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Original poster

to ask if you resent the shielded?

241 replies

BlackBucketOfCheese · 31/05/2020 18:03

I have seen a lot of people saying on MN and across social media that they now resent giving up months of their lives “to protect the shielded” as they have put it.
And that those shielded should show gratitude.

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Stuckforthefourthtime · 31/05/2020 18:05

Not to protect the shielded, but mostly to protect the vulnerable. And no,. vulnerable people as a group don't owe anyone anything, they're in the worst position of all... But the many older or at-risk people who've been catching up with family or popping out to the shops, while young families are losing incomes and children losing education does make me really upset and angry.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 31/05/2020 18:06

I don’t resent the shielded or in anyway think they “should be grateful”. I do think we need to get back to normal and some of the measures we are taking should be questioned. I don’t think it makes sense for healthy young people to lose their income and their children to suffer further. But I blame mixed messages from the government entirely

Whawhatisaweekend · 31/05/2020 18:07

How would those shielded people show gratitude? Should they write thank you cards to everyone? Donate money to a big holiday fund for the people that missed out?

IncrediblySadToo · 31/05/2020 18:07

It was never to protect the shielded.

People who think that are SO hard of thinking that their opinion isn't at all important.

I'm sorry shielded people are having to read that shit

NameChange84 · 31/05/2020 18:08

Erm...that makes zero sense.

It’s the shielded that protected the NHS by shielding so that it wouldn’t be put under more pressure than it already was.

Anyone that criticises the shielding members of the country is a) sorely lacking in intelligence and b) pathologically lacking in empathy.

JeanSlatersSausageSurprise · 31/05/2020 18:08

Not in the slightest. I can't understand at all why anyone would resent shielded people. You've got to be some fucked up weirdo to resent people who need to shield and haven't even been allowed outside for fresh air.

Chienloup · 31/05/2020 18:09

Bloody hell. People are vile.
Of course I don't resent the shielded. Ffs.

mrsspooky · 31/05/2020 18:09

No, that would be mad, im sure no one with any sense does.

Yankathebear · 31/05/2020 18:10

I can’t imagine resenting people in the shielded group! Resenting being unwell/vulnerable?
I am lucky to have good health.

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BlackBucketOfCheese · 31/05/2020 18:11

It’s the shielded that protected the NHS by shielding so that it wouldn’t be put under more pressure than it already was.

I’ve seen people being called crazy for thinking that.

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FudgeBrownie2019 · 31/05/2020 18:11

No. I resent that our Government are so desperate to make the Cummings story go away they're pushing the shielded out of shielding before it's scientifically safe for them to do so. That's where my resentment is directed.

Destroyedpeople · 31/05/2020 18:11

Er...no...it wouldn't have crossed my mind. ..I pity them..
People are actually going mad 'resenting' each other.
I resent BJ and Cummings

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BlackBucketOfCheese · 31/05/2020 18:12

And this isn’t a TAAT.
It’s about Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, back garden comments, comments under articles, somethings I’ve seen on MN yes but more an impression from viewing weeks of all of these.

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Appuskidu · 31/05/2020 18:12

I have never seen anything on social media saying that-I am surprised people think that.

Useruseruserusee · 31/05/2020 18:12

Not at all and anyone thinking that needs to take a good long look at their morals.

Another thing that annoys me is this assumption that anyone shielding is on death’s door already. It’s a sneaky way to make their lives seem less valuable and less worth saving.

Ghostlyglow · 31/05/2020 18:12

Resent them? Why? I don't get itConfused

bathorshower · 31/05/2020 18:13

A friend is shielding. She is coping well, but I would have gone up the wall if had I not left the house since the end of March. I definitely don't resent her; I'm very grateful I don't need to shield.

And surely she (and others like her) would need to shield whatever the rest of us were doing? I imagine she'll be shielding for a while yet, with a life that's much more restricted than mine.

zscaler · 31/05/2020 18:13

No, not even slightly. We all had to pull together to minimise the risk to everyone and to protect the NHS. We all benefitted from the sacrifices everyone has made, not just the shielded.

MissisBee · 31/05/2020 18:14

Goodness no! I think the shielded group have had it harder than anyone else and all I feel is sympathy. I don't think they owe gratitude to anyone.

FourTeaFallOut · 31/05/2020 18:14

they're pushing the shielded out of shielding before it's scientifically safe for them to do so

I don't think this is true either. I think those asked to shield are not at risk from walking if they are able to follow the shielding advice.

FrodoTheDodo · 31/05/2020 18:14

No, I've never resented people that are shielding, they include some of my family members. I have been a bit confused by some of the posts i've seen from people who are shielding online the last 24 hrs but online posts are never going to be particularly representive of any group Smile

Whawhatisaweekend · 31/05/2020 18:15

Another thing that annoys me is this assumption that anyone shielding is on death’s door already. It’s a sneaky way to make their lives seem less valuable and less worth saving
This really annoys me as well. Just horrible and selfish

Kitcat47 · 31/05/2020 18:16

I dont resent people who ARE vulnerable and have underlying heath conditions who sheilded. But I do resent people who have left work and been off all this time on full pay who have posted how they are loving being off and have been here there and everywhere when the are supposed to shield. Also were itching to be off hoping the schools would close.

1Morewineplease · 31/05/2020 18:16

We were never put into lockdown to protect ‘ the shielded,’ we were put into lockdown to prevent the NHS from being totally overwhelmed!
Oh my days!

JamieLeeCurtains · 31/05/2020 18:16

You need to filter your social media use better, OP, maybe.

I've seen nothing like that on my Twitter.