How do you sleep together?

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Seriously. How do couples sleep together and manage to get a good night's sleep?

I haven't spent the full night with my husband in over 2 years. Whenever we try it results in an argument. Either because one of us is taking up too much space, or one is breathing too loudly or snoring, disturbing the other. And then there's the fact we both often get up to go to the loo in the night which disturbs the other. So he will always leave to the spare room so we can actually sleep.

How do people manage it? We have a king size bed and we aren't big people. I never imagined spending my married life like this.

We go to bed at the same time, but he usually stays up reading on the iPad for an hour or more. We have a queen sized bed, don’t like king size as we end up too far from each other. I don’t know if I could sleep well without him there. Being beside him is the best possible end to the day.

We go to bed at different times and I wear earplugs. Massive bed helps

I couldn’t sleep without dp next to me, been together 16 years and we are both a sleepy wreck if we have to be apart!

We have been married for 22 years this August, but for the past 8 years or so we have had separate rooms and it is bliss.
My DH snores, only likes the thinnest of duvets on even in the middle of winter, and tends to 'starfish' in the middle of the bed. I like loads of covers and need peace, quiet and space! It also amuses me in crime dramas that married couples who sleep separately is taken as a sign by the police that all was wrong with the marriage. If we had carried on sharing a bed, we wouldn't be married now!

We don't. I have a superking which I share with the dog. He has a double in a separate room. We both sleep very well, unsurprisingly. We also have separate bathrooms.

We very happily sleep apart after 17 years of bed sharing I couldn't slept through the snoring and he got fed up of me waking him up.

What did help - separate mattresses, single duvet each, super king sized.

Never thought it would be weird that DH and I cuddle to sleep.

Having separate bedrooms has saved our marriage. We both snore and wake each other up.

I haven't slept in the same room as my husband for about 6 months now because his snoring is out of control. I was walking around like a zombie everyday due to the lack of sleep i was getting - I felt so drained. He now sleeps in another room and I feel so much better. We went away in Feb and had to sleep in the same room and it was hell, the sleep deprivation almost ruined my holiday. He has seen a sleep specialist and was told he has sleep apnea, the machine he uses for this is noisy so doesn't help with us being able to sleep in the same room.

I think we're just lucky that we don't have sleep habits that crazily annoy each other. If we did, we'd be thinking about separate rooms! There's no way I'd sleep next to a snorer, cuddler, or someone who needs to be warm to sleep.

I think I annoy DH more than he annoys me. I don't like cuddling but I do like to feel that he is next to me, which sometimes makes him too hot. I also have spates of talking in my sleep which is probably quite annoying.

DH sometimes sleeps with his mouth open and I can't stand the smell of his middle of the night breath. But that's pretty much it.

Really big bed lots of pillows

We don’t. Am not doing so ever again.

superking bed
separate matresses
separate duvets.

Quite easily.
We've been together 13 years and I'd never consider sleeping separately unless it was needed for medical reasons.
Neither of us snore which probably helps.
Sometimes we may have a small issue about "stealing the duvet" but not to the extent we wouldn't bed share 🙈 I can count on 1 hand the amount of times we haven't due to daughter being in bed with one of us when she's been ill

With great difficulty. Two duvets dues help but the snoring is an ongoing problem

I have a super king sized and I still cannot sleep alongside someone!

Oh well good job I am dating from a distance at present

Super king size bed, tempur mattress (he could jump on his side and I wouldn't feel it on mine), and a double duvet each so he can kick his off and I can wrap mine around me. Has worked for us for almost 20 years.

I am very glad to see all these couples who are not sleeping together at night. I've been seriously thinking about the spare room but dh gets so hurt and upset

Superking, very good quality mattress and topper that doesn't bounce and jiggle, separate duvets and I also wear silicone earplugs and an eye mask. We also have a fan and blackout blinds.

Now have a king sized bed and he wears a cpap machine for his snoring. Or think it would have been separate rooms.

Used to sleep In a double and he liked the cuddle up to me and I hated it, too hot, snoring.

But now due to cpap machine he doesn't cuddle up anymore and I miss it sometimes.

King sized bed is just about right but he does steel the duvet. But hate changing duvet covers don't think i could cope with 2 duvets.

Did sleep in hotel once and it had a massive bed, not sure if it was super king or Queen don't know which is bigger. I thought king size was big but this was amazing,

But I'm grateful for anything after Sharing a small double when first moved In together how I coped I'll never know

Super king good quality mattress that doesn’t move when the other turns over and separate duvets.

Big bed but then we also share with the cats too.

We have a super king bed and quilt.

Can’t help with the snoring we listen to a relaxation recording together. Which helps me relax but sometimes his snoring is so bad I can hardly hear it. But we always stay in the same bed as don’t have the luxury of a spare bedroom.

We don't.

Have done everything that other people swear by - super king bed, separate zip linked mattresses, separate duvets, no tv, music, screens, large bedroom so easy to get in and out of bed quietly.

Still can't sleep.

The main issue for us is that I like the window open & DH doesn't .... but it's much more comfortable to have our own rooms. I love retreating to my own space .

Emporer bed