to ask what the best piece of advice you've been given was?

[GabrielleChanel]

What would you do differently?

Monsters don't look like monsters. They look human with surprisingly human characteristics.

Be less worried of who will break into your home and worry more about who you let in it. (Particularly about deaths around domestic violent relationships or being home alone).

Time changes everything even when the fundamental situation stays the same.

There wouldn't be good without bad.

Do what makes you happy. A job earning £££ isn't going to make you rich if it makes you too miserable to stick at it anyway.

Comparison is the theif of joy.

Be grateful, always.

Sorry.. far too many. I could carry on.

That people have patterns of behaviour. Once is happenstance or a mistake. (which we all make on occasion). Twice and its their pattern of behaviour: & you won't change them unless they're self aware & realise & accept it's destructive or abusive.

Put your own oxygen mask on first

Heard that from my dad, a psychiatrist, and many, many flight attendants. Good advice for women everywhere!

"Don't marry him".

I wish I hadn't. I love our children more than anything on the planet, obviously, but if I had married someone who wasn't abusive, I would have loved any resulting children in just the same way.

Never mind vet piss off the bin men

What other people think of you is none of your business

Drive as though your children are in the car in front and the police are in the car behind.

What people think of me is none of my business

Don't compare the inside of your life with the outside of someone else's

You can't be everyone's cup of tea or you'd be a mug

That should have read Never ever piss off the bin men

The best way to make someone think you're a brilliant conversationalist is to let them do all the talking

Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels

The harder you work the luckier you get

Never let the sun go down on an argument - dh's grandad

If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole.

Prepare for the worst and expect the best.

This too will pass . I dont care if its hated by MNers(although Ive not come across said hate) . Nothing in this world is permanent . This year alone should teach you that. Let it pass on and enjoy the next stage.

Choose well

That's the only advice my parents would give me about marriage. They taught me to have very high standards (in character)when looking for a partner, and that its miles better to be single than in a lousy relationship. I really hope I can teach my DD the same thing.

Dad: drive your own drive.

Mum: there's no point arguing with the insane.

Both excellent pieces of advice which have seen me in good stead. 😂

Transfer a set amount of money to a savings account the day you get paid and spend what is left. If you spend your pay cheque with the intention of saving whatever is left at the end of the month, you'll get nowhere as there will never be anything left at the end of the month.

And... you can't change people, they have to change themselves.

When you're going through hell, keep going. (Churchill)

I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
(W.E. Henley, Invictus)

Never apologise, never explain
(Esteemed colleague)

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Procrastination is the thief of time.

When trying to make a decision think forward to when l am an old lady...will l regret the decision then? Usually helps me when l am at a crossroads in life.

Don't waste time thinking about the future, as were never truly in the future. We're always in the present.

It will all be okay in the end. If it's not okay now, then it is not yet the end.

If you have to eat an elephant, there's only one way to do it. One bite at a time.

Fuck me about once ..... shame on you!
Fuck me about twice ..... shane on me!

shame

I love Dr Seuss. Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

My Dad: don't ever start a war unless you know you will win
My Mum: if life hands you lemons, ask for tequilla and salt
Best Boss ever: if you have expectations you will be disappointed
Second best boss ever: be good on the way up, you may need them again on the way back down.