To be irritated by receiving flowers

[DappledThings]

Firstly let be clear I did politely thank the sender, I'm not terrible. But I was sent flowers in the post yesterday and my only reaction was annoyance.

I don't own a vase so had to find a jug big enough for them. Loads of random wrapping that makes a big mess, loads of water in the wrapping that I didn't know about so flooded the table, spilt half the packet of the food liquid stuff which is very sticky, couldn't cut through the thick stems with first pair of scissors and had to use a knife.

Then they last a little while and don't even look that nice, and once they are past their best there's smelly, slimy water to deal with a drippy bunch of dead plant matter to chuck away.

I would happily never be sent or given flowers ever again. Just me or anyone else not like them?

I agree with you Butteredtoast55. People are so self entitled and ungrateful these days.

Some people certainly manage to make a meal out of getting flowers into water. Fortunately the people I send flowers to genuinly like them, and they are appreciated.

What a load of miserable people there are on this thread

Fortunately the people I send flowers to genuinly like them, and they are appreciated

The person who sent them to me has no reason to think other than that either!

I am 100% on your side OP and I too love how you've dealt with the soul sucking and occasionally ridiculously rude and personal comments on here. A round of applause from me.

Heavily hint how much you like like hampers or chocolate deliveries or whatever it is you like maybe for next time
I'm not a great flower lover although grateful to receive them but dh would get them as he knows not my thing where as my mum buys herself them weekly
Last time I was sent flowers were the sort in a bag which were great as I just took them out the box put them on windowsill , threw away the food stuff as I always make a mess with it
Watered them once then when they had died picked up whole bag and threw in bin - so much easier

Each to their own, but this thread is nearly as depressing as the one where the OP was asking if she was BU for throwing Christmas cards in the bin without opening them.

Whereas I love Christmas cards. DH doesn't understand why I go to the faff of finding my special string and tiny pegs to hang them all up. I'm sure to lots of people that would be really annoying and not worth doing or just find them to be clutter. We all like and are irritated by different things.

And if I knew someone was irritated by receiving a card from me I wouldn't be offended. Bemused, but not offended unless they did something insane like ripping it up in front of me and shouting at me to fuck off.

If I'm too busy cooking when someone brings me flowers, I shove them in a vase and deal with them later. A lovely man bought me ten bunches of daffodils once, mid January. They were lovely, I know they don't last but we live near bulb fields.
I love getting Christmas cards too, especially with a round robin.
I must put rice in my glass vase and aspire to a tall bouquet.

My late MIL didn't appreciate getting flowers. Fortunately she wasn't rude abut it and managed to let people know that she thought it was a lovely gesture, but please could they not waste money on buying flowers for her again.

Could you do that?

@unlikelytobe and @Oxyiz you are most kind. for you both!

Your mil sounds much nicer than mine. We live far from her, but happened to be there on mother's day, and gave her a sort of planted basket thing.
She told us we shouldn't have bothered. I felt like taking it away.

I like flowers but for the £50 you’d spend on a really nice bunch, there are about a million things I would like more.

I remember getting an enormous bouquet from DH's work after DS was born. I was recovering from a CS with a baby who had been in NICU for a week and the very last thing I wanted to be doing was twatting about sticking dead flowers in a vase to be aesthetically pleasing for about 3 days and then disposing of the remains. I've hated flowers ever since. YANBU.

I don't particularly like receiving flowers but I do send them quite a lot because it's such an easy present to sort out ! I send them to people I know like them ! But all my family know I love orchid plants which are about the same prices and I go on about that probably making out I like them more than I actually do .So I have trained them to send me orchids which I love and grow for ages ! Result!

@MadeleineMaxwell

I remember getting an enormous bouquet from DH's work after DS was born. I was recovering from a CS with a baby who had been in NICU for a week and the very last thing I wanted to be doing was twatting about sticking dead flowers in a vase to be aesthetically pleasing for about 3 days and then disposing of the remains. I've hated flowers ever since. YANBU.

I am not a flower fan, as I said to OP upthread but, to be fair, that was your DH’s fault for leaving you to attend to the flowers!

I would much rather receive chocolate!

Buttered said it well. I just think it’s a slap in the face for someone to spend money and effort on a nice gift of any kind, whether what you’d choose or not for it to be so unappreciated that you started a thread on a forum about it. Whether they read it or not. I just feel bad when people have the piss taken out of them for a kind gesture.

I just feel bad when people have the piss taken out of them for a kind gesture

Where on earth have I taken the piss out of anyone? There is 0% chance the sender will read this. And I'm sorry they spent their money on something I don't want, but they will never know that and it was their choice. There's been no piss-taking.

I also find it a bit sad that someone did something they thought was nice and it was just a big waste of money but that doesn't stop me being irritated by stuff and a chore I don't want.

MadeleineMaxwell, could your husband not have put them in a vase for you, or someone else? They usually last a lot longer than three days.

By indulging in a little online whinging? Not really dramatic in my book.

It was more the having to find a jug, cutting them, water, spills

So melodramatic!

It was more the having to find a jug, cutting them, water, spills

So melodramatic!

Ah, I was aiming for exaggeration for comic effect rather than melodrama. I thought by not sending my garments or wailing I'd achieved that.

i prefer plants. flowers are so ephemeral they make me sad..

Although that did all happen. I had to get the mop out. That's just fact!

I LOVE getting flowers! I have a monthly Bloom and Wild subscription so I get flowers each month - they last brilliantly and are always beautifully. Funnily enough, my aunt actually sent me some today and I was delighted.

This code gives £10 off of any flower lovers want to try - I get a credit too:

refer.bloomandwild.com/m/ol/zei-03a8ba1cc6

Ah, I was aiming for exaggeration for comic effect

Title wasn't comical, perhaps practise your humour?

Title wasn't comical, perhaps practise your humour

Indeed it wasnt which seems to have unduly rattled you. The irritation is real, the circumstances which caused it all happened and contributed to the irritation. The mildly melodramatic description of the circumstances designed to be mildly amusing rather than genuinely melodramatic, or indeed anything approaching true hilarity.

Keep on @DappledThings, it's a classic

OP AIBU

MN (a fair few) YABU

OP No I'm not, it was humour, i didn't say it to their faces, I'm clumsy, I'm just passing the time (lots of it).

Blah blah

Don't ask in future? Just an idea?