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Friend is asking for baby clothes back

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Evasmummy2019 · 16/06/2020 11:49

So back in August last year while I was 5 months pregnant, my childhood friend kindly gave me 2 big bags of her daughters baby clothes. Her baby is 1 year younger than my new arrival. So all season appropriate clothes for my new winter baby. Most of the clothes were good condition aland very pretty, some were stained or bobbly or faded. But I sorted through it and kept what I wanted. My daughter has enjoyed wearing her pretty clothes for which I am extremely grateful for. It saved us an awful lot of money. My friend gave us lots of newborn, 0 to 3 and 3 to 6 months. My daughter is a very chunky girl so was out of the 3 to 6 at around 4 months old. At which time I passed on the clothes that weren't too worn or stained (threw the rest away or cut up for rags) to my sister in law who was also pregnant and expecting a girl. To which she was very grateful for. It being lockdown and all.

But now my friends mum has messaged me asking for all of the baby clothes back. My friend is not pregnant nor can she have any more children. And before she gave me the clothes there was no mention of them being on loan. Or having them back when I was done.
I've messaged my friend to confirm this and she's said yes. She does want them back. And in the next week or so. I find this really upsetting.

I could get some of them back but my neice was only born in early May so is still in them and my brother and his young family have been struggling financially during the virus etc. I don't really want to have to tell them that they need to buy all new clothes for their daughter because I need the clothes back to give to my friend. I also don't want to fall out with my friend over baby clothes.
Amy advice. Am I being unreasonable to be upset that's she's asked me to give them back. Or is she being unreasonable to ask for them back.

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Summerxoxo5 · 03/07/2020 14:17

Oh @Evasmummy2019 I’m so so sorry you’ve had to go through all that stress!
What a strange woman!
Well done on blocking her, erase her from your life now she sounds nuts!!
Try to completely forget about her and enjoy your time with your gorgeous girl! ❤️❤️❤️

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AnnaSW1 · 05/07/2020 08:22

@Ilovechinese Biscuit

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Someone1987 · 05/07/2020 08:24

Why did she give them if she wanted them back? Very strange. You are not in the wrong!!

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MsTSwift · 05/07/2020 08:34

Having spent 4 hours yesterday mucking out a child’s room I can’t wait to offload outgrown clothes and books. Wanting things back from a stage your child has gone through is utterly bizarre that’s how you become a hoarder. Your “friend” might end up in one of those hoarder houses buried under own retained baby clothes - here’s hoping anyway.

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Ilovechinese · 05/07/2020 09:48

@AnnaSW1 🖕

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AnnaSW1 · 05/07/2020 09:53

@Ilovechinese Grin

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