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to ask what the best piece of advice you've been given was?

244 replies

GabrielleChanel · 31/05/2020 15:50

What would you do differently?

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CurlsandCurves · 31/05/2020 21:08

No man is worth your tears. And the one who is would never make you cry anyway.

Cherrypi · 31/05/2020 21:09

Treat yourself to an early night.
You can withhold information.
Wait till you're ready to receive potentially bad news.

LellyMcKelly · 31/05/2020 21:11

Treat people how they want to be treated, not how you would want to be treated.

Be generous with your praise, but only when you mean it.

Everyone is winging it.

We can turn this car round right now and go home (my dad, to me, on the way to my wedding. Should have listened to him Smile). You can always turn round the car and go home.

Winniewonka · 31/05/2020 21:26

From my dear departed Father "There's no point worrying over what hasn't happened"

From my dear departed Mother "Have a good cry, you'll pee less"

Lonelykettleshed · 31/05/2020 21:29

Don't borrow trouble

Ultimately you can't expect to rely on anyone other than yourself

If it smells off, don't eat it.

AliceAbsolum · 31/05/2020 21:42

You are not your thoughts.

RewriteAnEnding · 31/05/2020 21:43

You can only do what you can do

Theyweretheworstoftimes · 31/05/2020 21:47

Anger and bitterness is a waste of time. It is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die.

Christmassaussage · 31/05/2020 21:51

You are the product of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Choose your 5 wisely.

Mrscountduckula · 31/05/2020 21:56

When you’re wearing rose tinted glasses, red flags just look like flags

MuseumOfYou · 31/05/2020 22:02

Never fight with pigs; you'll both get dirty but the pigs enjoy it.
George Bernard Shaw, paraphrased by my DM.

Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 31/05/2020 22:16

Look after your time, you can always make more money, you can never make more time

ilikebooksandplants · 31/05/2020 22:16

Some of these are great!

ruthieness · 31/05/2020 22:18

You can have it all - but you cannot have it all at once.......

Graphista · 31/05/2020 22:55

@Picsinred - legally/medically I’m “insane” - does that mean I have nothing of value to say?!

Graphista · 31/05/2020 22:55

Loads - but I don’t always take it!

“If you're in a scary place, pretend to be a scary person”

I had a version of this from both parents - if you feel threatened by someone go crazy or at least pretend to - I have done this and it has worked very well.

“Beer before wine - fine. Wine before beer - fear” again slightly different version “grape or grain never the Twain” - don’t mix grape and grain.

“Drive like everyone else is a bloody idiot. Thanks Dad.”
Mine says “as if everyone else driving is blind, deaf and stupid!” Again has served me well drivers do stupid shit!

Mum and dad - never fire a gun somebody else has loaded. Meant both figuratively and literally. Literally is basic gun safety, figuratively means don’t be manipulated into fighting someone else’s battles for them and taking the blame. Something I was prone to falling for at school and in first few jobs.

Aunt - “you don’t really know a man until you divorce him” so true!

“This too shall pass”
Nobody I knew told me this I came across it elsewhere but it’s my favourite saying. I have serious mental illness and a disability and things can get very tough sometimes this saying has literally saved my life on occasion.

Both grans - “if they gossip TO you they’ll gossip ABOUT you” - again very true! I should’ve paid heed to this earlier than I did.

@EineReiseDurchDieZeit - the version I was taught by my granda was “watch how someone treats those of a lower status to them or who they think are lower status, that will tell you all you need to know” I ignored it early in my dating life at my peril, now I always notice how not only potential dates but potential friends treat waiting staff, cleaners etc and anyone who treats them poorly I steer clear of.

“You can’t always be the smartest person in the room, but endeavour not to be the most foolish” - one of my earliest lecturers

“If you raise your children you'll get to spoil your grandchildren. If you spoil your children you'll get to raise your grandchildren.” First time I’ve heard that one, I know a few people for whom it’s too late for them to learn this!

Parents AND grandparents “you only get one chance to make a good first impression” said in relation to job interviews but good advice generally

“The words of the serenity prayer, I’m not an alcoholic, but it still resonates.
If everyone else can do it, why can’t you.” I was going to mention this. Family full of addicts so it regularly crops up on my fb, and I’m agnostic at best these days, but still wise words to contemplate.

Burgerandchipvan · 31/05/2020 23:00

It always seems impossible until it is done

Stop googling (about my then newborn DS. Turns out the GP was right!)

NaviSprite · 31/05/2020 23:02

“Never trust a person that speaks in absolutes” - a very wise person who was like a surrogate Father to me and helped me through a lot.

“There are two sides to every story and somewhere in-between lies the truth” can’t remember where or when I heard this but I say it a lot.

“Always look on the bright side of life” - Brian Grin

Imonlydoingwhatican · 31/05/2020 23:10

Everyone wont like you no matter how much you want them to, so just be happy with who you are.

People will always judge no matter what you do.

AnotherElle · 31/05/2020 23:14

Weather you think you can or you think you can't you are right.

OhioOhioOhio · 31/05/2020 23:17

If in doubt, chuck it out.

MrMagooInTheLoo · 31/05/2020 23:21

When you point your finger at someone look at who the other 3 are pointing at.
Heard someone on the TV say that

MrMagooInTheLoo · 31/05/2020 23:22

The other 3 fingers

tangledhair · 31/05/2020 23:32

"Never tell your boyfriends how much money you have".

Said to the then low paid teenage me by somewhat eccentric boss but have often thought of these wise words.

Doodar · 31/05/2020 23:46

Stop meeting trouble halfway, from my mum, stops me overthinking.

Always do whenever in doubt, I mainly use this when thinking should or shouldn’t I

Don’t believe everything in the papers