DD Shaved Her Head

[CrazyLady82]

More of a wwyd.

My DD18 has just called me and told me she has shaved her head. DD already had short hair.

DD reasons were that her hair was damaged from all the coloring and she didn't like the color it was.

I am sitting here trying not to loose my mind. I am currently 25 weeks pregnant with DD2 and am thinking part of my reaction is pregnancy hormones. After telling DD I wasn't happy with the choice, but it was her choice I hung up the phone. I have been crying and silent screaming for 10 minutes.

I don't want to say anything to bad to her. I know that it is her choice.

Could someone help give me a reality check that shaving her head isn't that bad? I need to get a grip as it is her life.

Shaving your head is a it of a thing on Tik-Tok just now.

Stop being so dramatic. It's just hair ffs!

It's hair. It literally just grows back.

@amijustparanoidorjuststoned Lol!

@chinateapot Aw how is your daughter now? Ok I hope?

Not sure why women in particular shaving their heads creates such strong feelings. Shaved mine at start of April, and got told that I 'looked like a dyke' amongst other charming things (not that I give a flying fuck anyways). Anyways - point is yes, it's damn breezy to start, but grows back quite rapidly, and I think you're probably more startled than anything else.

I think you've been given a really hard time by some op. In the real world of parenting teens its ok to not tell them everything they do is fantastic. Here's how it would have gone in our house.
dd : I shaved my head mum what do you think?
Me" well its different isn't it. Do you like it?
dd: dad i shaved my head, what do you think?
dh : well its different isn't it.
As for her being arsey with you about the pregnancy that's not on, she's not a toddler. Congrats & hope all goes well

And having two kids 18 years apart ISN'T a bit crazy?!

Wind your neck in love.

She's dyed her hair not got addicted to dangerous drugs.

Sade shaved her head. She looked beautiful.

Don't worry. It's cool. It will grow back very quickly.

Not sure why women in particular shaving their heads creates such strong feelings. Shaved mine at start of April, and got told that I 'looked like a dyke' amongst other charming things (not that I give a flying fuck anyways)

I think three, maybe four time since my teens, I've gone from very long hair to very short/shaved on a whim. Every time, the reaction from some people (mainly males) has been quite eye opening. Some blokes (acquaintances or colleagues) almost seemed personally affronted by it. Weird.

She is 18 years old. It's just hair, it will grow back. Calm down.

@Standrewsschool

Sade shaved her head. She looked beautiful.

Sade? I don’t think she shaved it - she had it all scraped back very tight to her head though. Sinead O’Connor shaved her head.

You need to calm down. It's hair not a limb.

Absolutely bizarre reaction to have. Are you from the 1950s?

It's hair.
You do not get to decide what she does with her body.
No one gets to decide what another person does with their body.

Maybe she thinks she is more beautiful now?
Maybe she doesn't think hair/traditional ideas of feminine beauty matter?

@zingally The OP mentioned that the reason there is 18 years between pregnancies is because of fertility problems.

My 18yo DD had her neck tattooed- her choice

She's 18 for god sake.
Stop crying and 'screaming' it will grow back and its actually nothing to do with you is it.
Find something to do.

She sounds very confident and very punk! I would be proud. I’d love to shave my hair off but I have a weird shaped head.

My mum reacted like this when I did the same at that age. Then the reactions to the piercings. She has constantly criticised me and killed what relationship we had. WTF it matters to you what she does with her hair is beoyond me.

I seriously thought about doing this at university and I am a really conventional person

I wouldn't worry OP. It's fun being 18 in some ways (nightmare in others!!)

Shaved hair is quite cool

Shaved hair is beyond cool. Come on ... I rock this, surely?

I'm a chartered accountant, which is the most conservative of professions; it's not a problem.

You're sobbing and silently screaming over an adult who has changed their hair. Why. What do you think it means?

To be honest I would be pleased she has the confidence to do what she wants with her body instead of confirming to what other people think is cool

@NiceLegs is that you? Fabulous photo.

Silently screaming? Dont go to the sistine chapel whatever you do.Youll be fucked.