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To be irritated by receiving flowers

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DappledThings · 17/06/2020 12:33

Firstly let be clear I did politely thank the sender, I'm not terrible. But I was sent flowers in the post yesterday and my only reaction was annoyance.

I don't own a vase so had to find a jug big enough for them. Loads of random wrapping that makes a big mess, loads of water in the wrapping that I didn't know about so flooded the table, spilt half the packet of the food liquid stuff which is very sticky, couldn't cut through the thick stems with first pair of scissors and had to use a knife.

Then they last a little while and don't even look that nice, and once they are past their best there's smelly, slimy water to deal with a drippy bunch of dead plant matter to chuck away.

I would happily never be sent or given flowers ever again. Just me or anyone else not like them?

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DappledThings · 22/06/2020 09:42

I rarely use, like zesters, butter curlers, cake slices, and keep them in a Tupperware box with no lid.

I have one of those boxes. It also includes 8 decorative ceramic chopstick rests.

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eggandonion · 22/06/2020 09:37

I have three nutcrackers. I'm trying to gather up kitchen utensils that I rarely use, like zesters, butter curlers, cake slices, and keep them in a Tupperware box with no lid.

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Scrunchy95 · 22/06/2020 09:35

"Unnecessary work"??

You take them to the sink. Use scissors to cut away the wrapping and allow the water to drain away before putting the wrapping in the bin and the flowers into a vase.

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Bargebill19 · 22/06/2020 09:27

@DappledThings
Yes!

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DappledThings · 22/06/2020 08:39

I'm in Awe of your decanted pasta jars- are they for show or for eating?

For eating! I can't claim credit there though. DH takes the lead in all matters relating to the purchasing, storage and preparation of food.

I will wear my Rosette of Adulting with pride though!

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Sparticuscaticus · 22/06/2020 08:30

DappledThings

A steam cleaner
A double-layer food steamer
An ancient, inherited carving knife and fork
A nest of tables
Three different items that allow for different ways to make coffee
All pasta/rice/lentils etc decanted into glass jars

That's a very Adult household, you'll get the rosette don't worry, despite the shocking lack of spare vases, fish knives and nut cracker 😆

I'm in Awe of your decanted pasta jars- are they for show or for eating? 😁 at your movers furniture comment...

I'm slightly shuddering but laughing at the PPs with cutlery with bone handles..

Oooo Get us, us bunch of Adults!!
I do so hope other PPs keep posting important Adult stuff to have in their households!

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DappledThings · 22/06/2020 07:33

@Bargebill19

You forgot the tiny box of plastic or bone handled desert forks!

Failed here again. But I do have a set of olive wood corn-on-the-cob forks purchased on a holiday to Cyprus. Does that count?
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lovinglife321 · 22/06/2020 07:33

I completely agree!

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DappledThings · 22/06/2020 07:31

Oh no Sparticuscaticus I have failed on nearly all of those! I thought I was doing well with owning:
A steam cleaner
A double-layer food steamer
An ancient, inherited carving knife and fork
A nest of tables
Three different items that allow for different ways to make coffee
All pasta/rice/lentils etc decanted into glass jars

We are in our early 40s. When we moved to our current house 2 years ago we had a gap so had our stuff in storage for a few weeks and the guys that moved us in weren't the ones that packed us up. When they arrived they said they were surprised as they assumed from our furniture we were older!

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Purpletigers · 21/06/2020 23:56

I’m not keen on flowers . Small bunches of roses or tulips are fine but I wouldn’t want a huge bouquet . I prefer to grow my own and if someone wants to buy me a gift I prefer a plant or shrub for my garden .

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Bargebill19 · 21/06/2020 23:50

You forgot the tiny box of plastic or bone handled desert forks!

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Sparticuscaticus · 21/06/2020 23:39

@DappledThings

can’t believe an adult household doesn’t own a vase

I had two at one point. Both were presents. One broke and one is probably somewhere in a cupboard but nowhere obvious.

Now I want to know what the other objects that are pre-requisites of an adult home.

Since thread has just been revived by an excitable poster 🤣, I feel I should also join you OP in your yesterday's pondering question about other things an Adult home should have ....

