Family member invited me for a picnic then asked me to provide the food, CF or not?

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A member of my family has been looking forward to restrictions being loosened so we could meet up and they could see the children. They invited us (me and the children) for a socially distanced picnic.

They then asked me to provide the food "you can sort the food can't you"

Getting the children ready for days out and leaving the house takes forever as it is and I find that stressful enough, this person doesn't have children so doesn't appreciate that.

Am I being a spoil sport or are they a CF?

It's my auntie, who I love dearly but has form for CFery.

My mum has been isolating with her for the past three weeks, having moved in mid lockdown. Not ideal but I don't begrudge them the company. Both in their 60's, in good health and were lonely.

So it'll be my aunt and my mum from that household, then me and my two children from mine.

You are allowed to meet ONE other person. You should cancel.

Wow that’s even worse!
That’s a small gathering.

I'll be keeping the children in the pram and staying 2+ metres apart. I fail to see how that's any less acceptable than standing in close proximity with 50+ strangers in a queue which I do twice per week.

My son is also going back to nursery in two weeks so will be in close proximity with 15 other children with no social distancing but shouldn't be allowed to sit in his pram 2m away from his grandmother and great aunt.

It's all a bit backwards.

When I took ddog to the beach on Wednesday there were very well socially distanced dps set up with tents /picnics etc along the beach..
All good until you saw along the shore line masses of dc together!
Council here are setting up new measures to keep people away. Be careful you aren't approached op.
I agree it's madness but hopefully your family will stick to the 2 m ruling at least.

Thank goodness someone’s got some common sense, OP, good for you. Glad you’ve sorted the food issue.

Yeah, that's annoying. It's not normal or polite to invite someone out and then expect them to provide your meal. If anything, she should have offered to feed you (if it weren't for CV-19).

What are the chances that a CF auntie isn’t going to insist on contact with the children? And that mum will follow suit.

You are going to have to be more assertive here. Most families who meet up don’t socially distance. They will be taking their lead from the people around them. You are going to be pressurised into having contact.

That’s the difference between some of the analogies you are making.

I've already made it very clear in advance that hugs and kisses are off limits and we'll have to keep our distance, so I've no worries about that.

I nipped the food CFery in the bud straight away and then reiterated about the rules so there are boundaries in place

Definitely CF!

Wouldn’t everyone just bring their own food?

I don’t really think this follows the guidelines though, you’re only supposed to meet up with one person from outside your household at a time.

I assumed both households would provide their own food for themselves yes. I don't know why she expected me to make up a load of sandwiches and provide snacks/drinks.

I'm aware it goes beyond the guidelines but given the fact I'm strict on maintaing the 2m distance, I won't be putting ourselves or them at risk. The children will be staying in the pram.

Well since we are still in lockdown and you can only meet 1 person and stay 2 metres apart it should not be an issue as you are not allowed to go in the first place.

Of course OP shouldn't cancel. FFS.

Enjoy your meet up, OP. Hopefully your mum and Auntie will cheerfully respect the 2m rule as you enjoy your picnic.

I absolutely won't be cancelling for the reasons mentioned above.

I see no problem providing we respect the 2m rule which we have all agreed to do.

It’s just crazy that you’re more concerned about the cf of food than breaking the lockdown rules.

Your aunt is a CF FYi

Wtf? Cheeky cow. And if you don't want to go for the picnic then don't go! How old are the children? Will they understand social distancing? Is she the sort to try to take the piss with it once you're there?

Sorry just read the thread so ignore my post.

I've followed the rules stringently from the start, I haven't seen my mother in months.

Children can't socially distance if they are at nursery, I however am keeping them in the pram.

There's next to no social distancing going on when I go shopping, as soon as people are past the queue then the 2m goes out the window.

We have hand gel. We're outdoors. We won't be having physical contact.

Your children are going to stay in the pram? How old are they?
Doesn’t sound like much fun for them.

I am living in a parellel universe, some of us are still following the rules whilst the rest are flouting them.

Maybe they meant just your food. You should ask

Your breaking the rules to suit yourself! Hope you get stopped by the police and fined

My children are 2 and 1.

It's not great to have to keep them in the pram but it stops them breaking the 2m.

They get plenty of exercise and are allowed to run around on the grass when it's just myself and DH taking them out. It won't hurt them sitting in the pram.