I haven't read the full thread so apologies if I am repeating anything.
I watched this family on Youtube for about a year before they even discussed adoption. I ceased watching them about 3 or 4 months after they brought Huxley home.
Regarding the breakdown of the adoption, and Huxley's placement into a family that can better meet his needs, I think this is a good thing, and I don't think this makes Myka or James abhorrent or any of the other horrible things that are being said about them. It would have been worse, IMO, for them to have continued, knowing that not only Huxley, but the other children in their care, were not having their needs fully met.
That being said, the backlash they are now facing for the publicity aspect and the making money from it, I am torn. It clearly isn't right or acceptable. However, they aren't the first to do this. There is quite a large content base on YouTube of families who have crowdfunded and profited (through ad revenue) when adopting children, both domestically within their country and also internationally. Myka and James are products of that, and while it is not acceptable, they don't deserve to be hung out as examples when it is so widespread.
The issues in this family, IMO, centre around Myka. She strikes me as someone who could be described as a narcissist, and is certainly not as intelligent or as wordly as she likes to portray. She craves attention and adoration and the adoption felt like a classic saviour complex from the word go.
James is a classic enabler, but with him, I think he is genuinely a nice man who at all times just tries to do the best by everyone, and ultimately will do anything to make Myka happy.
From the moment they met Huxley, Myka was unable to bond with him, and sadly, this outcome is not surprising at all.
I worry for the other children, especially the oldest (I won't name any of the other children here). Myka's parenting is questionable on a good day, and the oldest child IMO gets the brunt of the odd choices.
The other children were "homeschooled" (I am not against homeschooling but with Myka this was more her playing teacher than any actual attempt at enriching her children) and now I believe they are enrolled in school....this makes me think that child services were involved.
This is a really sad situation all round, but I am hopeful that Huxley is now in a home that is meeting his needs, and that the other children are now in school and being monitored at least. I don't think Myka or James are horrible people, I don't think they did the adoption to profit or with the express intention of this outcome. I think Myka got an idea in her head, and with thousands of followers behind her, ran with it in the face of reality and better judgement. The fact this little boy was caught up in it is a tragedy, but we can only hope he is now in a much better place.