Ettiquette question (very trivial)

[PelicanPuffin]

Name changed as it's so trivial and not the sort of thing I normally post.

When I was at university a few years ago, I went to view a house with a view to potentially moving in the following year. I had seen it advertised by two girls who I didn't know, and was met by the one I had spoken to on the phone when I arrived.

It wasn't something I thought about at the time, but she was wearing a beanie hat over her hair. Something reminded me of her today and it got me thinking whether it was slightly rude? If it was, I'm not bothered, just curious as to what others might think.

I wouldve thought the home is too cold and drafty or she has a hair issue.

Jesus fucking christ. Get a life

A dignitary visiting Clarridges! spits out tea!

Hahahha having been to view student properties a few days before lockdown as a young professional we went to view at 1 and everyone bar one was still in bed. So I think the idea that not taking a hat off is rude is ludicrous.

Omg were you in Downton Abbey I remember someone coming home and saying I must go upstairs to take off my hat 😂

And that’s 1pm. So we looked at about 5 properties. Walking into rooms of over 20 people asleep 😂😂

Rude to wear a hat indoors? Ever been to an event, or inside a religious building?!

not rude so much as a bit weird.

In the rules of etiquette then yes it’s considered rude. It wouldn’t even register with me.

@portocristo - that was Lady Mary! And she'd definitely have to go upstairs to take off her hat, because she'd have to redo all her hat hair. Well, her maid would.

Yep that’s her lady Mary uppity little person if I remember rightly 😂

Isn't the whole point of student life to do wild and crazy things like wear your beanie hat indoors?

In 1953, Churchill opposed the televising of the coronation on the grounds that it was a church service and would be viewed by people not wearing hats.

My grandmother who was very proper would not dream of going out without wearing a hat and she certainly didn't take it off indoors. I remember taking her with me when I went to visit an older friend (someone nearer her age than mine). Our hostess took her coat and granny sat in the armchair with her hat on her head and her handbag on her lap. It would never have occurred to her to take her hat off when visiting for a short time.

However my dad would not have considered going indoors anywhere - church/shop/house with his hat on.

Why the need for foul language? Adds nothing to your post

Women in the olden days were required to have their heads covered in church. The reverse applied to men. I doubt eyebrows would be raised over that these days anywhere other than in an orthodox church.

Aside from which, etiquette is a crock. It's not the same thing as manners. In fact, it's far removed from them to the extent that it's sometimes rude in itself.

Stayathomer
Not purposefully although he does speak with his mouth full with ensuing results... But he always treated my house like a hotel, never cleared up after himself, expects to be waited on hand and foot in his house and mine. Dh has had to teach him to say thank you as he never did. Not once. I’m disabled and chronically ill btw.

I presume he was never taught good etiquette or table manners, which have got worse over the years. Eg to cut the butter, he licks the knife to heat it up, uses the tea towel as a napkin then as a tea towel etc.

Op, was there something about these girls? Did you find them cool, or were you jealous of them? I’m guessing you didn’t move in.

The fact you’re still thinking about them so many years later, and trying to find something they did “wrong” would indicate something deeper here.

I’ve moved house several times, seen many properties, I couldn’t pick the owners or agents out a line up never mind remember the ones I viewed and didn’t move to. So the fact you can, you admit you think about them, and now are trying to work out if something so ridiculous as a student wearing a beanie in her own home is rude, would indicate a deeper issue.

Op, was there something about these girls? Did you find them cool, or were you jealous of them? I’m guessing you didn’t move in.

I didn't move in, as some friends offered me a place in their house. However, I might have done if I hadn't been offered a place by someone I knew.

I was not jealous of them, nor did I look down on them. They actually seemed nice, and I sometimes wonder about them.

😂 What?
No it's not rude to wear a hat in your house.
I thought the birds nest thread was bonkers but this beats it.

I'm forever changing my hairstyle, and consequently spend approx a third of my life with my hair in an ugly 'growing out' phase. During these times I wouldn't be seen dead (by anyone except family) WITHOUT a beanie / beret / headscarf / something covering the hellish proto-mullet underneath! I do the same if I badly need my roots done (ahem, like now). I probably wouldn't wear an actual beanie to a job interview or a fancy party, but if I had nightmare hair then I'd still find a way to cover it appropriately.

It would never occur to me for a millisecond that anyone might 'take against' this! And I’m neither young nor a uni student.

Was this in the early 2000s? Weren't beanies the height of fashion then? So either she was covering up a hair disaster (or possibly just hadn't washed her hair for a few days lol) or she just thought she looked cool.

Mummyoflittledragon My grandad used to do similar although I only noticed after he was gone, it's mad the things we take for granted, but then actusually it's mad different stances around different things, eg in our house if you weren't offered something you didn't ask for it. I know people who'd straight out ask, butbeing pushy whereas I'm trying to get my kids somewhere into the middle