Ettiquette question (very trivial)

[PelicanPuffin]

Name changed as it's so trivial and not the sort of thing I normally post.

When I was at university a few years ago, I went to view a house with a view to potentially moving in the following year. I had seen it advertised by two girls who I didn't know, and was met by the one I had spoken to on the phone when I arrived.

It wasn't something I thought about at the time, but she was wearing a beanie hat over her hair. Something reminded me of her today and it got me thinking whether it was slightly rude? If it was, I'm not bothered, just curious as to what others might think.

What kind of 1950s bullshit is this? As if this is even still enough in your mind to name change and start a new thread about, get a grip!

That is one convention I've never come across.

Mind you, if you were a man it would have been rude to leave your hat on indoors? Was she a man?

Are you alright?

It was very rude. Surprised you had to ask really.

Is that the only person you’ve seen wearing a beanie inside? When I was at uni it was practically the uniform.

I love the distraction of a post like this. I wouldn’t think wearing a beanie inside your own home was rude. I worse a beanie in my house just last week to cover up the awful bleach job my dh has done on my hair!

Trivial?

You are not fucking kidding!

I resent the two seconds it took to read that shite.

It's just one of these things that randomly sprang to mind. I've occasionally wondered what happened to those girls, which is perhaps why it's stuck in my head.

In the 1970's, my very proper great aunt used to leave her hat on to eat her Sunday lunch in the restaurant (but would have removed her coat and her white gloves, of course).

If you went to church, women would leave their hats on and men would remove them.

So, if you are applying traditional rules of etiquette, I think that it is OK for women to have hats on inside but men should remove them.

If the popular song is to believed, it was fine for a lady to leave her hat on during sex as well.

I sometimes wear my pompom hat in bed -I must be the lowest of the low! lol!!

I think it would be considered rude not to remove a hat when inside yes

Crikey, I'm all for good manners but I thought that was left in the 1800s or something lol! Really?! Also OP, why is it still on your mind so many years later? In the words of Frozen, let it goooo man!

@onesmalldog I know someone who does this! 😂

Anniethehalfoprhan

Yes, I don't know how it happens. I grew up dreaming of being Farrah Fawcett-Majors and ended up like Benny off Crossroads!!

Not rude for her to retain her headwear.

I would, however, assume that the house was Baltic or that she had lice and on that basis daintily skipped back down the garden path...

Etinox 🤣🤣🤣

As others have said, you are confusing the sexes. Perhaps she was cold. Was the place even centrally heated? They weren’t when I was a student.

Anecdotally, my fil has been wearing a cap indoors for well over a decade now. He doesn’t come to my house anymore but I used to find it incredibly rude that he would sit down to dinner in it in my house. It’s part of a pattern of disrespectful behaviour rather than the one incident, which pissed me off.

I've occasionally wondered what happened to those girls

I expect they spiralled into a life of crime, what with the glaring red flags signified by wearing a beanie hat indoors. It's one of the classic signs you know.

Growing up, I always thought that "rule" applied only to men/boys, but maybe that was because they were more likely to wear hats, when I was young. Honestly, I never understood why it would be considered rude and thought it was rather a stupid, pointless thing to be bothered by.

I still do, in fact.

On a serious note - have you thought maybe she had an issue with her head or hair? Alopecia for example? Last year I wore hats alot - not because I wanted to but I was growing out grey roots and it looked awful.

Student house? Beanie? Someone who you don’t know from Adam? - what’s weird? You weren’t dignitary visiting Claridges ffs.

It’s not rude op no. Wearing an Alice band however is in fact rude. Everyone knows these should only be worn outside the home and certainly not when meeting guests.

I hate social etiquette sometimes, because if it's something someone did by mistake, or they didnt know about it, how can people get so het up over it?

Hang on...

A woman you met once, years ago, was wearing a hat in her own home, and you're still thinking about it?

Jesus H Christ, lockdown really is freeing up brain-space for some people isn't it?

It’s part of a pattern of disrespectful behaviour rather than the one incident, which pissed me off.

Mummyoflittledragon you just defended the person wearing the hat but then said your relative wearing a hat pissed you off? Did he spit in your food or something?