Coronaviurus to be past caring that for one day i was unreasonable

[Pixiemame]

So it was my DM’s 60th birthday at the weekend. We had a family holiday booked to portugal to celebrate which was obviously cancelled. Me my dh and our 2 children haven’t seen family apart from parents at the bottom of my front garden 3 or 4 times and the same with my sister and her 2 children. At the weekwnd we decided to go round to our parents house to celebrate DM’s birthday. We didn’t hug but we did sit inside the house for a while and in the garden. We had a few drinks (2 or 3) each, took some photos, some of which i uploaded to facebook. We all had our own plastic cups and cutlery, paper plates and napkins that we brought from our own houses, along with food we made at home. I know i may have been unreasonable but AIBU to be past caring? I haven’t taken my kids to the beach, they aren’t going bacl to school, they haven’t been anywhere near a park or supermarket and none of my family are high risk. Like a lot of people we have all been pretty miserable and myself very very low and anxious, so to spend 2/3 hours with my family was amazing. Call me selfish if you like but i do not regret it.

OP if you’re a regular on mumsnet, you must know about the strength of feeling regarding the different views people have on the guidelines, and how strictly people adhere to them. Every day there are arguments between those who flout the rules, those who stick rigidly to them, and those who are somewhere in between.
You know that (whether or not it’s fair) you technically broke the rules, and by posting the evidence on Facebook you opened yourself up to criticism. You put yourself in a position of having to justify your actions, and now you’re saying you shouldn’t have to be justifying them.

What @RhianFuckingMorris said, you wanted us to stick up for you and agree YANBU, people didn’t, you’re still arguing you were NBU!

But if someone replied to a post of yours demanding that you justify a decision that you made, would you be happy with that?

Yes. If I put up something that might becontroversial, then I even consider and accept that I might lose FB friends over it.

What point could I possibly be trying to make? I went to see my DM on her birthday, there’s nothing remarkable about that. I’m not oppositional by nature, I’m not an attention seeker. I simply posted a few pics of a reminder of a nice couple of hours with my family after months of not being able to spend time together. There was no ulterior motive.

Who cares ? (you do obviously ). Why is it so essential to post every detail of your life on FB. Can't you just enjoy the moment without having to rush to broadcast it on social media? I have visited my very elderly parents every single week during lockdown and, shock horror, sometimes I go inside their house.

If anyone knows they don't care, and I don't care if they do,, I don't need to announce it to the world.

You shouldn’t have posted the photos on Facebook

Yes what you did didn’t meet guidelines and it’s your choice to break them, just as it’s others choice to be disappointed in your actions

Just imagine what would happen if everybody decided to do what you did for one day?

No one is this dim

Lockdown hasn't been something I have been especially rigid about. I have stuck to it. Not got pissed off when people to dont.

You broke lockdown, which we are consistently told we need to stick to keep the r number down so we don't have to go through this shit again.

So, yes, people breaking lockdown are potentially causing problems for other people.

If you don't want people to comment on your personal decision during lockdown....dont post it.

Why do you assume I post every detail of my life on Facebook? I’ve explained I usually post a few pics if we have a family gathering, but these gatherings aren’t a regular occurrence.

Yet another exempt from the rules muppet 🙄

Ergh.
You've explained what happened.
Everyone told you it was stupid to post the pics on Facebook.
I agree.
You've argued about 10 times why you think you're in the right, people disagree.
Just accept that people are saying you did something wrong.
If you're so bothered about people telling you you're in the wrong, you shouldn't have posted the pics on Facebook and you shouldn't have posted here.
Just enjoy your family how you see fit without posting evidence of you breaking lockdown rules online. There are other ways to share photos with your family.

If you were past caring you wouldn’t have started a thread, so clearly you do care.

You broke the current rules. You advertised that.
Did you want lots of positive reactions only?

If you posted you thought you'd been caught speeding, I expect you'd have a friend or 2 thinking if not commenting....serves you right if you get fined/points etc.

