still in their wrapping. Sorting out flowers was not something I could muster the energy for immediately post birth.

@Imissmoominmama
🤣 you will be more than welcome to come here.

It’s totally true @BabyYoda, it’s why I spend ages deadheading my garden in the summer. And with things like roses and dahlias, the more you cut them the more they flower.

Anyone who resents being sent flowers please follow this advice:

1. Tell your friends and family that you've just moved house.

1. Give them my address.

💐

@DappledThings

You're hilarious! Love your updates, horror at thewhole arranging them in a vase, mopping disaster argh... , chuckling at the PPs who took this seriously and think you're ungrateful.

There's a subset of people out there who don't like cut flowers nor the Faff. Lilies are beautifully evil as their pollen stains as it falls (or stains your hands if you try to cut those bits off.... why you giving me work?! )

You said what many of us think. It's a Faff. Find out if the person likes them first. ..

I'm oh so slightly allergic (hay fever, asthma trigger inside closed space) so I have a legit excuse to sigh - Still get brought flowers and sent them. They go instead to my 96 y.o. Neighbour on account of the 5 days of wheezing they trigger or having to find a sacrificial room I cannot enter until flowers can be thrown.

Ugh you brought them for tonight's dinner party? ... Grab vase from my one fake flower display (grit teeth), say "Thankyou how kind they're beautiful" (sneeze sneeze, eyes streaming) ... I'll just put them in some water (in the the garage).... (Whispers to son "tomorrow can you pop them over to Iris..?") (She loves flowers, her late husband used to bring a bunch home each week)

Over the years I strategically tasked a work colleague, a couple friends and my parents to mention periodically "Spartacus is allergic to flowers , she doesn't have them in her house..:" but people still sneak those damn flowers past them. Or online order deliveries... . My 40th birthday was flowertastic!! I lined them up in delivery boxes in the garage- Iris had the best 40th (at age 89) house display ever, she was delighted!

Hey- Cheese basket, people! Books! Cinema tickets! Know your friend! Flowers?-- meh. My garden is full of them. They belong outside.

I got some roses and Lilies for my Angel Babies due date. Looked after properly they lasted 3 weeks. Full sugar lemonade, a drop of bleach and even a 1p dropped into the vase all help preserve them for longer. Could probably have gotten 4 weeks out of them but I wanted to dry the roses out whilst they still looked nice so I would have something to keep. 2 of the roses and a piece of gypsopillia I pressed into a book and they are now in a frame with a scrabble art of all my Angels names and the other 4 I hung and dried in the airing cupboard and they are now planted in the planter that contains one of my Baby's remains. I couldn't do anything with the lilies though