To think a UK size 16-18 is not curvy but fat?

[GymGirl23]

Yes I know some will probably flame me for using the word fat but I'm concerned about some family members. The Mum is 5ft 4" with 3 daughters aged betwen 18 and 22 who are all a similar height. She and the eldest both take medication for High BP and the other 2 daughters are also heading that way.

The Mum said a while ago that it was 'great' they could swap clothes as they're all now a size 16-18! What bugs me is they are totally clueless about health topics and diet and the Mum has fed the girls crap diets all of their lives high in salt, fat and sugar. Even when they cook at home it's high in fat and sugar with huge portions! The worst part is she buries her head in the sand saying they're luckily not a fat family but are all just curvy girls and that it runs in the family along with High BP! The fact is they are all FAT and it's self inflicted and unfair on themselves. The girls are huge now with double chins and have no waists but hey they take great care with makeup, tan, hair and nails so that makes it OK then? Why can't they see what they're doing to themselves? My Mum says I shouldn't offer them advice as they get very offended if anyone ever suggested they were even slightly overweight but I would like to help them as I know alot about nutrition and keeping fit.

Are people who are that size truly happy with how they look and feel and do they believe they're not fat but have curves instead?

[pfrench]

Oh my god. This is completely none of your business.

[WanderingMilly]

I agree with you, size 16-18 is certainly fat.
But the bit I don't agree with is you needing to offer them advice. They are adults, making their own choices.
It sounds as though they don't know much about nutrition and are in denial about how unhealthy it is to be overweight...however, it is not for you to police them and your advice is not going to help, they just aren't going to listen and will be defensive too.

[NoMoreReluctantCustodians]

You seem over invested in their health. If you are equally appalled by people who go abroad to sit in the sun for 2 weeks or people who drink too much or people who smoke, then YANBU, and clearly concerned about the health of everyone around you. If you reserve feeling appalled only for.people who are big, then YABVU and shallow

[Haffiana]

I would dearly like to help her and them and offer advice that's all!

Unless you were once a size 18 then you have no advice to offer.

All you have is your issues with eating that like everyone else with that particular eating disorder, you have a compulsion to share.

[MotheringShites]

I’m really surprised at these comments. If it was my sister and nieces I would be concerned too (I’m guessing that’s the relationship).

Surely the Coronavirus has shone a very harsh light on the fact that obesity can cause major health complications and the impact of being severely overweight is far more than just the way you look.

[Armi]

I’m fat, but I can lose weight. People who are unkind about others have a problem that’s more difficult to shift.

[Dylaninthemovies1]

I’m a 16-18, and 5ft 2. I’m fat, not curvy and it’s not good for my health. But a much taller woman a size 16-18 may be curvy

[feelingdizzy]

I'm 5'10 and a

[LaurieFairyCake]

My weight has literally nothing to do with my happiness

Nothing at all. Happy anyway.

[pictish]

Yes it’s a good thing but NO they won’t want to hear it and NO you should not ‘try to help them’.

If they ask, fine. If not, NO.

[ATomeOfOnesOwn]

If you think they are taking regular medication but their GP hasn't weighed them and hasn't discussed their weight, then you are being very foolish.
Leave them alone. Share your wonderful tips with your 'gym girl' friends instead.

[imsooverthisdrama]

I think you need to be careful, if they ask for advice or they are upset about their size then ok but not because you think a size 18 is too big .
I do think younger people are bigger than they used to be , it was a lot rarer to see so many young girls size 16 + when I was growing up 25 years ago , I know because I was always one of the bigger girls at size 14 .
I'm a size 14-16 I'm big I know but I run 5k every day so I'm fairly fit . I do like my food though but I eat fairly healthy overall . I've excepted this is me , would I like to be slimmer yes but I wouldn't want someone having a go telling me I was overweight.
Perhaps you could subtly suggest exercise or food that's nice but healthier . If they don't want your advice then don't they may be happy as they are .

[ShebaShimmyShake]

Yes, OP, you are thinner, prettier, healthier and cleverer than these poor heifers. Feel better about yourself now?

[Hoppinggreen]

I am a size 16 and yes, I am fat
I dont need a “Gymgirl” pointing it out while expressing faux sympathy about my health.

[ShadowMane]

Oh go on then, give them the benefit of your superior knowledge, im sure they will be forever grateful

[GalwayGrowl]

Dying for a pizza now.

[zscaler]

Are people who are that size truly happy with how they look and feel

The real question is, why does it offend and upset you so much it they are...?

[MotheringShites]

Just on this page the OP has been called a prick, a twat and a cunt.

Yet she’s the one being unkind 😂

[DisobedientHamster]

You don't want to help them, you are not concerned, you are not an expert in anything. You just want to shame them. Keep your trap shut. My sister is fat, she is morbidly obese. She knows. She doesn't need me to 'help' her - she knows I've been fit all my life and have never been overweight. Whatever she decides, I support her in that because she's a beautiful person I love and respect.

[DisobedientHamster]

Are people who are that size truly happy with how they look and feel

The real question is, why does it offend and upset you so much it they are...?

This.

[carltongirl]

Am 16-18. And yes am fat. But maybe keep your unsolicited advice. People generally know they are overweight and don't need you pointing it out...