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To expect DH to replace the carpet he has destroyed

258 replies

Roostersmum2 · 21/05/2020 00:12

I say carpet, it's a large rug but covers most of the living room. I paid £200 for it as a treat to myself two years ago on my birthday as I spotted it and fell in love. It's a bit of a boring thing to buy on your birthday but hey.

I asked DH to give it a deep clean the other day and he reluctantly did. (Whole other thread). I went to bed only to get up and find him asleep on it the next morning having fallen asleep whilst playing the xbox.

He didn't air the carpet properly or open windows, instead he laid straight down on a wet carpet it to play his stupid game before falling asleep on it.

I've been smelling a "wet dog" odour all day and have discovered that it's the carpet which has developed mould/mildew due to not being aired properly and being smothered by him when wet.

He's not happy to be told he's now responsible for replacing it and thinks it was a good gesture of him to clean it in the first place...

Who's unreasonable?

OP posts:
Ninkanink · 21/05/2020 14:10

Just before you start cleaning - use the vinegar or the soda. Not both together. Unless you want soda paste, which will be a bugger to get out.

grumpyorange · 21/05/2020 14:10

Wow biggest overreaction ever.

It will not be smelly or mouldy test just hang it out in the sunshine 🙄🙄

Ninkanink · 21/05/2020 14:11

Another one who hasn’t bothered to RTFT and therefore has nothing of any value to contribute. 🙄🙄

grumpyorange · 21/05/2020 14:16

@Ninkanink OP stated she has a balcony. Even if the whole rug doesn't fit you simply put outside what does and the swap it throughout the day. It's not difficult and can very easily be done with a couple of chairs

Durgasarrow · 21/05/2020 14:27

Lying on a wet carpet sounds weird

Original poster
Roostersmum2 · 21/05/2020 14:30

Lying on a wet carpet is weird isn't it.

He's back with distilled vinegar and bicarb. Going to spray it with the vinegar and see whether that works. I won't be using both together.

The bicarb is for when it's totally dry incase it smells of vinegar.

Oh god this is all a bit cringe isn't it Blush

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Ultrasoft · 21/05/2020 14:38

I'm still not sure how this happened. I mean you don't air a fitted carpet outdoors after cleaning and you'd think now would be as good a time as any for it to dry, sleeping man or not.

I hope you find a way forward OP

Original poster
Roostersmum2 · 21/05/2020 14:45

I'm equally as confused. I've ran a rug doctor over it many of times and this has never happened because I take care when cleaning it.

I can only assume he used far too much water and didn't blot it afterwards.

If damp clothes were left in a pile they would go musty and develop mould, so I concluded that him laying on and sleeping on the carpet when wet has caused the damp? I might be wrong, I don't know.

He 'cleaned it' on Monday night so it has been a progressive thing, the smell didn't become clear until last night.

All I know is the carpet smelt fine and now the living room smells like we have 5 cats.

Hopefully the vinegar works.

OP posts:
LIZS · 21/05/2020 15:01

Presumably you never check the underside when you rug doctor it so would not know what it looks like normally. Is it carpet or hard floor underneath, could that be damp still? If you do not have access to drying it properly in fresh air maybe stick to a dry shampoo like Vanish in future.

Original poster
Roostersmum2 · 21/05/2020 15:13

We have hard wood underneath, it's newly fitted it has only been in the flat since the new year so the problem isn't the floor.

I don't examine the underneath when I use a rug doctor no but I regularly told the carpet over so I can sweep underneath and have never noticed any spores before.

The vinegar is on now anyway so we'll see how it goes.

OP posts:
lyralalala · 21/05/2020 15:24

It’s not necessarily that he didn’t blot it, it’ll just be that the rug doctor actively sucks more water out of the rug

Bit like when you wring out wet clothes by hand it’s never quite as effective as the washing machine spin

Wet dog smell is quite common a few days after cleaning a carpet

lyralalala · 21/05/2020 15:26

Pressed send too soon. If mould is already growing then I bet you something has been spilled on it

Ultrasoft · 21/05/2020 15:32

It's only been down 4/5 months and has been shampooed several times? Blimey MN makes me feel slovenly..... again

LolaDarkdestroyer · 21/05/2020 15:37

You've posted this before

TheNoodlesIncident · 21/05/2020 17:13

lyralalala is right, carpet cleaners extract a lot of the water they use back into the machine, so the surface cleaned ends up a lot drier than if you had cleaned it by hand. We got this for our carpets and sofa arms, it's really very effective and the detergents smell good too. Our cat had peed on our living room carpet when she was a kitten and all my efforts to neutralise it didn't work. But this has done the trick (and sorted out the sofa arms as well, the other sofa coverings can go in the washing machine but the arms can't) and it was well worth getting if you have to use a carpet cleaner regularly. Obviously if you get rid of your useless and incredibly annoying husband - and I really think you should, you'll be so much happier - you won't have the shoes on the rug problem, but with pram wheels and young children it's definitely still worth it.

I hope you kick this irritating man into touch. I don't know how you've had the patience to bear him for this long, but I'd have relaid the patio by now.

SunflowerSeedsForever · 21/05/2020 17:23

Put it out in the sun- job done

JingsMahBucket · 21/05/2020 21:11

@Roostersmum2 while you’re waiting for the vinegar to work, I would tell him to pack his stuff and go.

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Roostersmum2 · 21/05/2020 23:47

He's at work now, I'm going to have the talk on Saturday when he's off so there can be no excuses.

The musty smell has reduced ever so slightly but it reaks of vinegar now which is just as bad. I checked before applying and read that the vinegar smell will vanish when it's dry, well it's dry and it certainly hasn't gone away.

I'm going to try bicarbonate of soda tomorrow and if that doesn't work then it's going to be thrown out.

OP posts:
LunchBoxPolice · 22/05/2020 00:21

Put it out in the sun- job done
Yes OP, why haven’t you thought of this? Grin Hmm

Catmaiden · 22/05/2020 01:02

If you are who I think you are (the utterly useless , football and gaming obsessed H and your recent birth injury prolapses 😢 and older child with ASD 😢are quite specific )

He was gone, out! You had got rid! He was not in your flat any more. Why is the useless , rapey, abusive cunt back inside your home?

Catmaiden · 22/05/2020 01:03

Oh, and add unfaithful, as well, to the list

mathanxiety · 22/05/2020 05:45

Are you not able to take the rug outside, @Roostersmum2?

It needs to be aired and to get sun on it. Otherwise you will be left with a vinegar smell, and also the varnish on your wood floor is going to whiten and be ruined thanks to having a damp rug on it for this long.

The rug really, really needs to be taken off the floor so it can be air dried.

feelingfragile · 22/05/2020 06:49

Put the rug outside.
Put it in the sun.
Air the rug.
Cancel the cheque.

RTFT

GrinGrinGrin

mathanxiety · 22/05/2020 06:57

Yes, get rid of the awful man, but that goes without saying.

The OP cares much more about her rug, and she definitely should.

MsTSwift · 22/05/2020 07:13

Marriage over you sound as if you detest him (with good reason) so there’s no point.

Buying a rug any part of which is white with young children in the house is frankly insane