to ask what the best piece of advice you've been given was?

[GabrielleChanel]

What would you do differently?

Mine were both from my mum.

If you keep picking the same sort of men then you’ll keep having the same sort of problems.

You can never go wrong with Chanel.

Always bet on yourself.

Better to be quiet and let everybody think you’re an idiot than open your mouth and confirm it.

I say that to someone on the village facebook page this evening. He’s a twat.

Oh @Tedgy that sounded messy!

Don't have more children then you have hands....

Measure twice cut once (woodshop)

Better to be alone than in bad company

put your oxygen mask on first I was told by someone on here. Think it's the best advice I've ever had an relates to so much!

My life advice to my teenaged ds. Don’t be a dick. I also tell him to not put up with others who are being dicks.

Some of the frequent advice from my mother ‘you’ll ask for that before you die’. Meaning don’t waste stuff (although this was a constant opportunity for taking the piss about asking for a bit of butter on your death bed 🤣).

Also my mother, from a poem.
Ships sail east and ships sail west, whilst the self same breezes blow. it’s the set of the sail and not the gale that sends them where they go’

And another (she was fond of a saying). It is a long road that doesn’t turn - similar to those too shall pass’.

Silence gives consent.

After getting through a not so great marriage and I now see, a not so great relationship, this makes sense now.

Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die.

Sorry is as sorry does.

And what @ragwort said.

Jump and the gods will catch you.

What's the worst that can happen.

Don't look a gift horse in the mouth.

The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.

Worse things happen at sea.
It'll all come right in the wash.
Never let them know you've got a running away fund.
You can have orchids on your budget but only if you bloody budget!
When frightened pop on your warpaint and face it head on!

My Nan was full of corkers. She was a tough cookie and I am almost certain would have viewed the Apocalypse with disdain!

Years ago, in my first job, fresh out of uni.

I was stressing about the work all the time, especially at home in the evenings. In the end, I confided to an older colleague that I was getting stressed out, and she said, "You aren't paid enough to worry about work when you're not there."

It sounds a such a simple thing, but it was a revelation to me! Over the years, the idea has evolved to "don't worry about things that are above your pay grade."

A couple more have come to mind.

• There are always 3 sides to a story. Your version, their version, and the truth is somewhere in the middle.

• Never wrestle with pigs. You both get covered in shit, and the pig likes it.

• Pay attention to how someone speaks to wait staff, because that's how they will, one day, speak to you.

• If someone ever tries the silent treatment on you... Never engage, never ask what's going on, never apologise. If you never talk again, so be it. I guess the relationship wasn't important enough to them to try and figure it out.

Don't have children.

Say what you mean, and mean what you say It makes life so much easier in the long run.

If you constantly have to work at a relationship, you're in the wrong relationship.

Paraphrased from Michael Crichtons "The Lost World", Sarah Harding saying this to a younger girl and it stuck with me from my youth:

In life others will always try to take your accomplishments away from you, never take them away from yourself.

Ie. If you've done something great, don't play it down when others comment or congratulate. Accept any compliment for your efforts and ideas.

"It's better to light a candle than curse the darkness."

When cooking a meal "You can always add salt later, but you can't take it out."

This last one isn't advice as such, but has has got me through many a dark time after the loss of a DPet "Grief is the price we pay for love".

A woman should always have her own bank account

The harder I work, the luckier I get.

If some thing is on your mind worrying you and you can't control it or it was in the past
Put it in a box , shut the lid and lock it.
Said to me by a wiser older lady when I was upset about something that had happene that really affected me.

If I ever have those thoughts again in my head I simply put them back in the box and lock it again (metaphorically speaking!)

That you are not responsible for everyone else's happiness. And not to worry about the things that you can't change and have no control over.

"What makes you think anyone's that interested in you?"- sounds harsh, but in spite of the dent to the ego it's actually incredibly reassuring to realise that when you're wondering "oh my god, what must people think of me?!", chances are, they're not.

"Your childhood may not have been perfect, but it is over." Again, tad harsh, but she was right, and it did help me to move on - and stop blaming everything on my horrible childhood.