I believe The list would include -

  • A. nut cracker


  • A fire poker


  • A sherry or port decanter that gathers dust


-An electric zapper for flies that's never charged and your kids use to hit each other with as it looks like a tennis racket, so you hid it years ago on top of the kitchen units

  • A set of table cloths you never use because you use mats or don't bother


  • at least 3 ornaments on your fireplace that have no purpose at all


  • Dead decorative twigs in the only vase you do own


  • A 'for best' patterned crockery set gathering dust somewhere that you got given at your wedding which you secretly hate


  • And at least 6 of those funny knives that you use for fish course at dinner parties that you have never ever ever used


  • A set of guest towels that you keep immaculately in the cupboard snarling at anyone in your family that dares to use them when they clearly are not guests! 😆
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DappledThings · 21/06/2020 20:52

@mussymummy

Wow you are a whole bundle of fucking joy ain't ya, christ suck the fun and enjoyment out if anything. A friend took the time and money to send you flowers and all u can do is bloody moan about not having a vase, use a bloody pint glass you weirdo. Obviously this "friend" has no idea who you actually are, only someone dead inside would

🤣🤣🤣

Blimey. This thread was dead and over till that wonderfully overexcited rant.

I chose a jug over a pint glass actually. Does that make me any less dead inside?!
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mussymummy · 21/06/2020 19:33

Wow you are a whole bundle of fucking joy ain't ya, christ suck the fun and enjoyment out if anything. A friend took the time and money to send you flowers and all u can do is bloody moan about not having a vase, use a bloody pint glass you weirdo. Obviously this "friend" has no idea who you actually are, only someone dead inside would

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Tobebythesea · 20/06/2020 14:30

I agree OP. Even worse having to deal with that and a newborn.

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Bargebill19 · 20/06/2020 14:25

Oh god that brings up horrendous memories.
MIL has Alzheimer’s and had one of those bag/box flowers delivered - she charged ahead - the watery smelly mess was something to behold.
Got to love SIL who doesn’t believe in dementia.....

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TSSDNCOP · 20/06/2020 14:15

If it's done right the box and packaging should enhance the design as well as be functional.

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TSSDNCOP · 20/06/2020 14:15

Yes.

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eggandonion · 20/06/2020 13:24

Is that the bag inside a box thingy?

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TSSDNCOP · 20/06/2020 13:14

Can I just say, if they come in a water bubble the idea is to leave them there rather than transfer to a vase. The stems will have been arranged and cut so as to be free standing.

You just top the water up by pouring slowly from a measuring jug through the centre of the design.

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corythatwas · 20/06/2020 12:43

I used to feel flowers were a waste. The older I get the more I appreciate a momentary pleasure that does not do any harm to either my body or the planet.

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eggandonion · 20/06/2020 12:14

I don't like getting books as presents because I feel obliged to read them for the same reason I don't join a book club. i can't imagine not liking flowers being delivered, or a fruit basket, chocolate hamper,, anything really. My ds sent us a posh picnic a couple of weeks ago which was great.
My dd2 is 23, and as a result of this thread is putting a vase on her letter to Santa. She was given a fancy bouquet in work, and had to put them in a kitchen utensil jar. If she wants a vase I assume she is happy to receive flowers in future.

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Wetplaster · 20/06/2020 10:57

@Greydove28

I do wonder what the world is coming to when someone bitches about someone taking the time and paying for flowers to be delivered. Confused

Of course flowers cost money but I’m not sure there’s often much thought or time that goes into getting them delivered these days- my brother gets flowers for DM every birthday because he can’t be arsed to think of anything else and flowers takes about 2 minutes from his phone. Of course buying flowers for someone you know will enjoy them is lovely, but otherwise I do think it’s often a lazy option.
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Greydove28 · 20/06/2020 10:57

@LadyEloise

I love getting flowers.
So thoughtful of others to think of me.

The last ones I sent came with a vase to avoid the hassle of the recipient rooting for a vase.

Yes I also think its a lovely gesture that someone has been thoughtful enough to send them and its not cheap either.
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LadyEloise · 20/06/2020 10:54

I love getting flowers.
So thoughtful of others to think of me.

The last ones I sent came with a vase to avoid the hassle of the recipient rooting for a vase.

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