To think that people who don't do very much have almost got their lives back

[Ghostlyglow]

Certainly not judging those people, nothing wrong with a quiet life if that's what you enjoy.
Those of us who quite like to keep work life separate from home life and like to spend their leisure time attending gigs, going to the pub, travelling etc. have no light at the end of the tunnel yet.

Funny how all the things you mention doing cost money. Maybe people who don't do them usually can't afford to?

I miss being able to hug my friends the most I think.

@Winnipegdreamer

I think those of us that don’t fill our lives with big gestures, days out, instawanker picture perfect places etc etc etc will have found this a lot easier yes. It must be difficult when all of that is stripped away to find excitement in the small things

While I think that the OP has (to be charitable) worded her post poorly so that it sounds a bit judgy, this is pretty vile, @Winnipegdreamer I love days out and the theatre when I can, I go to nice places and yes I often post them on social media because most of my friends like those things too and are interested (as I am in their, similarly posts) None of it is filling my life with ‘big gestures’, it’s just what I like 🤷‍♀️ I’m not an instawanker whatever that is (I’m assuming you are one of the strange and sad posters who thinks a friend putting something nice on social media is boasting) and I do t see the problem in places which are pretty enough to photograph. At the same time, these things are a relatively small part of my life and I can still find things to enjoy, especially now parks are open. It’s nothing like normal though.

@nanbread exactly! This has given me respite from having to make excuses to friends as to why we can do things they think is normal, day trips with them, cinema, nights out. It’s because we can’t bloody afford to do anything (I do tell them that but people don’t tend to understand that no money means no money, not just that you’d rather spend it on something else).

I like working from home, wearing what I like and not feeling like I should put makeup on.

Funnily enough, I feel like I can embrace my sense of style and make up much better in lockdown as I don't have to maintain a bland professional look.

If lockdown lasts much long I'll go full goth.

I see what you mean all the you did come a across a bit goady. If I was in my 20 early thirties I think I feel it more. Having two young children I do have to do things around them rather than doing a lot of things I use to do regularly. I wish I could just go to to England and see half my family who live there I'm only over the boarder to. That's the only big difference that will make me happy.

I don't do much because I've been a lone parent for a long time. However I still go out on occasion. Probably 6 times per year 'out out'. However my parents are in the shielding category and I don't know when I can resume any part of normal life. I had choices which have been taken away.

You're joking? I'm unemployed and don't socialise much, but I live in a big city and for the best three months of the year I haven't been able to use public transport to get out of the city. I'm absolutely miserable.

Grrrr, Its a global pandemic FFS, Can we just stop with this ‘But I have it worse’ than some people crap.

Op, your glass is fuller than a lot op people’ s, take time to appreciate that.

@Ponoka7

“if those people end up influencing the delay in moving towards normality*

But you could argue the opposite. Lots of people haven’t taken lockdown seriously because think their leisure activities trump someone else’s life.

I’m not in England, but shocked that restrictions have been lifted when the rate of infection is nowhere near being under control.

It also depends what you mean by 'got their lives back'. Our lives are stil massively different because neither dh nor I are going to work atm. But that just means that we are enjoying being able to spend loads of time doing other stuff.

You’re totally right. This is very close to some people’s ‘normal’ of gardening, walking dogs etc but a million miles away from someone else’s normal of going to the gym, eating out, going to festivals/live sport etc.
More judgementally than you, I know of quite a few people who don’t really like to do anything at all (least of all work). They are having the time of their lives. I am jealous

I also take the point about finances - we don’t have a lot of ‘leisure’ money so can’t do a lot of things for financial reasons rather than lockdown reasons. So in that respect, we are not missing out any more than normal !

Another 'Yes' to speakout's post.

OP you meant to be judgemental of other people, your tone of 'separating work from family life' wasn't exactly subtle about it either. I also agree with a PP that you do sound as if you 'need entertaining' for your quality of life. That's sad for you.

Maybe stop comparing other people to you? You'd be happier, perhaps?

Oh crap. The thread is 2 pages, not one. That keeps happening. I've read your update OP and I take it back - apart from the bit about stop comparing your situation to other people's, there's no need for it.