To be irritated by receiving flowers

[DappledThings]

Firstly let be clear I did politely thank the sender, I'm not terrible. But I was sent flowers in the post yesterday and my only reaction was annoyance.

I don't own a vase so had to find a jug big enough for them. Loads of random wrapping that makes a big mess, loads of water in the wrapping that I didn't know about so flooded the table, spilt half the packet of the food liquid stuff which is very sticky, couldn't cut through the thick stems with first pair of scissors and had to use a knife.

Then they last a little while and don't even look that nice, and once they are past their best there's smelly, slimy water to deal with a drippy bunch of dead plant matter to chuck away.

I would happily never be sent or given flowers ever again. Just me or anyone else not like them?

understandmenow Ooooookaaaaay. I think you may be a little bit overly wound up there pet.

@DappledThings  still passing time, it's been about 11 hours now.

Maybe time for bed?

Step away from the jug of flowers, the water on the table, mumsnet and sweet dreams of meadows full of flowers.

Awaits @DappledThings posting again, to just pass the time! Maybe sign up for a flower arranging course with all the spare time you have?

I don't think the op has been unpleasant about anything, we are all entitled to our likes and dislikes as long as we are polite about it.

I think the difference of opinions have made this thread quite entertaining .

I don't mind getting flowers, especially things like roses, tulips and irises. I put them in a tall pint glass or a tiny little vase, depending on how big or small the bunch of flowers are, water them and then wait for them to die so I can take photos of them. Flowers are very pretty when they die!

Awaits @DappledThings posting again, to just pass the time! Maybe sign up for a flower arranging course with all the spare time you have? thanksthanksthanksthanksthanksthanksthanksthanksthanks

I did indeed go to sleep. I just continued to engage with the thread as long as anyone else did. Which is only polite. My refreshing sleep has left me none the wiser as to quite why you are so angry about it.

@DappledThings

If you don't like them then perhaps you should refuse delivery next time and perhaps the sender will get their money back. (?)

The thought crossed my mind. But as that would make me a total cowbag I didnt take it up as an option.

Sorry OP @DappledThings, but you already are... 😔

Morning @DappledThings, good to see you "just passing your time" again!

Totally hilarious have you can't leave the thread.....

I'm not angry but I am highly amused!

@understandmenow

Morning *@DappledThings*, good to see you "just passing your time" again!

Totally hilarious have you can't leave the thread.....

I'm not angry but I am highly amused!

Morning to you too! As I said I'll keep engaging as long as any one else does. But as you're not engaging, just being a bit silly, I'm happy to let you have the last word if you want to! Have a good day pet.

@understandmenow what's your beef with the OP? sent anyone any flowers recently? Bit weird to still be needling someone you've never met because they didn't like a gift you (presumably) didn't send.

I thought it was quite amusing, Dappled! Mainly because I recognize myself in your description.

I think the rule on MN is now that gifts are to be about what the receiver wants and not what you want to give, except when it comes to flowers. With flowers if you don't like them as much as the sender then you are a terrible, terrible person.

I dont like receiving flowers either.
A potted plant would be much nicer, at least I can keep it alive.

Of course, I'm never ungrateful when someone gets me flowers, it's the thought that counts. But mostly I just have to worry about stopping the cat from eating them.

Yabu and ungrateful. What's wrong with been given flowers ?

I'd love to receive some.

Purchase a really nice vase, you can decent one in the supermarket for next to nothing. And appreciate them

God, I wish these were my problems

OMG, MN really is another world!!! Of all the things to be irritated about this must be one of the most ridiculous (at least up there with the person last year who moaned about being sent Christmas cards).

It's hard to believe that people feel the need to rant about something like this to all and sundry

It's hard to believe that people feel the need to rant about something like this to all and sundry

Moan rather than rant really. I assumed that there must be some other people out there who also dislike flowers and apparently 197.22 people do based on the vote! So that's been interesting to see.

@eaglejulesk

you are familiar with mumsnet AIBU, yes? it's not a forum where people solely discuss issues of global importance. It's 90% petty nonsense, which is why we all like it.

I like using jugs as vases, but that would be for flowers I'd bought myself from the supermarket. I can't remember what it's like to be sent a bouquet, or whether dealing with one is annoying. I think I'd just focus on the gesture itself, and express gratitude to the sender, unless their motives for sending the gift are also irritating in some way.

Mumsnet is weird about gifts.

Usually on these threads it goes something like this:

If you get them you should be grateful no matter what (and by grateful they mean properly delighted inside, not just saying thanks - don't you know how lucky you are to get a gift? A GIFT!)

If you don't get them, you should be grateful that you at least have a husband/house/left foot because there's children in god knows where who would give anything to have your tattered half-arsed gift, and meanwhile I've been slaving over a hot stove with twenty children and don't even get a glance from my erstwhile partner.

Its always bizarre to read how petty and angry people get though.

It's on my bucket list to have flowers delivered to me. Well it's not because obviously I can't do it myself because that would be, well stupid.

Send them my way OP

YABU. If you hate them so much why not regift them? You would hate my DH, he bought me an annual subscription to bloom & wild with a bouquet each month which I really look forward to.

I'm with you OP. But then the older I get the more I dislike 'stuff' of any sort. Much rather go for coffee or lunch or a walk or spa/theatre/day out etc with friends and family than exchange landfill (or compost I guess in this case).

If you hate them so much why not regift them?

I have no idea idea of my neighbours would welcome them or are in the camp of washing the groceries and leaving the post untouched for 3 days. Regifting would be rather problematic in these times I feel.

Your DH sounds lovely. He's organised something you really like, why would I hate him? If my DH did that I'd be pissed right off but he knows that so he wouldn't. Good outcomes all round I'd say.

@weepingwillow22 what an awesome present 😍 I love bloom and wild flowers. Their app is like flower porn! Flowers in general just cheer me up, I love them.

My husband is a good egg and buys me a bouquet every couple of weeks, I love it!

@DappledThings what would your ideal present be?

Mine would be flowers and crisps/pizza. Or all three 😄

what would your ideal present be?

Charity ones. Goats, toilet twinning etc. Or book tokens at a push. But only charity ones by strong preference