Coronaviurus to be past caring that for one day i was unreasonable

[Pixiemame]

So it was my DM’s 60th birthday at the weekend. We had a family holiday booked to portugal to celebrate which was obviously cancelled. Me my dh and our 2 children haven’t seen family apart from parents at the bottom of my front garden 3 or 4 times and the same with my sister and her 2 children. At the weekwnd we decided to go round to our parents house to celebrate DM’s birthday. We didn’t hug but we did sit inside the house for a while and in the garden. We had a few drinks (2 or 3) each, took some photos, some of which i uploaded to facebook. We all had our own plastic cups and cutlery, paper plates and napkins that we brought from our own houses, along with food we made at home. I know i may have been unreasonable but AIBU to be past caring? I haven’t taken my kids to the beach, they aren’t going bacl to school, they haven’t been anywhere near a park or supermarket and none of my family are high risk. Like a lot of people we have all been pretty miserable and myself very very low and anxious, so to spend 2/3 hours with my family was amazing. Call me selfish if you like but i do not regret it.

Yes, I’m sure that me spending a couple of hours seeing my parents will contribute to the length of time we stay under restrictions. I don’t think I’m selfish simply because this “party” was a one off and won’t be happening again. We kept contact to a minimum and weighed up the risks.

@Khione - you agreed to the lockdown because of the NHS? It's not up to you to agree with it. It's the law!

With regards to people going to the beach I used this as a reference. I personally haven’t taken my dc to the beach and I don’t necessarily agree that this should be allowed, when we aren’t allowed to send kids back to school. But the difference is i wouldn’t call someone out on Facebook for taking their dc to the beach because it’s none of my business and doesn’t affect me.

Yes, I’m sure that me spending a couple of hours seeing my parents will contribute to the length of time we stay under restrictions.

It's death by a thousand cuts though isn't it? If it's ok for you to do it why isn't it ok for everyone else in the country to do it?

The thousands of new cases occuring each week are what's keeping us in lockdown still and stopping schools from reopening. Those new infections are coming from somewhere.

You don’t seem to understand the risks to weigh them up, evident by you thinking you’re ok inside because you’ve not cuddled, and by your judgement of those who are going to the beach.

That one off, could put your parents or yourself in intensive care.

Why can’t you understand that?

It doesn’t matter what you were doing, or what your idea of a party is.
It simply isn’t worth the risk to sit in someone’s house at the moment. A couple of hours inside someone’s home is more than enough for transmission.

You’re allowed to go to the beach, outdoor transmission is massively reduced.

children are allowed to go to school, where there are provisions to allow for safer schooling. education is essential.

Sitting in your parents home is not essential.

If any of my family members were showing symptoms of the virus do you really think we’d have gone anywhere near each other? I know that some people can have the virus and be asymptomatic but from what I understand this is rare.

With regards to people going to the beach I used this as a reference. I personally haven’t taken my dc to the beach and I don’t necessarily agree that this should be allowed, when we aren’t allowed to send kids back to school. But the difference is i wouldn’t call someone out on Facebook for taking their dc to the beach because it’s none of my business and doesn’t affect me.

Yeah but you don't make the rules, so what you think doesn't matter does it?

What would you call them out on Facebook for? You'd look pretty stupid telling them they can't do what the rules allow.

We didn’t sit inside for a couple of hours though. We went inside for around 10 minutes max as it had started to rain and we were giving my DM her cards and presents. We then went back outside as the rain stopped. I did explain this up thread.

OP - so you're a scientist now as well? The virus is so new that no one really knows. But hey, as long as you're ok.

It simply isn’t worth the risk to sit in someone’s house at the moment. A couple of hours inside someone’s home is more than enough for transmission.

Only if you’ve actually got it. Which 99.9% of the population actually don’t.

You think 80% is rare?

I think you’ll find people have been very vocal on SM and commenting negatively on news reports showing people at the beach, some not socially distancing, and leaving rubbish scattered everywhere when they leave. I could have chosen to jump on the bad wagon and comment but I didn’t. It’s called self control.

@Pixiemame

If any of my family members were showing symptoms of the virus do you really think we’d have gone anywhere near each other? I know that some people can have the virus and be asymptomatic but from what I understand this is rare.

It's rare? It's considered now that about 40% of people who have it are asymptomatic.

One man in South Korea infected over 100 people whilst asymptomatic.

I think OP is on a wind up!

What point could I possibly be trying to make? I went to see my DM on her birthday, there’s nothing remarkable about that. I’m not oppositional by nature, I’m not an attention seeker.

And yet here you are on another social platform still debating with ppl who's take on it doesn't match your own. You are inviting comment over a very controversial topic that has impacted ppl by varying degrees, the same way you are inviting comment by posting pics on fb.

You made your choice to visit. It happened. End of. If you have an issue with your friend - have it out with her.

But then there have been other studies which have found that asymptomatic transmission doesn’t happen.

But the beach is allowed as you are less likely to catch the virus in the open air. And that's why staying in the garden - although there were too many of you -was the correct thing to do. And you didn't, you've been pulled up on it & you can't stop justifying yourself.

Your first mistake was to post it.

The second? Not to delete and block your absolutely awful “friend”.

You don’t actually have to justify what you do or don’t do. You can make your own choices.

After all, plenty of “experts” and politicians have and it’s fine for them.

We’re being lied to over and over and over.

The 2m rule is bs. Proof of this is that they are going to halve it to get people (strangers to each other) back to work.

It’s irrelevant. The main point is- it’s against lockdown rules to behave in the way OP has, what gives someone the right to behave above everyone else?

And to not even understand why others would be annoyed by this? To the point op is saying the friend has some audacity.

Self awareness is a fine thing...

@SudokuBook - that's true too. We don't know enough about the virus yet.

I don’t know why you’d publicise such a thing on FB and then wonder why the self-appointed Covid police are having a go.

Since we hadn’t seen them since v early March, we recently had a meet up with dd, SiL and Gdcs - more or less socially distanced but no hugging (very hard for me with Gdcs) but neither I nor dd has put anything on FB.

Dd has a so-called friend who is so often critical and judgemental anyway and would be jumping on her - the ‘friend’ has called her selfish and irresponsible for taking her dcs to run around in wide open spaces where there was nobody within about 20 metres, let alone 2.

Such people are IMO best ignored and/or unfriended.

Selfish prick.

You said its called self control in a message above..... Where's your then?
This has to be a wind up as someone wouldn't surely be this stupid, stop commenting now

Self control would be sticking to the fucking rules. Jesus Christ OP. How are you still defending yourself 9 pages in.

OP AIBU? MN Yep End of.