My 12 yr old fell asleep an hour ago and he’s been so awful I’m tempted to leave him to sleep through

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What’s the chances he’ll sleep right through
This is the first time I have had any peace for weeks

Mmmm I think he’s likely to wake at 4am as he will have had enough sleep by then?

He fell asleep on my bed
When I came upstairs to my bathroom to cry to get away from him

Why wouldn't you leave him? It's half seven not four in the afternoon.

It must be tempting but it's more likely he'll wake up in the middle of the night and then clatter around the house. Give him twenty minutes and then give him a nudge.

If he's sleeping, he needs to sleep. I would not be waking him. I would also be curious as to if he's going through a growth spurt which can really impact their attitude and behaviour.

He looks so lovely and calm

Not like the crazed lunatic he usually is

Sounds like he's knackered for some reason - could that be contributing to him being horrible? It's quite sweet that he fell asleep on your bed maybe?

He'll be awake in the middle of the night if you leave him to sleep through. Has he eaten?

Let him sleep.

You poor thing. Sounds like a shit day. If he’s up at 4am will he be safe? Will you leave him to sleep? I’d consider getting him up for an hour at 9. (This is what DH and I do when we’re knackered and fall asleep at 7:30)

He’s already been asleep for over an hour
And bedtime is usually about midnight, so very early

Leave him. Even if he does wake in the middle of the night surely he’s old enough to realise the time and either try to sleep or entertain himself!
Maybe leave food and a note out to say that’s what he can eat in case he wants food... that would be my only concern

Let him sleep and try to relax.

I'd let him sleep.

Leave him. If he wakes tell him he is to stay in his room and be quiet. Hopefully he will sleep all night.

Maybe go to bed slightly earlier yourself so that if he sleeps through and wakes at six you aren't too knackered.

Obviously every child is different but midnight is a very late regular bedtime for a 12 year old - could that be part of the problem? Sounds like he’s hugely overtired, I’d leave him.

Could you 12yo be a nightmare because he goes to bed at midnight!? That's late, even for an older teen.

And bedtime is usually about midnight, so very early

Why is bedtime so late? If this is the case you should start setting a better bedtime and routine. Midnight is not a good time for a kid to sleep

Midnight?!

Midnight is exceptionally late. Sounds like he could be very overtired

I’d leave him. Will he keep quiet if he does wake up really early in the morning?

Are you ok?

He ate about 4, so he wouldn’t be starving

He would wake me if he woke at 4am
And wouldn’t let me go back to sleep
That’s my worry

I think he could sleep through

I’m sure he’d sleep til 2pm if I let him, usually

Op, if his usual bedtime is midnight, I'm not surprised at all that he is having behavioural issues. That is far too late for a 12 year old and it causes chaos with their natural rhythms. You need to get him on a proper sleeping schedule.

Do you want to tell us what’s been going on op? It sounds like you’re having a tough time

Leave him sleep, he’s not a toddler. Even if he wakes very early morning, at 12 years old he can get breakfast and entertain himself. Enjoy the peace and quiet.