Ettiquette question (very trivial)

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Name changed as it's so trivial and not the sort of thing I normally post.

When I was at university a few years ago, I went to view a house with a view to potentially moving in the following year. I had seen it advertised by two girls who I didn't know, and was met by the one I had spoken to on the phone when I arrived.

It wasn't something I thought about at the time, but she was wearing a beanie hat over her hair. Something reminded me of her today and it got me thinking whether it was slightly rude? If it was, I'm not bothered, just curious as to what others might think.

Was it after 6pm OP?

Women can wear hats inside

Well, that's these films ruined for me now.

Bloody rude woman.

Only before six itsbetter because of the tiaras. Wearing a beanie after six instead of your tiara means you are no better than you ought to be.

OP is your name Hyacinth?

Because I've heard some people consider it rude to wear hats indoors, especially in front of guests.

Strictly speaking, it is only men who must remove their hats indoors. Ladies may retain their's if their visit is brief or they don't know the host well. If in doubt, ask the butler or footman upon arrival. Older ladies may wear a cap indoors in their own homes, so I would guess beanie was fine if she was over 25.

Maybe she had alopecia?

Ignore the rudeness, OP; most of us are reminiscing or thinking about daft stuff due to boredom.

We can all see the title before we click on it.You did say it was trivial! Not sure why so many posters are clicking and replying so rudely.

My u/s is that it is not rude for a woman. My BIL wears his hat (b'ball cap) at family dinners and it makes my MIL mad!

I'm sure I violate etiquette all the time when I wear my sunglasses inside. We live at high altitude and the sun is blinding - I forget to take them off!

For the record, she did not have alopecia.

Sorry, 'host' should be 'hostess'. A well brought up young lady would never visit a man in his home without a hostess being present.

We can all see the title before we click on it.You did say it was trivial! Not sure why so many posters are clicking and replying so rudely.

Thank you @DamnYankee

When I was a student I always had a beanie hat on. I guess I thought it looked cool 🙄

'Traditional people' wouldn't think it rude. Because they would know it's only seen as rude for men to be wearing hats indoors.

Queen's got my hat on again. Bloody rude of her, I've told her, but she keeps appearing in it...

What's rude about a beanie hat? It's only men who are supposed to remove headgear indoors unless they are Orthodox Jews or Arabs.

it’s not unusual to ponder something - but it’s a bit strange that it got stuck in your head at all!!?

Many years ago (early 70s) we had a supply teacher come in to teach one of my primary school music classes. She was incredibly bad-tempered and picked on one poor lad who was wearing a baseball cap, making him stand while we all sat on the floor. She launched into a long monologue about how her son had once brought a child home for tea and how that child hadn’t taken his cap off indoors, such dreadful rudeness etc etc.

She finished her story and with a final flourish pulled the boy in our year’s hat off. To reveal a bald head and terrible scars from the surgery he’d just had. We’d all tried to tell her but it was too late.

The young woman you mention might’ve had surgery, or hair loss or just been cold.

Because I've heard some people consider it rude to wear hats indoors, especially in front of guests

Rubbish!

Have you never watched Coronation Street or Emmerdale?

Minnie Caldwell and Edna Birch always wore their hats indoors. And End Sharples had a hairnet.

'Tis the height of appropriate good manners.

She was a student, in her own home. I really don’t think etiquette comes into it do you?!

Well this makes a change from Coronavirus posts 🤣 Anyhow no it's fine Op. stop worrying about it.

I believe that gentlemen should always remove their hats when indoors, ladies do not need to. So no, wearing a beanie would not be considered bad manners

No

I think if it was all that she was wearing it could be construed as being a bit rude, if she had just been trying to cut her own hair for the first time it might have been a necessity.

What was the room like?

I think it used to be but hasn't been for decades. I say this because for my and I believe most of my peers (err I say believe because it's never been a conversation exactly ...but noone has ever commented on hats being worn inside when they have so assuming not a thing and it probably wouldn't cross my mind to even notice)

However my df has always had a thing about it , that and wearing a hat in the car. He generally , when it came up, considered it akin to sacrificing a small chicken to beelzebub in his bathtub.

Then again he reacts the same way to the cereal container being left on the table after you have poured your cereal so he could well just be nucking futs.

Oh and I say for decades because I'm 40 so not been an issue for me (except for df)