Ettiquette question (very trivial)

[PelicanPuffin]

Name changed as it's so trivial and not the sort of thing I normally post.

When I was at university a few years ago, I went to view a house with a view to potentially moving in the following year. I had seen it advertised by two girls who I didn't know, and was met by the one I had spoken to on the phone when I arrived.

It wasn't something I thought about at the time, but she was wearing a beanie hat over her hair. Something reminded me of her today and it got me thinking whether it was slightly rude? If it was, I'm not bothered, just curious as to what others might think.

It is not rude or odd to wear a hat in the home, what on earth are you thinking ! I have been to houses,where people have worn all sorts of hats indoors.From baseball caps, beanies, floppy sun hats, stetsons and my late Grandad never seemed to discard his old trilby type gardening hat, even when sitting down for a meal in the kitchen.

Imagine if she were wearing a cowboy hat. One might need therapy to get over the shock.

Jesus fucking Christ, there's some absolutely ridiculous shite on here lately.

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If it was the 1940s then it would have been rude but not now!

I always wear a hat until it gets warm but not in the house

Not rude. Just something people do when young.

What?

Wasnt it quite fashionable to wear beanie hats indoors a few years ago. I remember it being a thing ?

Student wears beanie hat indoors.

That is all.

Given it was a student house she probably needed it as every one I've ever been in is always bloody freezing! I think here practically and necessity trump and kind of social contract .

As I keep saying, I wasn't offended, just vaguely noticed.

I think there’s new manners over beanies and it’s considered alright to wear them indoors. My kids see them as part of a whole look and have gone through fazes of wearing their beanies indoors, also with selfie culture hat hair would mean bad selfies.

I have never taught in a school that allows children to wear a hat indoors, if that helps, OP? Maybe that is where you are getting the rule from? For some reason, Head teachers find it a red rag to a bull and I am now very twitchy about children with hats on, children with non-school colour hair bands, children wearing jumpers tied around their waists, etc etc I could go on for ages.

wearing a wooly hat indoors may look more than a bit daft, but as far as I am aware it has never been considered rude.

it is the kind of thing the 'free spirit' types tend to do. Or those who live in a cold house, of course.

I think it's illegal not to wear a hat if you're a student

But in the case of school that’s about uniform. If it’s not uniform or worn correctly then it needs to be taken off or put on correctly so that all the kids look, well, “uniform”.

And if anything, a beanie hat was the unofficial student uniform back in the day

My DH wears a hat almost everywhere (cap in the summer, beanie in the winter). It’s a habit from starting to lose his hair in his 20s. FIL still goes mad every time if he’s wearing his hat in the house when we go to visit them. I think it’s an older rule of etiquette that people just don’t really bother about anymore. It’s interesting how fast norms change.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-40640634

^The old rule is that hats are never worn indoors after 6pm, because that is when the ladies changed into evening dress, and tiaras and the family jewels would come out.

Flashy diamonds and tiaras are not worn during the day, and only married ladies wear tiaras.^

Hope that clears it up for you OP.

A few years ago someone wore a hat and you're worried if it was rude.

This was probably started by Justine to get us to pay for Mumsnet Premium.

It would be a shame if the site bit the dust and we lost out on the chance to read cracking threads like this one.

@NameChange84 true also I think if girls were allowed to wear hats indoors, the boys (though mainly their parents!) would kick up a fuss

Are you a bit of a literal thinker OP?

What the fuck did I just read?

In some Christian sects, the women feel they have been commanded to keep their heads covered all the time even when indoors. She could have been one of those.

Not sure what you mean, Budgie?

Men must remove hats indoors and in church. Women do not need to.

It's funny how things "pop up" and "worry" us

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