Ettiquette question (very trivial)

[PelicanPuffin]

Name changed as it's so trivial and not the sort of thing I normally post.

When I was at university a few years ago, I went to view a house with a view to potentially moving in the following year. I had seen it advertised by two girls who I didn't know, and was met by the one I had spoken to on the phone when I arrived.

It wasn't something I thought about at the time, but she was wearing a beanie hat over her hair. Something reminded me of her today and it got me thinking whether it was slightly rude? If it was, I'm not bothered, just curious as to what others might think.

Why would her wearing a beanie hat be rude?

I think it would be considered rude not to remove a hat when inside yes.

Err... what?

She was in her own home, ffs. It's rude of you to judge, not for her to wear a hat.

A few years ago someone wore a hat and you're worried if it was rude.

Jesus fucking Christ, there's some absolutely ridiculous shite on here lately.

Because I've heard some people consider it rude to wear hats indoors, especially in front of guests.

Is lockdown getting to you?

Maybe ‘some’ people do consider it rude, but why on earth does it matter?

She was wearing a beanie hat in her own home. How could that possibly be rude? What could be offensive about a beanie hat? She didn't answer the door naked, ffs.

I think it would be considered rude not to remove a hat when inside yes.

Women don't have to remove hat indoors if it's part of the outfit (which I guess usually is).

And...
Wtf, OP😂

It is trivial. I am a complete scruff bag so am happy with people wearing whatever they like in any situation!

It was a few years ago and you are thinking about it today? You must be seriously bored in lockdown . Weren’t beanie hats quite fashionable a few years ago so it might have been more of a thing to wear them all the time?

It wasn't rude.

It doesn't matter, I'm just curious.

About 50 years ago it was seen as rude for a man to wear a hat indoors but never women. In fact the rule was for men to remove hats when at church and women to wear hats.

I cringe a bit at the idea of you thinking it was rude. A lot of people I know have worn hats or some sort of a head covering for religious reasons, alopecia, cancer etc. It’s really not seen as rude to wear a hat indoors these days.

Some days I wonder why I come on here to read this shit...

Maybe she was cold, maybe she has alopecia, maybe she just likes to wear a hat. Rude my arse.

I've got a baseball cap on backwards currently and I'm sitting in my office working from home, am I being rude?

Something triggered the memory and it reminded me of things I've heard/read. I wasn't bothered then or now.

Women don’t need to remove hats inside. That only applies to men

Traditionally it was considered polite for men to remove hats indoors, particularly in church. Women didn't, though.

But I don't think beanie hats are what they had in mind - they're inherently informal and don't really come into the field of etiquette as such! If she were actually rude, as in insulting, or chewed gum with her mouth open while talking to you, or something like that, that would be rude. Not wearing a woolly hat indoors.

Cross-posted with Youngatharte.

Ignore the rudeness, OP; most of us are reminiscing or thinking about daft stuff due to boredom.

A bit odd to wear a hat indoors, yes.

What was your Uni course?!

Thank you @wink1970. Question was just out of curiosity.

My dad would make a comment of the 'are you not staying' variety if I was inside and hadn't taken my coat off, is that the sort of thing you mean?

I don't know if people consider it rude to wear hats, coats or any other sort of outdoor wear inside (although it might be best to stay away from shoes ) but it's something that some people will notice and may comment on.

I would probably think it was just part of her outfit. Definitely not comment as she may be uncomfortable about her hairstyle, not want to take the hat off in case her hair was a mess, or possibly even covering her head for religious reasons although a beanie wouldn't usually be used for that reason.