To be irritated by receiving flowers

[DappledThings]

Firstly let be clear I did politely thank the sender, I'm not terrible. But I was sent flowers in the post yesterday and my only reaction was annoyance.

I don't own a vase so had to find a jug big enough for them. Loads of random wrapping that makes a big mess, loads of water in the wrapping that I didn't know about so flooded the table, spilt half the packet of the food liquid stuff which is very sticky, couldn't cut through the thick stems with first pair of scissors and had to use a knife.

Then they last a little while and don't even look that nice, and once they are past their best there's smelly, slimy water to deal with a drippy bunch of dead plant matter to chuck away.

I would happily never be sent or given flowers ever again. Just me or anyone else not like them?

[Dontfuckingsaycheese]

I agreed OP! Though the thought is meant to be kind I feel it is just handing me another chore to do!! My mum knows damn well when not to give me flowers! If all is fine and dandy flowers are most welcome. If I am low, stressed and on edge don't compound it by giving me flowers!! I love being given outdoor plants though!

[paddlingwhenIshouldbeworking]

I'm laughing at your response though, really those things aren't a problem but I've been very annoyed at some really basic things during lockdown eg. I wish people would stop bloody face timing. Its nice and thoughtful but I'm sick of being caught off guard. Would imagine being sent flowers and having to clean up a mess is similar, nice thought but you really can't be arsed.

[Runnerduck34]

Yabu, i love flowers and noone sends me any!
I cut flowers from the garden to put in a vase and petals do drop and you need to change the water every couple of days but they make me happy

[DappledThings]

Dumped in a vase (or a jug), just will not do.
Get your creative juices flowing and do something artistic with them

I have no creative juices. Those little I ever had are exhausted by the menagerie of giant cardboard dinosaurs I've been called on to make the last few weeks!

They are indeed "dumped in a jug". They look alright.

[heartsonacake]

@NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace

For the price I can buy a much better present they’ll prefer they can actually keep.

I don't want to keep stuff: I have too much shit. I love

That’s a shame. I’m not a willing to waste my money on something that will die in a few days.

[biddybird]

If you don't like them then perhaps you should refuse delivery next time and perhaps the sender will get their money back. (?)

[DappledThings]

If you don't like them then perhaps you should refuse delivery next time and perhaps the sender will get their money back. (?)

The thought crossed my mind. But as that would make me a total cowbag I didnt take it up as an option.

[dillite]

I love flowers! Wish I was given some more often than I do now. Flowers are great, they show that the giver was grateful but don't clog up your house for ages. I would hate being given stuff, I have plenty already and feel guilty when I end up getting rid of a gift. Whereas flowers are short lived, so no guilt of binning them when they have died.

[Boireannachlaidir]

I love love love flowers, I wish I had some delivered to me. I suppose you can vent about anything on the Internet tho...but sorry OP it's a firm YABU from me

[DramaDromedary]

I have found my people. OP, I totally agree. My friends laugh at me, because when my lovely husband buys me flowers, I make him unwrap and put them in the vase too, otherwise, yes, it’s another job to do. He never throws them away though ☹️ so the slimy water is all mine.

[BearSoFair]

YANBU. I hate faffing with flowers! And they usually seem to include lillies which are poisonous to cats and get thrown straight out.

[heartsonacake]

DramaDromedary Why would your husband continue to buy you a gift he knows you don’t like?

[k1233]

I prefer living plants like orchids etc. Cost similar to a bunch of flowers but last forever...

[Lindy2]

Wow. Someone is king enough to send a gift and you turn your nose up at it.

How ungrateful and rude.

[runningon]

I love flowers, I have to buy them for myself, but I'm always glad when I do!

[DappledThings]

How ungrateful and rude

Is it really rude if the sender receives only polite thanks and then irritation is reserved for anonymous online whinging? I don't see how.

[heartsonacake]

@Lindy2

Wow. Someone is king enough to send a gift and you turn your nose up at it.

How ungrateful and rude.

No it isn’t, because she doesn’t tell them she doesn’t like them.

You can’t possible by naive enough to think everyone has liked every gift you’ve ever given, surely?

[Splattherat]

YABU buy yourself a cheap vase, change the water regularly and chuck them before they get too smelly.

[Dailyjunglegrind]

Oh good lord.. I have never heard a more trivial annoyance over flowers; chocolates would be a calorific sin, Gift card means an unwelcome search to find something to worship. Christmas must be a highlight of the year, maybe best given nothing.

[DappledThings]

YABU buy yourself a cheap vase
Nah, the jug does fine. I don't want to encourage flowers!
change the water regularly
Another chore!
and chuck them before they get too smelly.
Now that I'm down with.

[Figmentofmyimagination]

I was sent ‘letterbox flowers’ from bloom & wild early on in this lockdown. They were fab. Tulips. Not a nuisance and they lasted for ages. Easy to unpack etc and really cheered me up. I liked them so much that I sent two people flowers myself with their discount code.

But a more successful lockdown present imho is a box of Betty’s Fondant Fancies.

I love flowers by post but my pet hate is getting flowers from dinner party guests. Who imagines that you want to faff around with flowers at the last minute just as you are trying to organise everyone’s dinner?

I also always feel sorry for female performers who get given flowers at the end of a concert. What a bore to have to transport them home and fuss about with them. Wine would be much better.

[DappledThings]

maybe best given nothing
That would be my ideal actually!

[BabyofMine]

I’d love for someone to think to but me flowers. I can count on one hand the times I’ve received them.

[OpenWheelRace]

I sort of understand where you're coming from.

Whenever there is a call to send flowers (in recent experience generally when someone dies) I'll send a tree/bush/pot plant instead.

I bought a Maple Tree for my friend when her Dad died and they planted it in the woods near where they live where he used to like to walk the dog, they visit it regularly - they got a LOT of flowers, but of course flowers die, which seems a bit unfortunate given what they're being sent for

[Kljnmw3459]

I don't mind flowers but I agree with you about all the work involved in dealing with them !