Spectacular work from MIL

[CraftyGardener]

(Background, DH is an only child and she sobbed the day he moved in with mead I'd stolen her baby).

MIL has surpassed herself in the passive aggressive stakes. 10th wedding anniversary card arrives, she's consistently spelled my name incorrectly throughout. And I mean it's a real stretch to misspell my name. I never rise to her as it would upset DH but I know she won't be able to resist and will say something like 'oh I'm paranoid I made a spelling mistake on your card'. WIBU to respond 'oh no worries, probably a senior moment!'?

*Track down an identical card and forge her writing with correct spelling. Burn the original.

Then wait.*

Or just choose a much nicer card, forge her writing in it, burn original, then wait...

Can't believe DH is an only child because I swear I'm married to his brother.

Say “oh did you?! I haven’t looked at it yet. Are you finding you’re forgetting things a lot these days?”

They always think their so subtle don’t they?.

Mil always buys me milk choc at Christmas, I’m allergic to cows milk. Dh had a face like thunder last year because he knows Christmas only happens because of me.

I have different spending priorities this year 😂😂😂🤷🏻‍♀️

"did you? I hadn't even noticed"

You were sent an anniversary card??? We've never received one, not even a Christmas card!

We did get a wedding card, with a cheque, but asked us not the cash it, as she couldn't afford it. A month later she took the BIL's family on holidays!

I like all the other suggestions above from other posters.

please don't give her satisfaction ignore . If she does say anything just say no problem don't read cards just look at the front .
Wait and see what's on the front of the next card you get off her.

Tell her it never arrived. What with the post being a bit all to cock recently.

Ignoring it would piss her off more. If she does mention it, then make a 'senior moment' crack. She sounds batshit.

Its rude and unnecessary to get a family members name wrong - even if you have to look it up when writing it you should do it!

I have a name that is misspelled all the time so I'm sensitive to that.

My mil once bought my dd a tshirt with the wrong spelling of her name on. Her reasoning was they didn't have her name in stock - mind this is the woman who went on holiday and bought her a 'traditional' dress from that country that was clearly too small. Again, they didn't have her size and she knew that but bought her one anyway!

I put it in a charity bag right away as it offended me and really had to stop myself buying her a personalised item with the wrong spelling of her name (her name can be spelled multiple ways as well).

I realised it was being petty so rose above it.

'Card?' Look puzzled.

Don't worry, it's the thought that counts!

10th wedding anniversary card arrives, she's consistently spelled my name incorrectly throughout.

"Throughout"?

How many times did she have to write your name on an anniversary card?

It's fazed not phased, OP.

I remember dating someone whose own father spelt his name wrong, when the spelling was the father's choice. He just thought it was odd.

DH and I have been together for 10 years. I’m allergic to fish. MIL cooks a fucking fish pie EVERY time we visit. You’re not alone

You could just be grateful that anyone bar you gives a shiny shit that it's your anniversary.

@Crazycatlady83 that was how women were addressed years ago. My
much loved grandmother would always write this once I married. I had to return so many cheques as the bank wouldn't accept 'Mrs husbands name'.

Not sure when it changed but must have been around the 1970's.

How old is said " senior"

@Butchyrestingface 4 times. Yup

@randomer not old by any stretch of the imagination. Mid 60's. I admit, I was being catty due to being a little hurt.

I think you're quite lucky if my late MIL was in a good mood I was "The Girl" in my 30s. On a bad day I was "it" as in "Does it want a cup of tea" to my husband.

If you don't like passive aggressive, don't be passive aggressive.

Don't mention it. If she does, give her a deadpan 'Yes, you misspelled it.'

Passive aggressive people are trying to get a rise. Don't indulge her, but don't sink to her level.

mid 60's is nothing, move with the times and get the bloody name right.

My own mother offers me scrambled eggs every time I visit, after 30 years of me telling her I do not like scrambled eggs, so it's not always just the MIL dynamic to blame.

If she says anything I might be tempted to say I'd noticed and then very earnestly ask if she's okay. And then say 'It's just that I saw a programme about early onset dementia the other day and there was a woman who only realised she'd got it when she realised she was getting names wrong...'