Coronaviurus to be past caring that for one day i was unreasonable

[Pixiemame]

So it was my DM’s 60th birthday at the weekend. We had a family holiday booked to portugal to celebrate which was obviously cancelled. Me my dh and our 2 children haven’t seen family apart from parents at the bottom of my front garden 3 or 4 times and the same with my sister and her 2 children. At the weekwnd we decided to go round to our parents house to celebrate DM’s birthday. We didn’t hug but we did sit inside the house for a while and in the garden. We had a few drinks (2 or 3) each, took some photos, some of which i uploaded to facebook. We all had our own plastic cups and cutlery, paper plates and napkins that we brought from our own houses, along with food we made at home. I know i may have been unreasonable but AIBU to be past caring? I haven’t taken my kids to the beach, they aren’t going bacl to school, they haven’t been anywhere near a park or supermarket and none of my family are high risk. Like a lot of people we have all been pretty miserable and myself very very low and anxious, so to spend 2/3 hours with my family was amazing. Call me selfish if you like but i do not regret it.

I agree with you OP. The government have not a clue and can't even follow their own rules.

Because some of the Government are arseholes about it, why should we be?
*Half the rules don't even make any sense{
Yeah, they do
It's not rocket science
I think people are pretending not to get it, that's what I've seen on social media anyway

To be honest I am also critical of people who break the rules, particularly inviting people inside as this is proven to raise the chance of infection significantly. I am not someone who just follows rules unquestioningly but in this situation we do have a collective responsibility and should follow what we are being told is safest. We will have plenty of time to criticise decisions made in retrospect and no doubt the government and the scientists whose advice they followed will be held accountable.

But does having the right to do or say something mean that you necessarily should do or say what you like?

You clearly thought so when you Facebooked those photos.

Strange that someone who posted what was obviously going to be rather inflammatory photos should be so thin skinned.

you were seeking attention to post about it. which idiot breaks the rules and then posts about it. your friend was right to call you out on it.

@piximame I started seeing family again last week properly. I have a 6 week old now and honestly couldn't cope without them (mainly mum) anymore. I don't care what anyone says. Although I've not uploaded pics for this reason, Facebook is full of Aholes. Do what you need to do for your sanity xxx

God some of these comments are vile. Pack of wolves spring to mind. Lol! Why do people get so worked up in here?

But why shouldn't i be able to post what i like on facebook? For fear of upsetting or offending people? I've seen worse things going on that has been posted on soical media that maybe i don't agree with 100% but i didn't comment. It's none of my business what other people chose to do. I'm not looking trying to justify what i did at all.

It's social media, you'll get comments, you'll get likes, angry faces etc.

You knew that when you posted and to be honest it seems quite goady to post something so inflammatory at this time and expect no reaction?

Tell me, why do you post photos on Facebook if you don't want a reaction?

I post only photos that will get a reaction, so funny or cute ones etc. I expect them to get a like. I wouldn't post something that I would expect to get a bad reaction.

You sound a bit goady.
You must know posting pictures people are going to be annoyed. The pictures are just a massive fuck you to everyone else.

God some of these comments are vile

Vile? Really?

I’ve seen many pictures on my social media of people doing things. I’m not bothered since they have made a choice and I have made one as well in how I will protect myself.

I’m more sick of people moaning and pointing fingers every day when they could easily just report it instead of trying to get groups of people to moan with them.

"The pictures are just a massive fuck you to everyone else."

In a nutshell.

God sake why did you post on Facebook?! I had my mum & bro & sil & cousins round for my DD birthday a week ago . Mainly outside, cake, pizza, drinks, none of us have been anywhere other than supermarket (well my mam n kids hadn't even been there) I know I bent the rules but I wouldn't be posting pics on Facebook. Even the WhatsApp pics I sent to in laws I was careful with as just don't want the aggro.

The trick is not to publicise where you deviate from the letter of the law! We have been bending the rules all the way through, for good reasons (not just pleasure) but only a few people know and nothing on Facebook!

Why did i post? Why does anyone post anything on social media? You could ask anyone the same question. I refuse to hide things that i do just in case people might not agree with me. There are so many people who have “broke the rules“ at least i’m not trying to hide that fact and have been honest.

The fact is that you broke the law - whether you agree with the law or not, it is a law.

If I posted pictures of myself speeding, or shoplifting, I would expect friends to judge me, wouldn't you? Why is this different?

Great that you refuse to hide things.

But then you accept people will disagree with your choices and tell you that.

You can't be this dim. Do you really believe you should be able to do what you want, even when it impacts others & breaks the law, but no one has the right to challenge you?

Shoplifting fine, but most people regularly go a few mph over the speed limit so get off your high horse. I haven’t so much has had one speeding fine, never shoplifted or commited any offence. So if i’ve broke the law for simply visiting my family once, i won’t lose any sleep.

@Pixiemame

Shoplifting fine, but most people regularly go a few mph over the speed limit so get off your high horse. I haven’t so much has had one speeding fine, never shoplifted or commited any offence. So if i’ve broke the law for simply visiting my family once, i won’t lose any sleep.

So what if everyone speeds? If you post a picture of yourself speeding you accept that someone might criticise you.

You say you won't lose sleep over this - if you don't care and are brazening it out why are you bothered this friend is criticising you?

Perhaps you would prefer it if she sent the photos to the police and reported you?

I think your problems wasn’t so much breaking the rules, it was goading about it on facebook. Loads of us haven’t seen our families for months, loads of people have been alone for months. Your circumstances aren’t special enough for most people to be thrilled for you for being such a rebel.

Clearly you haven’t read my previous comments. I said up thread that i don’t have a problem with people not agreeing with me. I also don’t have a problem with being called selfish and irresponsible, as people are of course entitled to their opinions. The only thing i have a problem with is a so called friend telling me that i owe her an explaination, or as she put it, yes i do have to justify myself. Erm no i bloody well don’t. She can criticise me, she can disagree but no way in hell does she have the right to scold me like a parent would with a child and demand that i explain myself.

But you must have realised it would get people’s backs up, come on. Why didn’t you disable comments if you really had to put the pictures up?

A rebel? Well that’s something i’ve never been called before. I didn’t goad about it on Facebook. I didn’t post pictures of us all hugging as we didn’t do that, nor did i post pictures of us all drunk, as we weren’t. I posted pictures of my DM opening her cards and presents, a few of the kids sat in the garden, and some of the decorations flowers and presents my dm had been given. Yeah i can see how that might be offensive to some.

I do things Mumsnet wouldn’t approve or but then I don’t post it on here.

@Pixiemame

A rebel? Well that’s something i’ve never been called before. I didn’t goad about it on Facebook. I didn’t post pictures of us all hugging as we didn’t do that, nor did i post pictures of us all drunk, as we weren’t. I posted pictures of my DM opening her cards and presents, a few of the kids sat in the garden, and some of the decorations flowers and presents my dm had been given. Yeah i can see how that might be offensive to some.

Do you? People haven’t been able to see their relatives on their death beds, people have attended funerals via Skype - you can’t blame people for being annoyed that you broke it for something as trivial as a party.

To be honest i didn’t really think about it. But then i wouldn’t usually go through my entire friends list and consider their feelings before i post things. If we’d done group photos all hugging or photos of all of us inside really close together (we didn’t) and i posted them to Facebook then yes i’d probably expect some negative reactions.