How long before I'm allowed to worry??

[butterflyroses]

Ds 15 went out to meet some friends at 2pm (I KNOW!)

He's not back and his phones dead. He's not usually out this long. He's not sleeping at the moment and he has no money on him to get food/drink.

How long can I leave it before I really worry??

Yes I know he shouldn't be out, I've had that argument plenty of times with him.

I’d call the police and ask their advice. Police bringing him home might give him the scare he needs anyway.

It's fine for your son to go out and meet a friend, how many friends is clearly not the most urgent concern here.
There are obviously things going on that are causing you to worry now so it's not really a question of when it becomes reasonable, you are worried.
Do you know if he has his phone with him? Do you know who he went to meet and do you have any numbers for them? No need to reveal your worry if you think that would embarrass him you could make an excuse like dinner being ready.
He's probably lost track of time, more easily done if his phone battery has run out.

Likely got caught up having a good time catching up with his friend(s)
However I would be anxious also.
Do you know where they might be? Who he is with?

Can you call his friends/their parents? He’s probably just lost track of time but if your worried it’s worth following up to put your mind at rest.

We're going to go look for him, it's really unlike him to be out this long.

I know the first names of the friends he went to meet, no idea where they live or their numbers.

I'm hoping he's just lost track of time, or maybe he's walked to far and tired walking back. His friends have bikes but he didn't take his and just runs with them.

I'm expecting him to walk in any second and tell me I'm stupid.

Hope he’s arrived home safely, I’ve got teens and they do lose track of time and the concept of messaging to say they will be home late just doesn’t seem to occur to them.

Hope he’s home safe and sound soon

Hope he's home soon. Sure he just got caught up in the nice weather

Can you find them on Facebook and message the friends?

@butterflyroses hope he walks through the door now. Good luck.

Hoping he'll be home safe soon.

Can you put out a message on local spotted page?

Hope he's home safe soon @butterflyroses.

Have a look through Facebook for the names of the kids, maybe even Instagram if they seem the sort to post regular updates.

My ds did this a few times around that age , it is usually “oh I just lost track of the time as my phone was dead “ or some such rubbish.
Probably just enjoying being out in the sun with friends .
Sure he’ll turn up soon like he doesn’t understand the fuss

He's probably lost track of time having fun with his friends he hasn't seen in a while x

If he’s not been out in a while he’s probably just having fun. And with it getting darker later it’s easy to lose track of time

Hope you find him, OP. Don't hesitate to call the police if you can't.

Hope you've found him.

Were you worried about him before he went out?

If not there's probably no need to worry now, but worry isn't always very rational 🥴

It's a worry for sure.

My 18 yr old DD went out at 5 last night. I text her at 10.30pm to see where she was and she said she wouldn't be long. I fell asleep. Woke up at 1am and asked my DP if she had come in, he said no!!! She rolled in about 10 minutes later.

I really hope he's ok and fingers crossed he'll be back before 1am.

Only you know your son, and how responsible he is.

Me, I'd give him till dusk so 8:30- 9:00pm ISH, after that I'd start worrying and call the police as he will be a 15year old out at night then.

If you don't hear anything soon, I'd get in touch with parents of any friends he's had, to see if they're DC have any contact details for people he's with.

Hope you hear soon. Here the younger ones are meeting in fields not far off the roads, so worth checking these or park areas

Have you got the numbers for any of his friends or their parents? Any way you could find those? That's what I have done in the past when trying to get hold of DS (also 15). I now have a nice little collection of 15yo numbers, so mine actually answers when I call him - to ensure I don't text his friends!

When my son did this I looked through his friends list on Instagram for the ones I knew he was with and messaged them on there-They got back to me(son typically did not) Then they told him I had said to come home! Worth a shot