You did something against what you're supposed to be doing. It's a smack in the face to those sticking to the rules. Just because every man and his dog seems to be doing what they want, does not change the fact, you did something you're not supposed to have done and in addition to that you werent at all discreet about it, posting pics on FB. Some won't give a shit. Some will be angry. Some will comment good things about seeing your mum. Some will comment shitty things.

Then there's the ones that have not reacted at all and you've no idea what they're thinking about you.

If you aren't going to have it out with the hypocrite that's pissed you off. Forget it and move on. What s done is done, but you need to accept the fact people judge everything you post on social media and breaking the rules will always be controversial no matter how fucking nuts you're going missing normal pre-Covid life.

You’re missing my point completely. I don’t expect people to agree or even to refrain from commenting on my post, or any posts that I put up for that matter. However, someone demanding that I explain myself, publicly to them, as far as I’m concerned is completely ridiculous.

Sounds ok to me ... just remember not to put it on Facebook!

Oh never post on facebook these days. Have seen people shredded on there for less than this. We are living in strange times OP.

The majority of the photos that i posted were of us all in the garden to be fair as that's where we spent the majority of our time. I think there were two of us inside the house when we were all spaced out in the dining room

Yeah, but that's still not allowed though.
Spaced out in the dining room or not.
Like when we went over to MIL's last week for first time since beginning of lockdown, we took a blanket and a "picnic" to sit outside.
We didn't go in.
Pisses me off a bit to be honest people thinking "meh" and doing what they like, as it's the reason I'm starting to get a hard time for following the rules!

I went to my daughter's last weekend and stayed over - basically doing what we are allowed to do from this weekend.

My sister, who is normally sensible, said 'but what if you get caught?' I don't give a monkeys.

I also took her shopping. The alternative was her walking there and getting a taxi back. I know which was safer. For all the crap that got given out today we were told to use our common sense. I've been using mine for 12 weeks now.

Grumbling about others breaking 'ROOLZ' is just FOMO. It's about time more of us admitted it because the current situation is crap.

I agreed to lockdown to prevent NHS from getting overwhelmed and that is all I agreed to. I have seen the same predictions they have and I will make my own decisions and I suggest the rest of you do too. (Including those who want to lockdown forever - DO IT - leaves more room for the critical thinking amongst us.

So, if I hadn’t posted to Facebook, then me going to see my parents, in your view would be fine? I didn’t post pictures of me and my kids hugging my parents as that did not happen. I sat and chatted with them let the kids run around their garden and for one day we all felt a little bit less miserable. I won’t apologise for that.

You posted photos 'publicly' of a rule break, so I guess people can call you out on it publicly 🤷‍♀️.
I would not have posted any photos like that tbh - I would consider it disrespectful to those that are following rules and those that have lost people to covid19.

Grumbling about others breaking 'ROOLZ' is just FOMO

It is up to you what you do, but you can't expect never to be questioned or criticised about it. That's not how living in society works.

I consider it disrespectful and a bit ridiculous for people not sendzing their kids back to school but are happy to take them to the beach and be surrounded by hundreds of other families. I found it ridiculous what Dominic Cummings did. But unlike him
I’ve not tried to hide the fact that I chose to see my family. Maybe I should have expected some negativity, but what on earth gives someone the right to demand, not politely ask, demand, that you tell them your reasoning behind a decision that you made.

So, if I hadn’t posted to Facebook, then me going to see my parents, in your view would be fine

It's fine to go see your parents outside.
It's not fine to be in the house though.
I don't understand what's so hard to understand
FB is neither here nor there.
If you're posting pics though on there, people are going to see and that's inviting comments.

What makes you think your actions should be beyond question? Taking life lessons from Donald Trump isn't a good look.

No one is asking you to apologise for it. You know you broke the rules. Instead of bitching and moaning on here why don’t you message this “friend” and tell her you don’t need to justify yourself to her and you are pissed off she told you to. Starting a thread is such a waste of time. Grow up and vi front the thing that has bothered you.