Spectacular work from MIL

[CraftyGardener]

(Background, DH is an only child and she sobbed the day he moved in with mead I'd stolen her baby).

MIL has surpassed herself in the passive aggressive stakes. 10th wedding anniversary card arrives, she's consistently spelled my name incorrectly throughout. And I mean it's a real stretch to misspell my name. I never rise to her as it would upset DH but I know she won't be able to resist and will say something like 'oh I'm paranoid I made a spelling mistake on your card'. WIBU to respond 'oh no worries, probably a senior moment!'?

[sunflowersandtulips50]

After a day she should know how to spell your name. I would be calling her out....i regularly get my surname spelt wrong at work and it winds me up.....however this is your DH mother and your surname - I would send her a message asking her to spell your name right. Cant be arsed with passive aggressive shit

[sunflowersandtulips50]

and your first name that should have read and not surname sorry typo

[LindaLovesCake]

Track down an identical card and forge her writing with correct spelling. Burn the original.

Then wait.

[Laiste]

''Oh did you? I didn't notice and i don't think [DHs name] read it so we didn't notice .......''

[BlackAmericanoNoSugar]

@guessmyusername

Mine said To (husbands name) and wife. Made me feel so special

That just made me laugh out loud. Top quality passive aggression there.

[GabsAlot]

my late nan always said and spelt my name wrong-my df corrected her everytime and she always said oh i cant remember right in front of me

we werent close

i dont know what else shes done but its the little things isnt it

[Mary1935]

Tell her you put it in the bin as it hadn’t got the right name on it and you assumed it was the wrong address as no one by that name lives here!!!

[Washinginthetimeofcovid]

You are her ONLY daughter-in-law.

I can understand people getting names incorrect if there's loads of second cousins etc barely seen from one year to the next but that's crazy!

[chocolateisavegetable]

"Oh don't worry - I prefer the way you spell it" might get her spelling it the correct way quite quickly

[RoomR0613]

I would go in the opposite direction and say how pleased you are she's finally got the hang of spelling it correctly. How much it means to you that she's sent you a card etc. Gush. Ring her in delight.

That will piss her right off and she can hardly complain to people that you have been nice to her. Even with senior moment comments etc she can say you have been a cow about an 'honest mistake'.

[kgal3542]

Did your MIL ask your DH if he had packed his pyjamas for the wedding night?

[Singlebutmarried]

Ha! Mine doesn’t even do cards any more. It’s great. She does for DH and DD but not me. DD now days she won’t go there because MIL is so vile to me, if a 9yo picks up on it it’s pretty bad.

[Crazycatlady83]

Mess with her head and tell her she spelt it correctly!

Mine addressed my birthday card to Mrs “husbands first name” “husbands surname”. I gave it to him.....

[CraftyGardener]

To be very clear, if we had an otherwise good relationship I would not be phased by this. But she has form. Oh lord does she have form...

[ShredMeJillianIWantToBeNatalie]

Oh I love Linda’s suggestion! Exact same card, forge her writing but with your name spelled correctly. Next time she’s round make sure the card is in pride of place and let her know how lovely it is and how pleased you were.

She probably won’t be able to resist sneaking a look at her little joke. Even better if she remarks about the spelling, at which point you can look puzzled and show her the card.

[SionnachGlic]

If she is doing it for a reaction, don't react. If she brings it up do as someone else suggested with ' age comes to us all'...just act like it doesn't matter to you in the slightest! I can see how it is irritating but not sure she's outdone herself....you' d have a run for your money up against some of the MNetter's MILs!

[JesusInTheCabbageVan]

@LindaLovesCake playing the long game, I like it

[2bazookas]

"Don't worry; its just your age and you can't help it. "

[SheSaidHummingbird]

"Oh, did you? No worries, I didn't bother opening it before I threw it away."

[FudgeBrownie2019]

After 10 years of passive aggressive shite I'm not surprised you're at this point. I don't see MIL here at all if I can avoid her as she's exactly the same - nothing 'big', just many, many digs over a decade that have made me shrug and think "alright, balls to it".

My best ever conversation with her was when she asked why I was wearing makeup on a night out, telling me "nobody'll be looking at you". I smiled serenely and said "as long as DH is, I'm happy" and she phoned DH and cried down the phone to him that she'd lost him. What in the fuck.

[Laiste]

What does DH say about it out of interest?

'Cos to be honest the most sting would come from her darling son telling her off about it.

If my mother constantly spelt my husbands name wrong i'd be giving them straight back to her and telling her why.

[unlikelytobe]

Don't rise to the bait. She's done it to goad you. If she mentions it say you didn't notice. Don't feed the troll!

[Justmuddlingalong]

Use it as a coaster for your coffee/tea. Then stick it in the recycling.

[SheSaidHummingbird]

Or the totally condescending "Aww, well done you for trying. You spelt some of the others words right. Maybe get some help next time, or ask someone to write it for you if you can't manage it on your own."

[CraftyGardener]

Well played @FudgeBrownie2019

Ok Spectacular May be an overstatement. But when I opened it I was incredibly impressed that A. She had managed to wiggle some negativity into what is such a nice occasion and B. That she would even want to