How do you sleep together?

[MeetMeInTheMiddle]

Seriously. How do couples sleep together and manage to get a good night's sleep?

I haven't spent the full night with my husband in over 2 years. Whenever we try it results in an argument. Either because one of us is taking up too much space, or one is breathing too loudly or snoring, disturbing the other. And then there's the fact we both often get up to go to the loo in the night which disturbs the other. So he will always leave to the spare room so we can actually sleep.

How do people manage it? We have a king size bed and we aren't big people. I never imagined spending my married life like this.

We both generate heat so top and tail, we have a double bed, it makes a massive difference sleeping the way we do,,,, we have a king size coming soon so should be interesting to see if we stop topping and tailing

I never realised how sleep deprived i was until we decided to sleep separately about 3 years ago, dh has spare room so i have king size bed to myself. His snoring got worse and he used to kick out in his sleep so much that i found i was sleeping on edge of bed and worried i was going to fall out.
It has improved sex life too, so those who say not sharing a bed is the end of your relationship are wrong.

Separate rooms. Absolute bliss

We have separate bedrooms, I highly recommend it.

Occasionally we'll attempt to sleep together but we just love sleeping alone.

My 20-year old self would be horrified at this arrangement, I'm sure.

@Elouera I agree with putting the bed in the centre of the room, so each of you can get out of bed on their own sides for the loo without disturbing the other. It works I never know if hubby got up in the night or not.

I would like separate bedrooms (and a bathroom come to that) but we dont have that many rooms sadly!

I moved into the spare room a few months back due to not being able to get comfy because of back problems. I can't see myself ever going back. I love sleeping alone.

Super king bed & separate duvets. The best thing we ever did was decide to stop sharing a duvet. It was life changing, and a complete no-brained.

We don't. We've had our own bedrooms for at least 10 years. Only time we share is on holiday.

Super king size, air con to drown out any snuffling noises, much needed as two dogs also share the bed! The odd 3am shuffle off to the spare room

Superking, baby.

We sleep separately. Snoring is torture as was lack of sleep.

Another one for superking size bed, we've had an emperor bed before which is 7ft and I'm tempted to go back to it. Only changed it as quite limited to bedding but more places do it now.

We have a standard double bed as our bedroom is too small for anything bigger. King size duvet as OH didn't want to get duvet each. We manage and once asleep its fine. But I would like more space and my own duvet. For our next house I will buy the biggest bed I can find.

The biggest bed you can afford and fit in the room, separate duvets, earplugs and eye masks.

Kingsize bed in middle of room. Sleep facing away from each other and neither of us snore. I have a bladder of steel and DH very rarely gets up in middle of night. I am a light sleeper so don’t cope well with disturbance. We have a double bed in another room which we slept in while waiting for paint to dry in our own room. Barely slept a wink; paint fumes would have been preferable. I wouldn’t want to sleep on my own and like having DH in the bed as long as no contact while trying to fall asleep.

We don’t. I can’t bear it. I get too hot, he twitches, I like to spread out and we haven’t the room for a king size.

@YetAnotherSpartacus

Separate houses. It's the only way.

Separate rooms mostly.
He’s a really restless sleeper and at well over 6’ tall it’s like sleeping beside a gorilla. We also both work shifts so there are quite a lot of nights we’re working anyway.
No snoring but I’m super sensitive to any noise he makes due to a violent, snoring ex husband who would throw a punch if he was woken from his sleep.
I love falling asleep beside DH so we’ll sometimes do that and then he slips into the spare room.

@JesusInTheCabbageVan DH does the bouncing thing as well. He is such a restless sleeper and moves and mumbles constantly. I'm exhausted!

King size bed and separate duvets! I feel the cold, so fleecy pyjamas, thick duvet, weighted blanket. He feels the heat, so T-shirt and a light duvet.

King size bed and different bed times so I'm asleep when he comes in. No touching/cuddling etc as we get too hot. We rarely wake each other.

My parents were devoted to each other for 50 years but as soon as I moved out at 21, dm took my room. They hated sleeping next to each other.

We share a king side duvet. Our bed is 150cm x 200 cm.

My DH used to moan, bump his teeth together, grind his teeth, snore and puff, puff, puff. I sent him to a sleep specialist, who referred him to a dentist who made him a bespoke mandible repositioner and now he barely makes a noise in his sleep! He sleeps better wearing it too.

We sleep with the windows open locked and have different weights of duvet for through the year.

Apparently I snore too but I've never woken myself up, DH used to wake himself up all the time.

Separate rooms, or we’d be divorced by now (together 35 years).